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I hear some real frustration in this thread about dealing with questioning others. Really, no one is ever required to answer any questions he or she feels uncomfortable answering. If the question is rude, just ignore it. Regarding a service dog, in particular, we are only required to tell an...

By the way.... I am really curious as to why some people don't want their service animals petted. I'm one of those who often asks to pet the dog. If you have time to answer, please PM me so we don't hijack the thread.

Even if her accusation was 100% right-on, her affect was way out of balance with the situation at hand. Given this, I would just ignore her. If she wants to make a fool of herself, let her. Witnesses will recognize her as unreasonable and out-of-control We are not required to take the...

I was abused as a child; that abuse led to DID and PTSD. I experienced a severe head injury in my late teens that caused permanent injury to the part of my frontal lobe that moderates affect; as a result, I have severe recurrent depressions that cannot be relieved by medication. Believe it or...

He wasn't truly dismissive but rather pragmatic. Having faced continuous suicidal ideation and a number of serious attempts over the years, I actually appreciated his stance and candor. If I were truly suicidal, I would commit to a safety contract - lie outright - and then go home to off...

One highly experienced therapist I've known for some thirty-plus years once told me that, despite all his best efforts, some of his clients committed suicide. He now realizes safety contracts - and even hospitalizations - cannot save a client if he is truly determined to end his life. Safety...

Kudos!

All the more reason to be cautious. Counseling professors are even more tempted than others to engage themselves in analyzing their students. This generally does not work to the student's advantage. Anecdote: My initial degrees were in psychology. I believed my professors and the doctoral-level...

Good point. I do better during the semester than while on vacation. Maybe now, while on vacation, my schedule is just too lax. Boy, do I relate! In general, I seem to need to make things as simple as possible. For instance, I have a number of identical pairs of pants and polo shirts that...

Parents abusing their children: physical, emotional, sexual. Makes me shake hard, and my heart rate sky rocket. Poverty is also a trigger, as money implies an ability to keep myse!f safe in many ways.

While I manage my depression pretty well, I sure have a hard time in the personal care department. Getting myself to shower/shave/brush/floss is really difficult. It's not a trigger issue but rather just feels like a task that's just too big for me to handle. Other tasks (like laundry, folding...

Work can be a wonderful distraction and so a blessing.

@Abstract - I so relate to your experiences with dissociation, above. I will do my best. I always mention that fact because people are always asking me how I healed and if I managed to heal alone. But, I will do my best not to mention it again on this thread. Could you do me a favor? Would...

I went through something like this initially. My signs and symptoms of trauma were unmistakable and yet I was unable to recall trauma. Over time, with the help of a therapist, I was able to recognize and name significant trauma. Turned out, part of the trouble was the 'naming' process, meaning...

That's exactly what I did as well. It was empowering to to work on my own, with the support of a skilled therapist in weekly sessions. While initially thrown by my DID diagnosis, I soon learned that there were definite advantages to knowing. Also, I actually came to appreciate my DID. I agree.

I'm so sorry you were attacked. You certainly did not deserve such a thing. There are good people here. I'm glad you found us! Blessings for a complete and speedy healing.

Yes, it sounds like you've been experiencing depersonalization and derealization - they are forms of dissociation. Dissociation is not a bad thing. It's just something some of us do when our stress level is over the top. Dissociation blunts the pain and helps us make it through the rough spots.

OH, am I ever big on distraction and self-soothing. Better than a hospital, anytime, and self-empowering.

Oh, I disagree. That's what this forum is for! We are all here to support each other when the going gets rough. No reason to be embarrassed. We've all been there - some, like me (LOL), over and over again. I'm just glad you're OK.

Yes, I also found the situation to be tricky. It was a hard road for me to walk. In a way, I was lucky, because I got 'forced' into rejecting my abusive family members (they got so nasty that escape was the only safe choice). We all need parents. It's ok to feel like you still need him. It...

I hope you read my posts as supportive - they were certainly intended to be supportive. If I unintentionally triggered you, I apologize. If it helps, I didn't interpret anyone's response here as indicating that you are misrepresenting your situation. It seems to me that everyone - including me...

Isolation has a paradoxical effect for many of us; in the short-term (in the very moment), isolation makes a person feel safer, but in the long-term (after a bit of isolation) the person often feels worse and more frightened. How are you doing on the Wellbutrin? I took it - and it did...

Hang in there, things really can get better! While waiting for therapy, do you have group therapy options? Sometimes, just being with others you can relate to makes a difference. One idea: I've found, regarding my serious depressions, that isolating at home makes me worse. When depressed, I...

Can I just add, for whatever its worth.... My Evil Grandfather hurt his wife and kids horribly. My parents didn't cut him off, but made sure we kids would never be alone with him. Guess what happened? My grandmother and aunt took care of me for a few days when I was an infant, and somehow Evil...

Bristol, there is plenty of good stuff waiting out there for you! I like what others have said about refocusing on the possible. There are so many ways to make a positive difference in this world! Regarding adopting, it's hard for me to accept that you'd be rejected because of your father...