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Welcome to the forum. I'm sure someone here will be able to giv you some guidance and we're all here to give you the support you need.:)

C7, I agree with what's been said so far. Deal with the things that are bothering you the most first. In my wife's vernacular they would be the things highest on her list of "f** upedness". You cann always go back to the other things later. One thing to remember though, there are no small...

That's exacly how I am. I have always felt that asking for help, even at work, when I know I absolutey need it shws that I'm not competent. I'm sorry I can't help you with this.

There is a lot of material here to help us, as supporters, get some idea as to what we're all dealing with. Just rmember to take your time. Don't try to go too fast, it"s a lot to deal with.

Wecome Cassidy, take your time learning the different forums. Soon you'll feel right at home amongst friends.

Welcome to the forum. I"ve found everything ladee saidto be 100% true. Thus truly is a wonderouus place, with people who really care and are more than happy to help others. As for a "quick guide" on the simplest ways to start the learning process is the "Supporters Video Series" at tha top of...

@Saelben and Riot, soooo very true.

@Catching_him , is he in therapy? if not is there someone who can help convince him he needs to be. You can't do that for him. he needs someone that has the training and experience working with PTSD to help him get through all of this.

@claire east, I'm quite aware of the extent abusers will go through to both keep you under their control and keep their secrets. My wife's abusers threatened to kill her and everyone she loved if she ever told what they did to her. For 17 years after they were done with her they kept up that...

Bubbbles215, I think what you are going through right now every supporter goes through at least once. It doesn't matter if you two have been together for a month, or like my wife and I for 35 years next month. One thing I can tell you is, if you choose to stay in this relationship, these times...

@Catching_him , yes it's OK, as long as you keep your guard up. Don't let him guilt you into a relationship neither of you are ready for.The rason I say guilt is because he is playing the "all alone in this world" an awful lot. Be careful and PLEASE take care of yourself and you heart.

@Clair east, I know that feeling. To this day my brother says I made it all up. I was only 7 years old, how could I have made up something like that? Hell, I didn't even know anything about sex before that happened. He also denies ever throwing me through a plate glass window when I told the T...

@ Claire east, I am sooo sorry you had to go through what you they did to you. When my brother used me for his sexual pleasures, and turned me over to his friend to do likewise, I thought there was something wrong with me. I was too young to understand what "gay" was, I just knew that I should...

Catching_him, I have to agree with Purplemunchkin, it might be that he just wanted to escape the reality of his world for a time. Lying is never OK. but there is a , possibility just didn't want to have to explain his actions. I could be wrong, maybe he was just being a jerk, but that is a...

Catching_him, No you don't have to be in a relstionship where you are supporting your spouse but your spouse won't, (and I emphasize won't) support you. PTSD is a horrid thing and damned hard to live with for both of you, but it doesn't give anyone, sufferer or supporter, a free ride. As messed...

@Riot, I'm really glad to hear you were able to put voice to what happened. It took a lot of courage to do that. It really doesn't surprise me that your T would react harshly to this type of news. My wife's T has a really big problem with her when she hurts herself. She has issues with feeling...

@Sweetpea76, I know why she says it. Her T, my T my wife and I all got together to talk about it once. I understand logically where these feelings come from. That doesn't stop them tearing me apart.. All I want to do is be there for her, help her find peace agian, and grow grossly old , (like...

As with all sufferers, my wife has good days; in fact there are many great days. But sometimes she has days that are so awfull. I don't always know just how bad her day was until several days later. She doesn't want to burden me with all her ups and downs, no matter how many times I tell her...

Oh Riot, I'm so sorry things are going so hard fo you righ now. As far as telling your T about it, you do whatever is the most comfortable for you right now. The last thing you need is to put any extra preasure on yourself. My thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself, Please! Riot, you are...

@Bloomy, You're right, this Forum is a fantastic place. The support I've gotten here over the years has often been a lifeline to sanity. Many thanks to Anthony and Nicolette.

@Ragdoll Circus, As a suppporter I wholeheartedly and completely agree with your sister here. It breaks my heart that there is nothing I can do to "fix" what happened to my wife. There are times, when she is having a really bad day, that we just sit together on the sofa in each others arms and...

@angrypanda, you're right, it is sad. Some people just don't know how to deal with a loved one when they're ill ad they can't see the illness or do anything about it.

@Bubbles215, All of our sufferers deserve that, every day.

Hi ssw, welcome to this forum. I'm sure you will find some very nice people here that would be more than happy to be friends, myself included. feel free toi message me anytime. We're all here to support each other.

I would like to wish everyone a Happy Valentines Day also. It is about the only holiday that does not send my wife into those dark places from her past.