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I think you are all right about his position. I'm just not comfortable there at this point and I think it makes sense to move on. I will not be accepting a referral for him. Since I've only seen two males therapists to date, I think a woman might be in order. A change of pace in gender...

You may be right about that--but it's MY cause! I'm the only one who can determine if I am benefiting from the treatment I'm getting and I don't think I am. I've in fact, been very blunt with my T--and I just think he's old and set in his ways. I'm not saying he's a bad or incompetent...

Thanks Pencil. There is no stand off here. I was just making the point that there lies a certain obligation on the part of the therapist to be responsive, responsible and a level of obligation to the client. I am not responsible for the my therapists level of satisfation with his job. If...

Of course they are! You are paying them for thier time! It's your time! Who cares if it helps you or not. You want to waste your money, than go for it. What do they care? Just because you go to the dentist to get your teeth whitened doesnt mean you'll suddenly be a supermodel. But you...

Pencil, you don't? Because I do. Same with a baby shower invitiation. I feel obligated because I was invited--I think most people do. Yes, the therapist gives you two options. But it's not up to the therapist to dictate the frequency of sessions. It's not ethical for him to say "Come to...

Oh yeah, he puts pressure on me--on purpose...despite my continued protests! He's a bit of an old stiff. ;)

Noah, I'm not sure. I'm headed there on Wed, because he basically told me to come in or quit. So if I'm going to quit, I'm going to tell him to his face, because that feels like the right thing to do. We shall see.

I have three opinions about it: 1. He is as inflexable as can be. I read that as either, continue or quit--and I think it's unfair to tell a paying client what thier schedule frequency should be. I wrote back and he refused to discuss it over email, basically giving me an ultimatum of come...

Hi Tanya, He replied: I just returned and saw your message. If you wish to stop therapy at this point I will respect your decision. If you decide to start again at any future time, I would welcome the opportunity to discuss this with you and explore the possibility of resuming our work...

I'm taking on this next six weeks with a new calmness. I let him know that I was not returning for the next month and half and as far as I'm concerned, the ball is his court. If I never hear from him again, then I'll know where I stand. If I do hear from him, then great. I will address the...

Hey Noah! Couldn't agree with you more girl. I went through so many emotions in two days. I went from being pissed and annoyed, to feeling like I was being demanding and needy, to feeling defensive and angry, to settling on just giving up on the whole conversation. Everyone has an opinion...

Good to know! Thanks!

I'm not into any state about his absence. I just wanted to make sure he knew I was returning, that's all. At this point, I don't really care that much anymore.

Pencil, Wow! Your words really spoke to me, girl! You are right, the title of my thread does say "I hate you". I don't think it's the therapist I hate, but just the process of the unknown. I think about EVERYTHING! My mind never shuts off. I have to know what to expect and therapy does...

I said, right up front in the first few posts that I do not solely blame my therapist. It is not all his fault. I think there is a big misunderstanding about when I posted that my T told me he will decide to repond or not. That was in regards to an email I wrote in which I was annoyed at the...

Abstract, That is exactly right! He handles all his own clients in his personal office. No receptionist, no one to contact other than the therapist. The fact that Abratross said that I "terminated" him was EXACTLY the reason, I wanted a call back, so that I could AGAIN make it clear that it...

Oy vey! :( You guys dont get it at all. I regret having created this thread.

I dont think that responding to an email or phone call is violating any boundry. If thats the case than don't give out either. Dont give clients an opportunity for any contact outside of sessions, if thats what the T believes. It is also up to him/her to tell the client if they believe a...

Abstract--he has no receptionist. He is in an office that is shared with 3 other therapists, but they all deal with thier own clients personally.

I actually think I'm the least needy person I know. I don't rely on anyone for anything. I cant even recall the amount of times, I've wanted to do something and searched youtube to find the answer and then followed through. The most recent of which was when I wanted to cut some downed tree...

Anthony, I really have no idea what you are talking about. I stated that I only contact my therapist for the business end of the relationship--appointments, cancelations, payment, etc. I disagree that you think that is "Needy". Seriously? I doubt my therapist thinks I'm stalking him because...

Abstract, I'm not sure what I need. The more I go to therapy sessions, the more confused, irritated, anxious, and stressed I feel. I'm sort of jealous of the people who "love" therapy, because I've never once liked it, let alone love it. I force myself to go, like I force myself to get an...

I left a message, didnt ask for any "outside" services. There is a such thing as a courtesy call or email to let me know he got the message. I did NOT terminate the service. I'm taking 6 weeks off. He is off this week for vacation and I don't consider that "termination". I don't have any...

"You have to trust me, even if just a little bit at a time. If you dont, you'll never accomplish what you want. What do you want, by the way? This relationship isnt about us, it's about you." Sounds innocent, right? Sounds like the sort of thing you want hear from your Therapist (T.) But...

I canceled my consultation. After I made the appointment, I had a heart to heart with my T. I did not feel any better about any of it, so I walked away from therapy and sent my T an email and said that I would return in 6 weeks. I need some space from feeling like this. I need to decide if...