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Your boss's meeting with you trying to egg you on was completely inappropriate. I've been through a workplace hell; I filed accommodations. I was eventually terminated; I'm in the beginnings of a suit. I don't generally offer advice but.... If you're not attached to the work/workplace, I'd...

From yesterday with my usual T who I've been seeing about two years. This is funny when you know the context that I have attachment issues, it's usually more on the avoidant or disorganized spectrums, and this T often points out that I am sometimes overly boundaried or overly particular about...

@TimidZiggy , I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. It sounds like you have a lot of stressors going on and I'm sure not sleeping enough is magnifying things. I think you'd know best what you need or what else you may try based on the resources in your area, what's worked in the past...

I have said so many inappropriate things to therapists. Mostly these were therapists I was doing trial sessions with. Looking back, I think I'm fun, super annoying to them but funny. T: (After I've related the extremes of my derealization and my issues with modern society) I'd like to give you...

@1127sg , It's a totally bizarre model. There's nothing like it in other societies or cultures, it's weirdly one-sided, there are boundaries that seem strange when you're also simultaneously pouring your heart out. I've had this discussion with my therapist(s) before. The relationship feels...

@fuzzypenguin , I'm sorry. That sounds really distressing. I hope the blankets are helping. I recently learned something new about grounding and it's been really helpful for me. When you're trying to ground/find awareness in the body and the anxiety is too high, stay out of your middle...

Both my T and my reiki practitioner talk to me a lot about safety. With reiki, we talk about it in relation to touch. She validates me when I draw a boundary or ask her to stop and when I ask questions or talk about feeling unsafe. I feel very connected and safe with her and my T has asked me...

Hi John, Welcome. It seems like you've got some ideas with the body-based stuff. I'd encourage you to go with whatever you're most attracted to. I think people have a good, if sometimes unconscious sense for their bodies and what will be most helpful. Body work has been a huge part of my...

I had some really crappy stuff go on at my last job and was not treated fairly or kindly. I'm doing the exact same job again with a different company. There are often similar situations in which I'm panicking and telling my boss about worried she's gonna flip (because in old work that's what...

@UniversalBeing , this is really helpful, thank you. My current T training in Hakomi and some of the stuff we've done has been really interesting thus far. I also met with two other Hakomi therapists for intro appointments, and they were both very capable and talked some about how the Hakomi...

Has anyone out here been to a T that mainly used Hakomi Method? Was it helpful? Did slowing down the physical pieces assist you with intrusive memories, body memories, or flashbacks? What was your experience with Hakomi? Anything y'all would like to share would be appreciated.

@TyraaryT , I've had that exact same experience of a concentrated stare with everything else in the periphery going gray. I also regularly have this at the end of a long day working with clients or when I've been dissociating off and on and I return to a safer place, like get in to my car to go...

49 and I am doing a lot better so many 'sometimes' used to be 'almost all the time' s. I feel better though so that's got to be good enough. @Lizio , I love your comment about your psych sessions in your head. I have imaginary sessions all the time with myself and various therapists I've...

@DogwoodTree, that's bullsh*t. Excuse the language/harshness of the response, but meditation has been the antidote to my dissociation. I don't know how the meditation leader meant that, but don't let that stop you from finding a meditation group if you're still interested. A great book...

WIOA funding. Google a one stop workforce center. The funding can be toward shorter term training programs that are employment specific. It could help you get a certification or occupational credential that might be the difference necessary to transition industries. Additionally, workforce...

@watundah, that sucks. I'm sorry.

I would feel that exact same way. Really hurt. I do wonder though; I've had a similar situation of referencing past trauma, from an abusive relationship, and then going to talk about it with my therapist and her saying that conversation came out of nowhere. We broke it down and basically, my...

It's interesting to hear all y'alls replies. Thanks.

Splitting is a defense response where people are characterized as 'all good' or 'all bad.' Another term is black and white thinking. For me, this is less about individuals and more generalized to society. It's like, I will get really lost in how poisonous our social system is and get wrapped...

Have you been evaluated for a Traumatic Brain Injury? I don't know a lot about TBI's, but I do know two guys who went to war and were near IEDs; they both have a TBI and PTSD. From what they've said, the TBI makes the PTSD symptoms worse.

I'm reflecting today on my inner little kid today and on what I can remember from being a kid. It got me thinking... Most of y'all probably know that there are certain unhealthy coping mechanisms that correlate with different types of trauma, like the high correlation between bulimia and CSA...

My hypervigilance is like that too. For me, that level of fear is just something that's there and really high sometimes. Working out helps me get it down and calm my body. Also purely action-wise, look up sleep hygiene. Things like repeating the same routine before getting in bed, going to...

Thanks @Whispering_Truth, you're right. But having already signed a 12 month lease with this possibly unsupportive friend, I'm a little nervous to be honest.

@Blackbird89, I did exposure therapy for approximately 6 months. It was too much for me, and I didn't trust my therapist. I became way dysregulated, and eventually left to find a new therapist. I have trouble with verbalizing too and most exposure therapy involves repeatedly verbalizing the...

I don't care to dissuade him, I believe the situation will eventually dissuade itself, but I really wish they'd go to her place sometimes on the weekend.