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The talks about the trauma were not that recent. She has been through hell. I have no doubt about that. I didn’t walk away from my commitment to her. She just cut me off.

It’s not a question of being a victim. It’s a question of two adjusts being able to have a conversation about a misunderstanding. Being pushed and pulled takes a toll. It would on anyone.

Had there been some form of communication or explanation of the issue then I could have. But it went from asking for my trust and loyalty one week to complete shut down the next. I sat and listened. I listened to her pain of her trauma. I really did. There are thousands of messages of love...

Don’t understand how someone simply discards someone they described as their soul mate and the person that gave them more love than they had in their entire life. But apparently that’s what people can do.

Silent treatment is cruel and abusive. My ex partner has no insight into what she has done. Unfortunately the couple of people in her life from whom she doesn’t isolate simply enable the same behaviour. Her friend said she had no idea what happened in our relationship. Well maybe she should...

Thanks. Think I stepped on every rake

Thank you. If only she could look into my heart and know what they both mean to me and how I would have always been there for them both. She took comfort when I said that to her before she just shut me out. Work has been really tough. I deal with some very difficult people and it and...

God I miss her though

Thank you to everyone who has posted here. Have understood my failings with things. Trying to communicate with someone who is not capable of communication in the moment was a mistake.

Just not allowed to voice to her that I am hurt. Just extraordinary that the Yeah but just not allowed to express it. Had to be there showing my commitment, reassuring her when she was insecure. She said she got on her knees and thanked God for meeting me and then just cuts me off cold...

We’ll it’s certainly not logical against how things had been to that point. I’d had some fairly significant stressors which had said I wanted to sit down and talk to her about. They were work things that had taken a toll. But genuinely thought was in a relationship with someone where we could...

Thanks. She didn’t (in me) have someone who was not willing to sit down and talk about issues, triggers etc. understand life can get challenging at times. Running at the first perceived hurdle after how things had otherwise been does cut to the core. Doubly so when asked for my own reassurance...

Some of my words were no doubt triggering. As someone who has lived through trauma myself I don’t ever underestimate how major trauma can impact on people for a very long time if not forever. Appreciate this is a community trying to support those who are living through major trauma. I have...

though to be fair you joined this forum in 2012 and don't seem to have moved on.

fair enough comment.

She has blocked me completely. That wasn't the final trigger that ended our relationship. It was her daughter's birthday last week. Two weeks before (valentine's day weekend) her daughter was unwell and we didn't get to see each other. I knew she was dealing with a lot of stuff that she...

ok thanks.

two weeks before we had been at an event and she posted a pic of her and her daughter on facebook and tagged me in it. I had my facebook set so that I had to accept posts from others before appearing on my own page. I hadn't seen the tag. I had seen her post on her page but didn't realise it...

5 months. we became very close in that time.

I was recently blindsided by sudden dumping by a partner who has been through a lot of trauma in life. She is magnificent, with a beautiful daughter I adored. We grew very close and were open with each other about past experiences. Her trauma included her father being shot by her grandfather...