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Your story sounds so much like mine. We've been on and off for the last 3 years. My veteran started therapy at the end of July this year and we broke up again bc he wanted to start therapy alone. He has avoided seeing our mutual friends; he only sees a few of his military buddies and otherwise...

You read that wrong/or I worded it wrong... I meant he said he brings nothing to the table at therapy but is still going weekly. This whole post is about denial... I don't think therapy has a time limit everyone is different

Thank you for your reply that makes a lot of sense. We are now broken up (for our 3rd time) since July when he started therapy. We talk here and there but most of the time has been cold. Today he's being okay. His biggest thing was the privacy thing, keeping our business to ourselves, and I...

We chatted today. He said it's fine that I confide in mutual friends but he doesn't like when I reach out to his friends that I don't know (not mutual friends)... I met his God daughter before and his god daughters mother had commented on a Facebook post saying she would love to see uncle F... I...

We would hope not but it seems as if no matter what we do in attempt to make the situation/circumstances easier for ourselves/our hearts/our minds and for them too... it's never the right thing to them. Some of us are okay with bottling things and others need outside support, we are all...

Sometimes I think I'm crazy because I'm trusting my gut that we will somehow get through this, I don't feel like things are over, but then I second guess myself and think maybe I am in denial myself and need to just accept that it's over and he chose separation once again... you are right I...

....also he's said twice to me that he brings nothing to the table at therapy except ME. Then why does he still go? 2-3 weeks in and he said it was Boring... yet 4 months later he still goes weekly. The fact he says he doesn't want people to know and can't trust me makes it seem like he wants me...

Honestly I think it's a collection of many things... therapy, which I know is also digging up his fathers death which is huge to him... plus our 3rd breakup, (2nd since official diagnosis) and he told me he's going back to school in the spring which was always a huge stressor to him) I think he...

He does not hit me literally. He had been cold to push me away and says things I know he doesn't mean.

Which would explain why he still uses me as a punching bag?

Hello friends :) I haven't posted on here in over a month. I've been trying to focus on myself and loving my sufferer from afar. It been four months since his breakdown and him starting therapy. Our few interactions he's been cold, bitter and pointing fingers at me for his...

I understand. I feel like he isolates for so long now bc he was 1.5 years into the relationship before being officially diagnosed. He did not want to accept treatment or believe he needed it until he finally had a breakdown this July. He is very reserved and keeps things to himself and bottles...

Thanks for your comment. Just to clear this up, we broke up for 3 weeks about 6 months into the relationship. Then went about a year strong with an isolation in July. Then around September/October another isolation which was when he was diagnosed with PTSD and we broke up for 6 months. Again...

What is the longest you've ever isolated? Have you ever had a "long isolation/breakup" then tried things again? How did it work out? How was starting therapy for the first time? Were you in a relationship then? Any advice is appreciated, I haven't posted in a while. My veteran broke up with me...

Thanks everyone. I have to say that many times I've read responses lately and it's hard for me to respond back. It's like I'm not ready to or I can't find the right words at the moment, so I put my phone away and try another time. My heart is shattered. I've always thought he was the one for me...

Yes after our 6 month break we talked about everything we wanted to fix in our relationship. We focused on ourselves as individuals and as a couple and did things like hiking (which is normal for us) but we wanted to find "inner peace" and not put so much effort into our friends. So much of our...

I would try posting your story on a new thread, I think you will get the responses you are looking for there.

https://www.myptsd.com/threads/help-me-understand-why-i-am-a-trigger.41420/#post-672881 It totally did cheer me up :) at least that link gave me some clarity and shed light on the start of therapy. I knew it was going to be hard, and a long road. It's going to be a long time before he's ready to...

Help Me Understand Why I Am A Trigger I was searching through old threads and came across this one that helped me understand a lot of whats going on with my sufferer and why he blames me for his symptoms. This is so tough. I feel like 6 months apart was hard enough, now I have to let him go...

@MonkeeMoo that's great to hear! :)

@Twinkles28 - My veteran came back to me in April after 6 months apart. We are now separated again. We felt "at home" when we started talking again, agreed to take things slowly. Detachment and isolation crept in around July, he had a breakdown (first time) and we started backspiraling again...

I took a little road trip to Lake George and went camping and kayaking, trying to shake my anxiety, shift my focus on myself and clear my mind. I started reading a book near the camp fire and realized my head stopped spinning when I engulfed myself in the story. Baby steps, day by day. Thank you...

My veteran told me "it's you that brings out the negativity in me, not PTSD, it's annoying how you always bring it up" and then said the only thing he's learned in the month of therapy is that I am a huge contributor to his anger, anxiety and depression. I know the months leading up to his...

That was a great way for me to wake up. Thanks for your kind words. I had my first panic attack at work yesterday out of no where that lasted an entire hour, I almost brought myself to the ER. My heart was racing and I felt like I as going to pass out. I realize that I need to continue to take...

So true. Thanks for all your advice, it's appreciated.