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Hikes are a great way to socialize because, like movies, you have an excuse not to talk to people or pay attention to them. You can just enjoy the scenery and not seem too interested in socializing and I bet people won't think you're weird for doing so. Just walk a few steps apart from people...

Having a very hard time with regards to one relationship. I got anxious and started acting in the old self sabotaging manner just a bit odd and crass then before I know it I've efficiently created a distance between myself and someone I care about, and now its one of those nothing to say or do...

I'm still doing this. Frustrated. Mad at myself. Trying to be at peace with things. Worrying about how attempts at a career will help or hurt my chances at finding love even if I can allow myself to interact with someone somewhat romantically over time without becoming paranoid anxious and...

Well the first step is recognizing that it was just a coping strategy and not a reflection of who you are. If you tell yourself that every time you find yourself practicing self hatred it will take the edge off it.

I can see how that would be very unsettling, especially if the non abusive ex was actually a decent guy. Maybe its a sign that youre scared everyone is capable of being abusive?

Like someone already said, triggers are not stressers. Triggers are more specific. For example (this is hypothetical) someone could be triggered by smelling the cologne their rapist was wearing. I am triggered when a roommmate pulls into the driveway because it reminds me of my parents coming...

Theres nothing you can do. Let him go, and if he values your relationship, and is ready to have it in his life, he will remember you and remember that you meant something to him and realize he doesn't want to lose you. If he doesn't reach out to you, then you either weren't that important to...

I know I'm probably sounding like a broken record but f*ck is this hard, I think I just need to vent. Every job app leaves me stressed hopeless catastraphizing and down on myself, each one is like a review of all my mistakes in life. I've gotten fired from three jobs in my life. One was when I...

Ok, I'm being a smart alec, but slavery was indeed productive, that was the whole point! Immoral, detestable and such of course, but productive for sure. Also, I know it sucks to feel like no one understands your pain, its isolating and people say things that hurt and feel invalidating, I...

Yea, thats a weird comment on her part, not sure I understand it. She was probably just uncomfortable and didn't really know what to say. I'm not sure how to respond either. I mean, is life in general productive? Whats productive, working, making money, to spend on you and your loved ones? Not...

And thats why I dropped out of college. Sucks. I hope you stick with it, unlike what I did.

Thank you for the replies. I don't know what it is about this process that just makes me so stressed out but it is not enjoyable. Thank you so much for you kind words gizmo, they really touched me. It brings me fulfillment to know that I helped you in some way. I'm just feeling like such a f*ck...

Thanks guys, I appreciate your responses. It also kind of feels silly but THIS is what is most intimidating and stressful to me in life right now. I've done a lot of work in therapy about convincing myself to believe that some people will want to be friends or even be romantically involved with...

I have never been good at doing things like resumes, job applications, calling people to ask about jobs, etc, it all just freaks me out. Staring at my resume reminds me how many dead end jobs I've had. It reminds me I dropped out of college because I had too much anxiety to focus in class. It...

Its not a character judgement; she is not saying you are like him as a person, just that TO YOURSELF you have taken his place. Its normal actually, in many ways I took over the roles of my abusers because their abuse is what I was comfortable and familiar with, and when things get scary...

I think the most common reason is that they are having a hard enough time dealing with the PTSD, they don't have enough energy left over to deal with anything else that can produce anxiety. They don't actually want their partner to leave, they just want to put it on hold till their symptoms...

I think I get what youre saying, but i am not sure I completely agree. I pick up on a certain ability to notice wht good things you have because of ptsd, maybe after working through it you have self awareness and such, but its not like you couldnt of gotten there without it.

I think deep down my dad knows. I don't think my mother does, I think she has narcissistic personality disorder and will never admit anything, even to herself, but I think my dad knows.

NPR means National Public Radio. It's an American public radio station, relatively objective journalism with a definite liberal slant. I also meant to include this in my earlier post, but forgot to. Yes, my parents do the whole "but we did.... for you' thing, including 'fighting for me in...

I also want to add that triggers fear and uncomfortably don't go away on their own. They go away gradually as you face them and see that they aren't as scary as the traumatic events they remind you of. Martial arts seems like it could be a good safe way to confront things that make you...

Yep. I haven't had any contact with my mother for years but did reply to an email she sent this week because I felt I owed her that much for simply bringing me into the world. We sent a few back and forth with her lamenting and seeming befuddled by our lack of a relationship, then me explaining...

You don't have to tell people you have PTSD. You can just say, whoa hold on I am not comfortable with this can I just have a second? These are very intimate acts. Violent intimacy in a safe environment in some ways requires a lot more trust than sexual intimacy. I don't think anyone is going to...

This doesnt solve everything, but I am guessing the counters are higher with different chairs than the table? You could respond to co workers questions with a lie about back problems or something requiring a different seating position?

Bloom In Winter, I disagree. I do not think she was trolling. Whatever though, its not our problem is it. She probably wouldn't of let us help her anyways. Can't help everyone. I am proud of the way I behaved in response to her, and that is the most important thing to me.

Yes, I think she had a dislocated knee CAP and not a dislocated KNEE. A truly dislocated knee would be some of the most intense pain physical pain a person could possibly feel, and DOES involve a complete tear of every major associated ligament in the knee. It also causes an amount of...