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I could see being in a great deal of physical pain while being physically restrained by strangers to be very alarming, although I would be very surprised if it caused PTSD. I could see it could be triggering if she already had had some traumatic events in her life, especially childhood. Am I...

I was under the impression a dislocated knee, by definition, can only happen with a complete tear of EVERY major ligament in the knee, which is extremely unlikely, if not impossible, from a simple fall. I guess its possible, but that kind of physical trauma is usually reserved for high speed...

It doesn't have to be head on. Think of it more as a gradual thing. Just make a habit out of choosing to confront and deal with it, tiny bit by tiny bit. I can't really be more specific without knowing the nature of your trauma and resulting fear and anxiety but for me, which a history of...

You know, you guys really could of just taken her defensiveness with a grain of salt and been a bit more gentle to her. I understand she hit quite the nerve for many of us, but she clearly was not a sadistic person. Shes scared and confused and could of benefited greatly from our help if we...

Yea, she could of read all she wanted here without lying to us. People are so weird.

Sounds like her book is going to suck anyways, and like she needs all the help she can get as an author. Hahaha, but seriously, I understand not everyone feels this way, but I couldn't care less if someone here reads my posts who is interested in them as someone other than a sufferer or a...

I hope you don't kill yourself. This world needs more brave caring people, and it sounds like you are one. I am so sorry for what you have been through. Life is often lonely and people are often uncaring and cold. It sucks. feel free to message me any time. Personally, I would suggest using this...

Aww thanks. Not to make this thread all about me, but while I like giving advice to others, I often think I probably come off as a smug know it all prick. Its really nice to know I've helped someone, it makes me feel good.

You'll get there, I'm pretty sure about it. Don't be too hard on yourself about not getting it done quick enough. Life is short but its not THAT short. Like I said, just keep moving in the right direction.

Honestly, I have no idea, I've never met the man. I can tell you that I learned patterns of behavior at an extremely young age, designed to push people away from me as a means to cope with anxiety, and that these behaviors became compulsions over which I had little to no conscious control...

I wanted to add something to what I said before. Just take a step. Doesn't need to be a huge step, just keep taking steps in the right direction. Keep sharing a bit more and more and doing things that are a bit outside your comfort zone and it will get easier, eventually you'll get there. Just...

Its an anxiety disorder, and many behaviors are designed to keep anxiety limited to manageable levels.

Maybe first just try writing it down on a piece of paper, which you will show no one and promptly tear up or burn. Or maybe just saying it aloud to yourself when no one is home? It might be useful to also include something like, 'and someday I will share this when I am ready' If you can't do...

There are some serious legal issues with setting up a trap that could hurt someone, fyi. Motion sensors tied to an alarm system that then allow you to utilize a weapon such as a firearm are more legally protected, but I strongly recommend not setting up any kind of trap that could actually hurt...

That is clever. Now though, if there were some sort of intruder, I am not sure a messy room would stop him? You could get (a) dog(s) or weapons? If you're going to keep a weapon though, make sure you are capable of using it, both training wise and emotionally, because if not it becomes a...

Tib fib are the two bones in the lower leg, between the knee and the ankle. It is somewhat common to break them together.

I hope this does not come off as judging you, since you admitted you weren't paying attention (hey we all make mistakes) but I would make it very clear that it happened cus you were not paying attention and let him know that paying attention makes driving a lot safer. This might reassure him...

I have never been in your shoes and cannot relate and therefore feel a little insensitive saying this, but at the same time I feel it needs to be said, why do you need to keep your symptoms under control? Go let them see how much he terrifies you, stutter, cry if you want, put your head in your...

I don't think I disregarded it, I think I just didn't mention it. You are right though, that is yet another kind of abuse.

That is not selfish, at least I dont think so. Maybe you just aren't ready yet. Such a conversation could be very good for him too because it could allow him to express real remorse, and I am sure it would be great for him to hear that you forgive him. If you haven't yet though, it wouldn't be...

I am sorry about your relationship with your father stronger now. I actually have a very similar story about my fathers rage at trying to toilet train me. Things at that young of an age are so hard to deal with and mess you up on such a fundamental level. I'm sorry you had to go through that...

I'm going to offer an alternate perspective. PTSD can be healed, with time effort and the right attitude eventually you can get to a point where your symptoms are below the threshold to meet the criteria for a diagnosis. My childhood is still a huge part of who I have become but my these days my...

I think theres more to it than that though. I was abused by my mother and do not hesitate to think that women are capable of being spiteful selfish cruel sadistic etc but the truth about violent abuse is that when a man violently abuses a woman, she is physically dominated and quite incapable of...

Ya I too would think anger management would be part of the requirements for probation?

Hey everyone, I think nerdyina is doing her best and came here because she wants to change. I think we can all understand that our responses, while fair, might be a little overwhelming, and I think we all know how easy it is to give up on a new and difficult path when being met with unexpected...