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Hi If your self image is shattered through childhood events what can one do to build confidence as an adult? Confidence is important in many aspects of life. For instance success in relationships and job interviews are two areas where confidence is key. For many happiness is linked to having...

I've found it extremely challenging to forgive myself for what has happened in my life and the self blame and hatred has been something I've been struggling with for some time. The fact that it has had a huge impact on my life makes it harder to forgive. Still, over time it can be done. What...

Yeah I've tried CBT which has helped no doubt but I wanted to get rid of the automatic negative thought patterns from arising in the first place. I have learnt to deal with the symptoms but I'm looking to stop the negativity at the source. Not sure even if this is possible. I've done some but...

Hi I'm based in Hove so would be up for meeting up in surrounding areas. Can definitely do London. PM me.

If you mean the safe place imagery then yes. She has helped with a variety of other things too.

This is something I can't stop doing: comparing myself to others. I hate myself for not turning out like them even though that may seem irrational as I had no control over my past as a child. I find it so difficult to accept this though. To accept that this is the world we live in and this is...

I agree that I should focus more on helping others but I find it hard to accept my past and even more so when I compare it to other people's. My past is stopping me from reaching my goals and I believe I can only achieve happiness if I meet these goals. Perhaps I should learn to be happy with...

The reality for me is starting to settle in. My past affects both employment prospects and relationships. Both are linked to happiness for me. I've been trying to create positive thinking habits or cultivating positive emotions as a solution on a daily basis. Each day is a battle but this is the...

Hi I've got to the point where I no longer want to exist. If only suicide was easy then I would have done it by now. But it frightens me so as things stand I can't see myself doing it. My mind as an adult is a mess due to childhood experiences, my cognition on the other hand seems impaired with...

Hi I'm finding that most good jobs require a certain personality. Someone that is confident, positive and in control of emotions. My childhood experiences mean I have none of these qualities. And trying to change is proving to be extremely difficult. I feel I am unable to reach my goals unless...

This is what I fear also. For me the childhood thinking patterns of self loathing are jammed in my head and now as an adult it keeps coming back. You might want to look at metta meditation to feel positive emotions about yourself.

Thanks, that's a good way of seeing it. For me it was MDMA and cocaine that seemed to destroy everything. I lost control completely and I was with people that had lots of it. It was a dangerous situation and I am lucky I didn't go on to do anything harder. The drugs took away the sadness and...

Thanks for the reply. I guess I'm a little afraid she may have to speak to my GP and think I may actually try to commit suicide. It all stems from a childhood of bullying and emotional abuse where for the latter I felt as if I was held in captivity and being mentally tortured and couldn't get...

Hi I've had suicidal thoughts at certain times during childhood together with feelings of intense guilt, shame and sadness. I am now a 26 year old adult now and I've found that I get these automatic thoughts of wanting to die sometimes rather like in childhood. It is like a childhood habit that...

Hi I would be interested in attending a trauma support group in Brighton or London. Let me know if anything is happening.

Many thanks for your reply. In terms of the positive beliefs, I was given the following to do at therapy: I am safe, I am just as good as everyone else, I am in control. Some form of bilateral stimulation accompanied the statements during the session. I have done some visualisations although...

Hi I have seen some good improvements recently, both in terms of decreased anxiety and greater awareness of negative thinking patterns. I am realising quickly when negative thoughts come up and I'm then trying to counter that by a positive thought or by being mindful so that they don't...

For me, mindfulness and going for a run help to break the negative thought patterns that then lead to depression. I have also been trying positive affirmations at various times of the day to create positive thinking mental habits. Safe place generation is another technique I sometimes use but I...

Hi there, I'm from the UK and was looking for a forum that would help me on my journey to limit the effects of past trauma in the present. Between the ages of 6 and 18 I've seen a lot of domestic violence and been subject to 5 to 10hrs of verbal abuse per day from my father. This would...