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@Simply Simon I don't know what any of it means in relation to attachment disorders, but your post-13-year old self sounds a whole lot like me. I feel uncomfortable using the word, but yeah, idolizing certain people, mainly older males. Being standoffish and distant, hating physical affection...

No, ma'am. Your obligation is now to your daughter, and through that, to your own self. I am not trying to lay a guilt trip, please don't think that. I've been told this same thing and I interpreted it as something intended to make me feel bad. It's not. In all actuality, what your daughter...

Maybe, don't. You're right, you are a mother now. Mother's Day is just as much about you as any other mother. (That is if you even want to place importance on Mother's Day. It isn't necessary to celebrate at all.) I know it's very hard to break lifelong patterns and thought processes. But...

Welcome @Peach! It's impossible to get into his mind so here's something out of mine. My best friend from high school met a guy online, had a relationship like yours, talked all the time for about a year, were crazy about each other. Then they met. Hung out for about 5 days. And a couple of...

Me, too @Lewa! I get what probably appears to be overly excited that my son is so well adjusted and secure. I just knew we'd f*ck him up because we didn't know anything else.

My current favorite parenting moment(s) are my son singing in the car. I love it, it's awesome. His vocabulary is big enough now that he's able to sing along with a good portion of some really basic pop songs and he'll just sit back there looking at me in the mirror like "Mommy, sing with me" so...

@greenleaf Thank you! I was fortunate, I guess, that the last lady I was seeing did the same thing you're talking about. She "officially" diagnosed me with ppd. The rest of it, she just put the words out there. And then I was like what? I do that? Wow, I do. She's been at her job for a long...

Or for that matter, what it's like to feel like you aren't worth standing up for even in a life/death situation. I'm pretty bothered by that response, too. If we all reacted in ideal, healthy ways and always acted rationally- why would we be here?

I would expect that a therapist who saw the same condition in everyone would recognize that what they are seeing is normal behavior and not a disorder. But I can imagine that's far from some of their minds. That's a big part of why I have avoided therapy for so long and probably part of why I...

I don't know much about this stuff except as it relates to parenting and "attachment parenting." So based solely on what I've read just tonight I can easily place myself in the disorganized/fearful category. But I don't know if I would accept that I have an attachment disorder created in very...

I'm so glad you posted this, @stenni. This is something that has been bothering me, too, although I haven't exactly had the same experience as you. I haven't had a therapist tell me anything like this, I haven't been seeing a therapist. I stupidly got on Google and ultimately filled out that...

I don't think I want support in the be there for me and listen to my problems sense because I never tell people things. Family, friends, nobody. If something is bothering me you just won't see or hear from me until it has passed. So the thing I would most like from people and this sounds...

This is my answer, too. I have given it to 2 therapists and both of them seemed disturbed by that response. I don't understand why. It seems like a completely reasonable answer to me. Hearing about others' experiences is a world different from experiencing them yourself. They can look at it...

This is why a toddler does it @Smile. It's a perfectly natural thing to do. Hey, my thumb sucking almost 3 year old sucked his thumb in utero. He was doing it during every ultrasound. Sucking on something for comfort is that ingrained in us. I know it seems normal for a toddler and abnormal for...

It is perfectly okay to not go. I also usually attend wakes, but not funerals. But you don't need to be at either. Do your own thing to honor her memory. It can even be at the same time as the funeral. But you're not going to be offending your friend by not putting yourself in a miserable...

You did a great job! Congratulations on posting.

Sorry @Amanda_j I didn't even try to answer your question. I don't know if I can answer it. I think that maybe you are feeling like you can talk things through with him and solve the problem? I'm not saying that you aren't taking it seriously or grasping the severity of what he's going through...

Welcome @SherriLynne! This is a good place to be.

I think our tablets are 5mg. When I take it I only use 1/4th of the pill. If I take the whole thing I will wake up groggy and angry and miserable. They always work for normal can't-fall-asleep nights, but if something else is going on, worry over something, whatever; basically if something else...

I have read that the litmus test for a narcissist is to ask: Are you a narcissist? That's certainly a reductionist answer, but maybe there's something to it. If somebody thinks they're God's gift they're probably not going to deny it. But eh, I don't know. I don't know how much experience I have...

I don't have this problem with anybody here specifically, but it comes up a lot and it especially comes up with employers and other authority figures. I feel like I'm always getting in trouble and I always take things wrong. The only thing I know to do is to always keep in mind that my...

Yes @Lemontree a male thing- as in the female stereotype has gone to their heads and they feel they can do no wrong in this area. Is that not what you said?

Don't worry, I've never seen the cold water @Senecia. They're always wrapped in plastic in a drawer under the exam table when I go. I guess they send their stuff off to be cleaned.

Part of me thinks that might be a better system. I get pretty sick of the patronizing ass kissing and fake smiles you get around here. On the other hand, if there is a thing that needs to get done I want it done. Not, like, when I feel like it. lol This is where my thinking is; that this is a...

Yes, you absolutely can! I highly doubt it. No, I wouldn't put it that way. You just need practice. You feel like you can never accomplish anything because you feel like you haven't (and I highly doubt it's true that you haven't accomplished anything, by the way). Those are separate things...