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were having so much bad news hear right now I have been getting almost immune to it but yesterday I read a story in the paper that just nearly had me crying on the spot which happened in America. A teenage muslim girl in Virginia was abducted and beaten to death on her way home from a...

I think everyone wonders how they would react in these situations..it seems nature hard wires us to do so and none is right or wrong I have this theory the runners are the ones who have to raise the alarm I think a lot of peoples lifes are saved by seeing people running away from danger and...

I am grateful I am beginning trauma therapy today I am grateful I have the oppurtuntiy and chances to beat this

I agree though the country has a long history of this sort of thing it seems if it was not this it would just be something else such is humanity ..I think the one thing that does set it apart a little though is just the sadism of the attack..its like a taste of Baghdad on are doorsteps. But...

I live in London the whole city is very traumatised and we have found out one of are colleagues was in the epicentre of the attack fortunately she was unharmed but it just brings it home that we all feel it could be any one of us now any time. any were any place

Thanks great advice especially about educating my self. I have hated this person today but i am trying to view her as a gift from the universe to bring in to my awareness something i needed to realise..like the saying goes the truth hurts and the more it hurts the bigger the problem it obviously...

Always grateful to learn about my self from people although for it to happen in a judgmental way is the hardest A colleague labled me as precious today which to be honest is not really something you want to be called..well its just another word for perfectionist ( an insulting one to )which I...

well I do find often what I do not want to hear is what I need to here the most. Without judging my self I can feel very victimised in these situations. I can also feel like I want to in someway hit self destruct and throw everything away I have worked hard for...a bit like oh I need the whole...

I am going through the biggest crisis I have had for a while. Its like so many things have hit me in many directions all at once. Father has fell very ill so back in touch with the family again and anticipating its all going to be tricky to manage as were not the most supportive of familys even...

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I am thinking hypothetically here...Having ptsd means that you end up gravitating towards and hanging out with other people with similair problems and as we dont choose who we fall in love with what happens then. How do such relationships work and can they work. I was thinking of the pros and...

I have been feeling very out of whack after the incident in Westminster..part of me feels guilty and foolish for being so reactive because it did not happen to me but part of me feels glad I have really faced up to some stuff around my mothers murder and some long held emotions have been let go of.

So it has been londons turn today...I was in work and the news was breaking..after a couple of hours of my own nervous system eating me alive I was in floods of tears in the staff lounge like it was me who it had happen to..i dont feel good about it..but it was just all so evocative of mothers...

I was having some feelings of commpassion towards my sister today who has been physically and mentally abusive to me through out are lifes...when i get like this i can feel the urge to go back..but i know i must not . it does not matter how much i am changing if there is no healing on there side...

this is part two...i found that so hard to write I had to take a break what i wanted to go on and write about was how I am going to help solve my bodys problems....First i will accept my broken body and love it unconditionally I will listen to what my body is telling me even the bad stuff I...

I watched a wonderful movie called frida about the life of Mexican artist frida Kahlo. There is a scene when she is 18 and a bus crash she is in wrecks her body. She managed to have some sort of a life but her body never fully recovered and she died at 47 from her injuries. At the end of the...

yes forgivness is a tricky one ..sometimes I feel like i should forgive like it will be some pill that will make me feel better and its so noble i will become some sort of buddah as a result...I am not against the concept but I still do not know how and in what form it could manifest for me as...

the detaching is going quite well its not easy though as she is trying her best to establish energetic cords I have just been having some flexible boundaries and being nice for getting the job done together there was a moment today I got sucked back in a little and she almost immediately went...

I really hear you..thats what I really wanted and I used to look for parent figures but this can be problematic as no one out there is perfect and you can end up feeling disappointed and abused again...I have learnt recently that if are real parents cant give me what I need the parent has to...

I read your post more carefully today. Being honest with myself I think what I needed in the relationship was to caretake and rescue ..I picked up quite quickly that she was is a lady with problems...my mother was also a lady with problems and we had a reversed adult child relationship

Exactly if someone is abusing you detach and walk away...although it may not be an overnight process if its someone you have been enmeshed with for a while..I am talking from my own experience when I say walking up to them and telling them to kiss your ass just makes you look like your the one...

bless your positivity and i absolutely agree in honouring the light in people ...its a tricky one as in my codepency i can have a need to rescue and care take people...i have had this many times from her and felt sorry for her and then she wants to abuse me again i dont know what she wants from...

yes emotional intelligence is very much a practice ...a lifelong practice..like any practice it gets better with practice.

trust me things can get better your going through the process. things do get worse before they get better..just do not lose touch with your feelings every one of them bad and good is teaching you about something

y yes and habit is the word..behaviour in relationships is very much habitual.