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Raining here today. About 10c.

So sorry for your loss. Sending you support ❤️

Been to T & discussed it. He believes it follows a script of having to be perfect when I was younger or people died. I had to be perfectly honest, couldn’t act up in anyway. It’s mad, after that I felt the penny drop & actually moved on to dissociation. Didn’t want to talk about family at all...

I get sunburn in this kind of weather :laugh:

Going up to about 16c today, nice & sunny, dogs loving it in the garden. They are intermittently sunbathing. Its can't be often our temperatures are similar @blackemerald1 ? :)

This is true & something I really need to look at with my T. I agree with this as well. -- I've concluded I'm not going to tell them, at all. The real issue is me feeling as though I have to tell them & not to do so is 'treacherous'. Going to discuss it with T today. My Uncles mental...

That’s a fantastic post @Spotted Pardalote I’ve thought that I’ve had to tell everyone to live authentically, starting to see that isn’t strictly true. I’m not corrupted by having PTSD. The boundaries set will differs from person to person.

This post, in particulate this. So true. I’ve been guilty of being quite black & white with this. It’s either been brutal honesty or dishonesty.

I could relate to so much of your first post in this thread @Spotted Pardalote. Could have written it myself. It sickens me that the dishonest response thing is true, but it is. I don’t think the end result is brutal honesty either, it’s something like what @Freida said.

It’s the child part of me that thinks these thoughts, I just let them flow out when they come up. They clearly come up for a reason & I don’t know what that is. Having slept on it I think I need to discuss this with T. Definitely not going to tell them at the minute, doing it for all the wrong...

My thoughts were to tell my Aunties, uncles & Grandparents. To live more authentically, stop hiding myself. I would think that they would be supportive & just listen. That’s probably wishful thinking though. I mentioned to my Uncle that I want to move away at some point & he used it as...

This actually ties into my other post, even though I didn’t see it at the time. It appears that I’ve been looking at it pretty black & white. It’s not complete honesty vs hiding myself completely. Think there is a middle ground I need to find with this.

My Dad, girlfriend & her family do know about it. They’ve been completely fine with it. They have distance from the traumas & addiction issues though (Dad aside) I feel as though I have to. That may sound strange & I’m not sure why that is. I feel as though I’m lying to them by not telling them.

See - I’m tired of the facade, but I’m not sure if I’d be doing this for completely the right reason. Maybe part of me wants them to be welcoming, which certain members in my family have a bad history with doing. Shame is the thing I need to work on. I’d be lying if I said it wouldn’t really...

This actually makes a lot of sense. If I make a big deal of it, it will become a big deal. This is true. It would be good to deal with the underlying issue (shame).

Agreed @Kubash16 it would actually be really triggering if there were arguments etc. Going to keep it simple & think of the right way to tell family members.

Yeah the more I think about it, you guys are right, I don’t have to share it all. I’m not sure where it comes from, maybe I feel as though it’s not ‘enough’ unless I share it all. I think I’m gonna just go with witnessing my Moms death, leave the rest out. It’s the big thing that everyone...

I'm really glad this post has come up. Can really relate to it & it's good to not feel alone. This is a real struggle for me & has been for a long, long time. Currently trying to take the pressure off by not using should statements & beating myself up. Really hoping that it'll work & I'll be...

So, I have about 10 people who know about PTSD & more who know about my addiction through GA meetings, but my family don't know. For a long time, I've blamed them & myself, hid behind a facade of being ok. They know about some of the trauma, but they have no idea about the longest lasting...

I'm going to give this a go, it sounds like it would be good for me!

Thanks for the responses guys, I've bookmarked a couple of these posts, as they are fantastic & I most definitely will be using them. I stood up for myself on Thursday, with my Dad it was initially met with abhorrent rage & false accusations. I had my facts in order though, so after that it...

Thanks for the responses guys.. I agree with this. My problem has been me saying I’m fine with things that I’m not fine with because I’m terrified of the response if I say I’m not ok. In reality I shouldn’t be terrified, certainly not in the present moment. I don’t think this. I know I can’t...

Wow, even putting that down got my heart racing.. I have some serious work to do!

It would look like a respectful happiness.. I think. This makes me really nervous. One is teamwork around the house... feel as though it's all on me... It would look fair, but I feel bad about that. Another is being at the beck and call of my girlfriend & my Dad. They expect me to drop...

It's good to hear that you're doing better at it... helps to know someone else has felt the same! Go for it... I can certainly relate to this as well!