Supporter Help Needed Please!!

[Colinpackham]

Hi everyone. I am a 52 year old man, who divorced 12 years ago. My ex managed to prevent me seeing my children until last year, by which time they were adults. Now I have discovered that my three lovely kids have been subject to the most horrible abuse (non sexual as far as I know).
Two of them are beginning treatment for complex PTSD and I want to give them the right support at this time. Things began to come out a year ago and I've never pressed them for details, just making clear I love them and listening when they've wanted to talk.
I would really welcome any advice anyone can give, on what helps the most. My son has tried to kill himself twice in the last few weeks, so I really want to be sure I get it right.

I need your help please!!

 

[ladee]

Welcome to the forums !!! I applaud your wanting to help your kids ! There is a section here for Supporters, and all sorts of information you can read. If you read the threads you will see a lot of CPTSD and can ask questions. This is the most supportive and validating place on the internet. Hope you find answers, but remember to take care of YOU too... this is complicated and sometimes we don't know what we are feeling, or know how to tell someone. It takes a lot of patience, understanding and education. My heart goes out to you and your kids. I hope this is a new beginning for all of you....

 

[The Albatross]

I have no experience with this, but others here do and some may come forward. Welcome and very glad you are looking into how to be a safe supporter!

 

[Sweetpea76]

Welcome, we have a great supporter section. There is lots of good advice there, and a great place for YOU to get support as well.

 

[Colinpackham]

Thank you ladee, it is a beginning and that's important! I appreciate your reply, it's hard when I don't have anyone to talk to about it...I will look after me, as a strong me will be essential I'm sure...

 

[Colinpackham]

It's 2:15am here and I've spent most of the evening looking for a site like this. So pleased I found it!

Thank you for your replies, and look forward to getting to know a few of you...

Colin

 

[Milo's papa]

Welcome to the forum. I"ve found everything ladee saidto be 100% true. Thus truly is a wonderouus place, with people who really care and are more than happy to help others.

As for a "quick guide" on the simplest ways to start the learning process is the "Supporters Video Series" at tha top of the Support Relationship section.

I"m proud of you for staking this first step tword a new llife for your family.

 

[The Albatross]

And on the main page there are many articles and an archive section about PTSD and various topics.

 

[Milo's papa]

There is a lot of material here to help us, as supporters, get some idea as to what we're all dealing with.

Just rmember to take your time. Don't try to go too fast, it"s a lot to deal with.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

Welcome to the forum mate, I am a sufferer/survivor of multiple abuses and a dad of six myself. If there is ever an occasion that I can help with advice or simply an ear to listen please just ask.

Laurence

 

[ladee]

You are very welcome... in all my years on this mud ball, I have yet to encounter the true feelings of others, as I have here. @Milo's papa said it all. Don't push yourself too hard. This is very complicated. But we are here for you any time. I'd have given anything if my dad, who I call the 'sperm donor' would have ever even thought of helping me, much less get involved in my pain. So it is a very loving thing you are investing in... please keep us updated.

 

[Seasounds]

Truly, welcome! You can count this to be a home for you, a spot to seek information, support, and find friends.

As you've noticed, we all have experience with different situations pertains to PTSD.

In addition to the Supporters Forum, feel free to write the Help Desk forum.

Take care!