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I thought it would be a good thread also. Being a supporter, I know from experience when PTSD symptoms are at it's highest that's when we ad supporters get confused or hurt and start asking questions at the most inappropriate time. Some supporters like myself have sufferers that struggle...

@Snowflakes I'm the same way. I miss him and it's my temerment and personality to be with him. It's who I am and he's a part of me. I enjoy and miss that togetherness also. Sometimes it feels like grieving a death but I've learned that when he's in a PTSD episode, it steals him away from me...

Okay, maybe I can help you out on this one. I am a supporter and I am also a supervisor over 40 employees. I too am the mother hem. I love each one of my employees and try to always be fair. As a supervisor I am usually the one that knows what's personally going on in each employees life...

As a supporter, I have come to realize there is not a lot of information for those who support someone with PTSD. As with most sufferers, they tend to avoid and numb when PTSD triggers overload their ability to communicate (especially to the ones they love). So I thought it would be...

Hmmm. I'm a little different. The way I see it is that he's tracing out. That pull and push thing that PTSD does when it overloads the brain and emotions. Every time he texts something negative, I would reply with "I'm sorry you feel that way". It validates his feelings but doesn't allow...

Yes. My son. Same issues. Call the military help line. They will give you advice. She's going to have to give him some tough love and stand her ground for him to get help. It's a fine line to walk. My son went through rehab at the VS twice. Is now off all meds, has a PTSD device dog...

Welcome. You will find a lot of people here that have had journeys similar to yours and who can help. I am a supporter of a man with a similar childhood as yours. He was also fearful of psychiatry but hit rock bottom and was at the point that he would try anything. It took 6 weeks to...

I've just learned to just be me and let him be him. I refuse to fight, acknowledge or allow PTSD to steal my joy. Music? That's what ear buds are for lol. If he's having an episode of withdrawal I just let him know that I'm there for him but let him have his space and then do whatever it is...

Welcome!!!! What do you personally struggle with by being a supporter?

I misunderstood the question. Very seldom does he talk about these things when he's NORA symptomatic. I think he's finally out of the darkness that it's the last thing he wants to talk about.

He barely talks at all when he's symptomatic. He may say 4 sentences the whole day. But I find ways to keep upbeat. I find my own thing that keeps me happy because if I'm misserabe it shows no matter how hard I try. He sees it and it makes it worse. So I'll send him a funny meme or...

My husband is a horrible communicator, even when PTSD isn't roaring it's ugly head but when it does, it's even worse. Her a quiet guy my nature and that doesn't help. It's so hard when there is nothing you can do to save them from the fight within. It's hard being ignored, feeling isolated...

Oh and my husband DOES NOT talk about his trauma and I don't ask. I never ever ask him about his therapy appts. . . . NEVER. I want him to feel safe. If he wants to share, I listen but I never ask and he appreciates that

My husband is in therapy and has been for 3 years now and has gotten better BUT things can go so beautifully that I almost forget he has PTSD and suddenly something triggers him and it's like getting sucker punched in the face without warning and I'm left CONFUSED, heart broken, fearful . . ...

Please don't think that a lot of supporters are more patient and less needy than you. Most of us have been doing this so long that we've learned from our mistakes, had many therapy appts. and people in our lives that have helped us a lo g the way. I believe we have all been where you are at...

For me personally there is a time and place that I speak openly, honestly and carefully about my feelings, my frustrations, conversely, anger, etc. Sometimes I hold them til the time is right . . . Until I know he is in a place where he will listen and communicate. I no longer argue, discuss...

First off you need to decide what you are willing to deal with. PTSD is an intruder that will raise its ugly head at any given moment or time. This will always be a part of his life and your if you choose to stay in this relationship. You will never be able to "fix" him and he will never be...

I'm telling you straight up that you would benefit going to see a counselor that specializes in PTSD. I was a supporter for years and everyone told me that I needed to see my own counselor. My thought was always "I'm not the one with PTSD" but things go so bad and I was falling apart so...

So many of us think strong is holding it all in, putting on a brave face and smiling on the outside but I have learned that real strength is admitting we need help, that we dont have all the answers and we reach out to those that can help us. So be strong my friend. Go seek out the help you...

Oh, and stop being so hard on yourself. PTSD is not easy to live with and live next to. Your relationship is fairly new and you will make mistakes along the way. When she's out of her episode and she's willing and able to talk ask het what she needs when she gets withdrawn. Take a deep...

First of all I can actually feel your pain, confusion, heartache, panic etc flowing out of your written words and my heart feels your pain because I know exacly how you feel. This is the best way I can describe my personal experience and my personal mistakes supporting and loving one with PTSD...

Just remember one thing . . . No one with a mental illness chooses it!!! So stop blaming yourself. It's not your fault. Mental illness is not a choice but recovery is. There are a lot of people here that will listen if you need to just get things off your chest or will give advice if you ask...

My husband felt the same way as you for years and I always knew something wasn't quite right. I knew he had a horific childhood but did didn't understand since I had an awesome childhood. As time went on and the stresses of life got more difficult (raising 3 kids) I began to notice he was...

I feel your pain, confusion, anxiety and fear. I've been down this road many times. To many times to even mention. My husband who suffers from PTSD will suddenly tell me out of the blue that he wants a divorce (and we've been married for years). It's usually when he's overwhelmed by stress...

As one who supports a husband with PTSD, I just want to tell you that I think you are doing an awesome job!!! You didn't choose this. Nobody would choose this!!! But allowing yourself to be vulnerable and communicate the best way you know how is awesome! Being a supporter it hurts me more...