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Endure, Give him the space he needs and if/when he does contact you (and my guess is that he will once you've stopped trying) tell him you want to be there to support him. I told mine the same (except we didn't really break up), it's kind of a weird situation to be in, but I know he's not...

How's everyone doing today? Still no word from my vet, its been over 3 weeks. I'm hoping to hear from him soon, but not counting on it. I just hope he cares enough to say hello and that he's doing alright. Being in the dark is hard.

Very true, I will keep this in mind. Thank you :)

Oh okay, so then the sexting does not bother you because you understand why she needs to do it. Well then I'd say focus on yourself and let her do the same. Good luck. Joanna

Thanks everyone for your words. I saw my therapist last night and she told me it was best to leave him alone for a while and that he knew how to get a hold of me when he is ready. She said to leave it up to him because anything else would stress him out in such a difficult time. And she also...

Chris, That's a tough spot to be in, and I'm so sorry you're hurting. I've been through ups and downs with my veteran and it does take a strong person to join the roller coaster ride and support them through everything. I think if this was an issue for us, I couldn't do it. It's hard enough as...

A friend of mine works in mental illness and as I was sharing my issues with her. She mentioned that the dates of our breakups were in October... I said yes and that's when school starts. I'm not sure if there is something else that possibly happened around October, but she made a valid point...

Thank you Vandya and you are right. I want to do whatever is best for him right now.

I apologize, 9/2015***** I do want to set those boundaries but since therapy is SO SO SO brand new I don't want to push more and push him away. I kind of want to let things settle before we have "that talk". He can't handle relationship stuff because he can't even understand himself right now...

My boyfriend of 2.5 years had a breakdown on 7/17/16, I have never seen him like that before. He was diagnosed with PTSD in 9/2016, we broke up for 6 months and got back together, only to see his symptoms to progress worse. In a way, I know he needed to hit rock bottom to finally get help. He...

I'd say as hard as it is, just to give him space. It's hard not to be selfish but being in our shoes takes a strong woman, so you have to learn to be selfless and patient. I am still trying to learn it myself and although I have a lot of bad days... all my thoughts bring me back to one fact - I...

Ashleigh, I totally understand and I'm going through the same. I looked into support groups myself.... I am happy with this website knowing that I'm not alone, but I'm hesitant about support groups because I talked about it with my therapist and she doesn't think the ones I looked into would...

Felicia - I know right? Are we all dating the same man? It's crazy how much I relate to your stories. I see these were posted years ago and I'm not sure if any of you will respond, but can you update us on how things are going now? Any success stories? MY VET started therapy last week and he...

Well you hit that right on the button. I like to think those good times show who he really is and that's what makes me stay. Its been 2 weeks since his breakdown and I wonder how long this time will last..... :/

Endure, Yes we did have some contact. At the time, we had just started a college class together. I gave him the cold shoulder sometimes, and other times I didn't. He was my lab partner so we needed to talk. He would walk me to my car sometimes, and sometimes he wouldn't. I remember I hurt my...

I would "like" this post a thousand times if I could. Thank you for sharing your story. Sounds very similar to mine as well, many people just don't understand why I love him enough to stay. When things are going well, I can look at him and think "I can spend the rest of my life with this man"...

We are not broken up we are just putting the relationship aside and I'm giving him space. It is actually a bit easier for me than in the past because now I know that this has nothing to do with me, this is a battle within himself. I have also started therapy to help cope (she specializes in...

I am so sorry I didn't respond to you sooner, I have not been on the site but I will be more mindful to check in. I read the part where you said you broke up the same time as the year before...... that has also happened to us as well? We broke up October 2014 for 3 weeks (our first break up) and...

Thanks UniqueSunflower, we put our relationship aside, he needs to focus on recovery and he wanted to initiate the start of therapy alone so I am just focusing on myself for the time being.

Justmehere: Just an update, we did get back together 6 months later (back in April). Things were good for a while and he started having symptoms again, and we haven't been in contact much the last week or so. He finally started therapy yesterday which was a HUGE step and I hope therapy really...

I can't help to be paranoid and bring up the negative thought: Is this PTSD or does he really not see a future with me? My boyfriend and I are on and off for 2.5 years, he is the sufferer and I'm the supporter. He was diagnosed with PTSD 9/2015 and we broke up shortly after. That was our...

Pretty sure he's not coming back. I stopped over to grab some things from his house, all my things were packed away for me, he changed his room around, took our picture frame down - I said "you really wanted me gone huh?" And he said "I was expecting you to come last weekend"..... I tried to...

Well thank you :) I'm trying my best to hold it together. Haven't talked to him since class last Wednesday. Busy weekend moving. I will see him in class tonight. I keep telling myself that I'm only giving it until the holidays and if there is no reconciliation, I am completely letting go.

Yes thank you for replying too. There's a sense of comfort when you are suffering with someone else, and being able to help others when you're in a bad place also makes you feel better. From what I've read and my own experiences with no communication (mostly on his behalf) I feel like the guilt...

I'm so sorry I didn't get back to you sooner! I have been moving into a new home about 30 minutes away and I'm exhausted! I'm sorry this happened to you and your child, how have you been holding up and has he contacted you? If he does decide to come back (which I think he will with some space) I...