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SophieJo, We are all scared to disclose our suffering to anyone. Simply because we have kept it secret for so very long. One of my fears was that it might give my male T ideas. (Silly, I am old, grey and overweight.) My belief is that we can let out some of our suffering when the time is...

Macca's suggestion is a good one. But if the issue is abandonment, in whatever for that has been for you, you will really feel it in the now. Even when all the steps for separating from a T have been well done, it still is hard. This is a person who knows you very well. She has been support for...

Agoraphobic, shut down, SI, stalwart.

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Yes, Junebug. That is a very big thing to say and truely know. None of what caused the PTSD could possibly been your choice. You have also made a great leap of self acceptance and recognition of what was true. You were a devastated/crushed/broken girl. Now you are you, accepted just the way you...

Our daughter's boy friend, TM, came to stay with us one cold March night, a few years ago. Our daughter was still away at college. He came to us because he had no other place to go. He came broken and overwhelmed. His mother is an alcoholic, his father has advanced muscular sclerosis, his big...

What is a Landau response? What are Trauma reflexes? I am familiar with exagurated startling, and periferal vision hypervigilance.

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The day after Thanksgiving (USA), we found a lost small puppy, part chuhuawa(sp). I put him inside my scarf and coat to keep him warm. Then, the puppy and I went house to house in our neighborhood up and down hill, ringing every bell. No one knew where he was from. I walked about a mile and was...

Just ordered used Casual Vacancy. I am looking forward to a good read, 513 pages!

I love the ocean and its many 'moods'. As a child, I would go sit on the boulders that edged our bay. When the weather was really rough, I felt almost called out to witness it, almost to be at one with it in a Zen sort of way. I love the booming crash when large waves hit the rocks. I love rocks...

Yes, I believe this too. My H and I had moved 14 times in 16 years including going half way around the world to care for my mother-in-law. When we came back to the USA, we moved from the suburbs into New York City. I am not a city girl but needed to finish college. Last move was to here 20...

Nativia, thanks. You just lifted me today from lying face down in the mud of depression.

" YOU can learn to control those parts of your brain. You don't have to let the primitive parts of your brain control you. Not saying it's easy, but it's possible." scout86 It is enheartening to think that a person can actually gain control over the stress response from the amygdala. Could you...

Hi. I think you may be talking about dance therapy too. The Naropa Institute in Colorado teaches movement therapy. I was with a movement therapist for about a year. My helper/therapist was wonderful. I think I began to learn that it was safe/ not painful to be in my own body. I learned my...

Unforgivable Blame???? Only God is in a position to assess that. The truth from Him is total love not blame,never blame or shame. Reconciliation is only possible to the degree to which the other person is willing/able to be reconciled. By saying that, she is basically saying she will not...

Yeah, New Books!!!! I can hardly wait to get home so I can buy the books. @KP Thanks for all your time and research to choose Book Club books

Rants are good......they help clear the air even if there is some whiff of gas escaping behind you. If even thinking about leaving your home is too stressful, know that I understand. I have agoraphobic periods a lot of the time. I hope for you that these stressful times with people fighting...

Wow! DMerish! What a cool tree house. Your boys are quite talented.

I am pissed at myself for allowing myself to fall into depression again!!! I do know that there is a very good reason to be sad for a friend who is very close to me. Maybe, I'm just doing the old leveling trick- to cut off the highs and lows of feelings so I can cope with every day life. It...

Dear WillyKat, I think your wife has a good idea. Going on Disability will give you some freedom to do some of the trauma work without worrying about work. Therapy, for me, certainly was disabling and exhausting. It is worth doing. Eventually you really can get your life back. PTSD is more...

Oh,Brat.How dare anyone treat you so cruelly ! I am outraged! That is very close to criminal behavior. Does your insurance have an appeals process? Can another social service agency help. This is so mean!! I can certainly understand why you are so angry. I really dislike the feelings of...

Dearest Junebug, What a difficult time you are having!!! I know I would have collapsed if I had a sister who yells and behaves like yours does. You probably have reserves of self-protection built up over the years to be able to stand it for four days!! It sounds like she is playing you for...

Lisa, I think lots of us have suicidal thinking. Probably, not too many post their travails here. It is so hard to live with what we know about our own abuse. I really get it when people say 'It's just too hard to live this way.' and' I'm so tired.I don't want to go on.' The Happiness...