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And another day passes. Since both boys were sick, they stayed with the Ex. I don't like that plan, but then they can sleep in in the morning and not worry about getting up and going back to their dad's house anyways. But I still don't like it. I don't want the Ex thinking he is going to take me...

I would say that the biggest things you can do are educate yourself on the matter. There is a lot of great information on this site and in books out there. The other thing you can do is what you would do in any relationship: be patient, loving, kind, respectful, communicative, etc. There are...

Chris, I want to offer you some encouragement. Being with a partner with PTSD means that you have a lot of patience and love. We are not easy to deal with! So I have to give you some real props for choosing your relationship with her. And I'm sorry that it can be such a struggle. It sounds like...

Hi there! I'm sorry you are going through this. My husband can be the same way from time to time. If he's not angry and ridiculous, he's drinking and ridiculous. I've been working on my communication skills and respecting his space when he's angry. These are two really hard things. I try to...

A new day. Both my boys are home sick today from school. But I'm still at work. They stay with the ex and his wife when they are sick. I wish they didn't. I am grateful that I don't have to call off work when they are sick. But it really sucks to have my babies cared for and nurtured by that...

@Rain thank you for your very kind post. I think that a positive attitude is part of what keeps me going. I do genuinely care for so many around me, and I do want to help those that I can. Life is a very tough thing for many people for all different reasons. I would love to achieve all my dreams...

I wish you luck, Emily! Let us know what your T has to say.

Ugh, I'm disappointed. I started a post on Friday. Then I changed it and started a different one. But it didn't save my draft! I wanted to talk about my dads. So, I'll come back to that. Maybe tonight or something. For now, I just want to give an update. The fog seems to be lifting. I know...

Emily, In my personal experience, there have been definite times where I was disconnected from my partner and numb. When I've been with a partner and was triggered, I have shut down and stayed away. This is especially true if something they do sets me off. After the fear and paranoia and panic...

Yesterday was another really tough day at work. When I finally left, I texted DH but got no response. Went home. Waited over an hour. Still no response. I decided to check on his coworkers to make sure everything was ok with the jobsite. Everything was fine. They were just running behind. Well...

True enough. For how long I've dealt with this without diagnosis, I am surprised I have even found success. Now that I know, at least I can work on it. And T is pretty much the perfect T for me. But I feel like I got a lemon body and mind. It works. It runs. But there's always something wrong...

As I see you wrote "former", I will definitely continue to follow your story and your posts. Hopefully I will continue to gain the insights I need!! 2 years of therapy and I definitely don't have any desire to quit!

The right way is NOT the easy way pretty much ever. Do you think my desire to be good and do good would push me towards always expecting to work hard thus leading to a definite workaholic issue? My biggest thing in therapy is learning how to love myself and NOT take things personally because...

I think the key words here are "sustained change". I've learned a lot from my previous mistakes and how to be more respectful of a spouse and so forth and so forth. But I don't think I have learned fully how to accept my own imperfections. And also, how to not automatically be the victim or take...

Somehow, I survived yesterday. I stayed as far away from DH as I could. Finished my homework that was due. Did a ton of dishes and a few loads of laundry. Did not take a shower. Did not go for a walk. But my BFF called and I talked to her for a few. I was so crabby, so we didn't talk long. I...

At what point can I quit? Overwhelmed today. It was an insane day at work. Came home and DH wasn't here. He went to the bar apparently. Only had 1 beer and came home. He's got a migraine again. So, looks like I'm on my own with house chores today. But I'm overwhelmed with homework. I just had a...

Last night and this morning were both good. I had no anxiety, even with DH STILL drinking his d*mn beer. But I survived and did well. I got a few things accomplished (though not homework). And DH and I enjoyed the evening. He even hung out with the boys and I! :woot: Does it help that he's...

TexCat, I don't know if it will help. But sometimes I get triggered by the weather. If the right temperature or the sunlight or the breeze is just right, I'll have terrible anxiety. I think it has to do with the time of year. But regardless, I always feel really stupid when I'm crying because...

Well, here's what I have to say. My husband and I are certainly struggling right now, going through a bad time. But I still think we are a good couple despite all our issues (and my doubts). The biggest reason is because we are friends. And even if the romance isn't there right now, we are...

Well, this has been an interesting weekend. It started with a date night Friday night. Which hardly felt like a date. DH was just making a lot of sarcastic jokes and the thought crossed my mind that if this had been our first date, it would have been the last. I was so not impressed. But the...

Ugh. DH and beer. I don't want to go to dinner anymore. He ticked me off. But I have to go anyways. And try to be nice. Can I burn all the beer in the world? All the wheat and barley too? Maybe all the potatoes and whatever the hell they make whiskey out of? Good Lord in Heaven, zero...

I'm really tired today. I slept 7 hours, but it doesn't feel like it. I will be glad when I'm done with work. DH and I have a gift card for dinner. So we are going out. But I kind of don't want to go because I don't want to see him drinking and I'm sure he will. Even just one beer is so tough...

I prayed tonight. A heartfelt prayer. Not even just heartfelt. I prayed with every bit of me I had. And I prayed for him. Prayed for something that seems impossible. And I prayed for patience. I just wanted to share that. And catalog it. The more I try to remember things, the more I realize I...

So the odd thing? Yep, I found out where the beer went. Shouldn't be surprised by that one. Honestly though...let's think about this one. Watches his wife sick with anxiety and fear over stories of drinking. Goes home and slams four beers. Seriously. What. The. F*ck. I asked him today because he...

@mbrady we are glad to have you here. I understand a small bit about what you mean. My husband (DH) always seems to have some excuse for getting out of things. He drank heavily the day before we moved and was "too hungover" for HOURS when we were supposed to be getting things done. His friends...