So I posted the other day that my guy said I love you to me and I was ecstatic because I am seeing pieces of the old him coming back, some slowly, some a little quicker now. On Wednesday, he got really sick at work and texted me that he was going home and would I come over. Of course I ran to the store to get all he needed and met him at his place. Within an hour I was feeling pretty bad myself so I know we had a virus. He was much sicker than me but do to his auto immune disease, that is usually the case. So he had asked me to text his mom. After a couple hours, when she hadn't responded I called her. She comes over and tells me I can go home, while he and I are laying in bed (in between puke runs to the bathroom). He was holding me and told his mom I wasn't leaving. Granted this man will be 47 next month. I told her what had been done for him and his what his dr had advised for me to do.
I was a little happy that he told me to stay even though she wanted me to leave. She's a little overbearing.
So later that day he and I were talking and he called me his girlfriend. I was screaming with joy inside, but didn't say much to him about because at that moment it wasn't really the ideal time to discuss what that meant.
I posted the other day that my feelings were hurt about not going to his family's 4th of July BBQ. So then he tells me his niece is having a birthday party for his dad this Sunday. I said nothing because if he wants me there, he will ask. I'm not adding stress to ask him if I can go. So this morning we got up and he had to take his son to work, I went home to walk our dog and he was bring breakfast and Starbucks over so we could hang out some before his son gets off. He was going to leave and the dog and I were at the front door to say good bye and he says "maybe you can come tomorrow, I'll text my niece about it". I was so happy and said "did you really just say that to me?" Because to me this would be a big deal. Especially since everyone in his family knows we are together in some capacity at this point. He then says he was talking to the dog. Of course my eyes filled with tears as much as I tried to hold them back. He said I will be around his family soon but not now. To an extent I get it, it's a family function for his dad's birthday. Nonetheless, it cut like a knife.
@itsKismet, you had perfectly explained this to me the other day and I know I should think of it in those term, but it hurts like hell. His family knows and likes me and wants him happy which I know they know I make him very happy. At this point, why would he still be uncomfortable with keeping me away?
As much as we have moved forward, I feel like this sets us so far back. I know it's him and not me and he needs to be ready, but at this point, I don't even want to hear from him for a few days. I've told him it hurts my feelings and I feel as if he's hiding me from his family, though thankfully, no longer from his friends.
I've got plans the rest of the day and I have put him on do not disturb on my phone so I'm not constantly jumping every time I hear a text come in.
Is this normal? I know I should think it is, but it still hurts. It's the constant push/pull but this time I want to push so far until my arms ache from pushing so hard. As he was driving home, just across the street in another neighborhood, I texted him to say it hurts my feelings, even though I do my best not to care.
I was a little happy that he told me to stay even though she wanted me to leave. She's a little overbearing.
So later that day he and I were talking and he called me his girlfriend. I was screaming with joy inside, but didn't say much to him about because at that moment it wasn't really the ideal time to discuss what that meant.
I posted the other day that my feelings were hurt about not going to his family's 4th of July BBQ. So then he tells me his niece is having a birthday party for his dad this Sunday. I said nothing because if he wants me there, he will ask. I'm not adding stress to ask him if I can go. So this morning we got up and he had to take his son to work, I went home to walk our dog and he was bring breakfast and Starbucks over so we could hang out some before his son gets off. He was going to leave and the dog and I were at the front door to say good bye and he says "maybe you can come tomorrow, I'll text my niece about it". I was so happy and said "did you really just say that to me?" Because to me this would be a big deal. Especially since everyone in his family knows we are together in some capacity at this point. He then says he was talking to the dog. Of course my eyes filled with tears as much as I tried to hold them back. He said I will be around his family soon but not now. To an extent I get it, it's a family function for his dad's birthday. Nonetheless, it cut like a knife.
@itsKismet, you had perfectly explained this to me the other day and I know I should think of it in those term, but it hurts like hell. His family knows and likes me and wants him happy which I know they know I make him very happy. At this point, why would he still be uncomfortable with keeping me away?
As much as we have moved forward, I feel like this sets us so far back. I know it's him and not me and he needs to be ready, but at this point, I don't even want to hear from him for a few days. I've told him it hurts my feelings and I feel as if he's hiding me from his family, though thankfully, no longer from his friends.
I've got plans the rest of the day and I have put him on do not disturb on my phone so I'm not constantly jumping every time I hear a text come in.
Is this normal? I know I should think it is, but it still hurts. It's the constant push/pull but this time I want to push so far until my arms ache from pushing so hard. As he was driving home, just across the street in another neighborhood, I texted him to say it hurts my feelings, even though I do my best not to care.
