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My UK Vet doesn't react well to Remembrance Day - second Sunday of November. Not because of fireworks (he's never told me about having a problem with them), but because he sometimes watches the war documentaries that are aired on TV, including the wars he participated in. He's told me before he...

Have we worked with the same people??? :roflmao: This video says it all. LOL I know exactly what you're talking about!:D Is suppose it probably is similar for him. Thanks for explaining.:) And sorry to hear your first post disappeared, I hate when that happens!:arghh;

First responders have a very stressful job and it is an area that could absolutely promote PTSD in its members. That being said, no one here is able to diagnose for you, but you will surely find some useful information if you read around. If you are hoping to talk directly to another first...

I don't think it's weird at all.

@The Albatross Why would some random Imam have any knowledge on the effect of Ramadan on PTSD? Technigirl was a supporter, they're on the outs right now - maybe forever, maybe not. Seems as good a place as any to post her question. I would imagine that hours of improper nutrition and having to...

I do believe this probably applies to him as well. It's not actually about the plant, but his inability to (maybe) keep it alive and seeing it as a physical manifestation of your own perceived uselessness. For the record, @Junebug you are not your plants! Even the most capable of farmers lose...

That's exactly right. I can empathize and sympathize and try to make concessions constantly, but at the end of the day, those of us who don't have PTSD will never fully understand. We just have to do the best we can to put ourselves in our loved one's shoes and make things easier on them. Yes...

@Tanishq you're sweet. :hug: Desparation causes people make bad decisions most of the time. I'm sure that's where that comes from, to want something so badly they decide it is worth the risk of losing everything than to stay in a position of wanting, though they may suffer for it later if/when...

It's way past my bedtime, so I'll reply properly tomorrow but I had to say: He hates his grass! He has said many times that he wants gravel instead! LOL!

@Tanishq I feel the same. I'd never try taking a risk like that. It would most likely turn into a case of out of sight, out of mind. LOL For every pearl of wisdom, there is another pearl stating the exact opposite.;)

I try to be understanding with Tater (the name I'll use for my vet from now on) and his inability/reluctance to do chores/enjoyable jobs which I find small and easy...but that's because I don't have to deal with his problems. I know they're big tasks for him. For example, I wish he'd get a dog...

@Sweetpea76 So you are still human??? :p I have only had one boundary issue with Tater so far (decided he needed a name, instead of guy or vet LOL), it was fairly small and he took it like a champ. As for not taking things personally, I think I am getting much better at that and you're right...

That all sounds very good. I hope you get the results you want. Make sure you let us know what happens Saturday.:) I've always wondered if absence still makes the heart grow fonder even when we're dealing with PTSD. Kinda seems like they'd take the feelings that come up from the absence and...

That was a dick thing to say and he did it on purpose to either tease or get a rise out of you! He knows this particular subject is a biggie to you, yet he jokes about it? I'm pissed off for you. I wouldn't go on the attack, wait until you've calmed down, but he would damn sure know not to do it...

You are so wise! :hug: I always await your response to a thread because they're always helpful. Out of all of us, you seem to have figured this thing out to the best of anyones ability. I envy you.:)

@sun seeker Someone's quite the psychoanalyst! LOL Yes, control is also a fault of mine that I have worked hard to correct. Used to have a real problem with authority like church elders and police. Nothing too outrageous, I was raised to be respectful so I'd hold my tongue, but once they we're...

Geez, you're absolutely right about the kid. He should have done it and perhaps his father could have helped - for free. He can't spare a few hours of his time? Sheesh! People are so selfish these days. I moved from a small apartment into my home 4 years ago and had just a few pieces of heavy...

Soley - I'll Drown If you look it up on Youtube, the "Live on KEXP" version is better than the album version, IMO. He's alone in his house out there, far, far away, he sleeps with his eyes open. He was so sad last night, in this house out there he took my hand and whispered. And life is so...

Wow @shimmerz , I hear what you're saying, and it does make a great deal of sense, but it would be so hard to say goodbye after an hour if he's still willing to keep going, when my own issue with the whole thing is that I want more. That's a very tough call. Definitely worth thinking about...

That is a wow! Hope things keep looking up. That's great!:D

What used to be a weekly occurrence, became a monthly thing about two months ago. His decision, not mine. In the midst of his overflowing cup, he wanted to take it off the table all together. After he started getting his head back together, but was still isolating a bit, I gently told him that...

I suppose he probably did have romantic feelings for you. That definitely throws a wrench into things. Even if he said he was fine with just being friends...I've said the same to my guy when it was clear he was melting down and on the verge of shutting me out completely. I didn't exactly mean it...

Aww, @Junebug it's really okay. I wasn't hurt at all by anything you said. :hug: Also, if I may...your sister is clearly the one with the problems, not you! She sounds extremely toxic and if you're at all able, you should try your best to stay away from her (as much as is possible in the same...

@Owlatwar This is slightly off topic, but the "food theft" reminded me of something. When I was a teen I worked in the deli department of a grocery store. At the end of the day, we'd be able to save some food that could be re-purposed (for example de-boning the rotisserie chickens that didn't...

No offence taken at all, @shimmerz . Junebug is exactly right with this: Very true. That's why I made sure to say there is a snowball's chance it would ever happen. I am looking at it from my own angle of wanting to get an unencumbered look inside his head, ever in the hope that I could do/be...