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Hi Lonelyone I do sometimes too. I have had to push any inner conflicting voices in my head away and ask myself if it feels good and right instead. I have to also like myself enough to allow myself to accept nice feelings. However, what I was really scared of before was not intimacy...

I am also an only child. My mother was not maternal but a manipulative control snob. My father went when I was three and she blamed me for that and then blamed me for her having to sever any ties with him. I then had a step father who listened to all her manipulations which lead to massive...

Hi Muse I understand what you are saying totally. In a lot of respects I just did not trust anyone, still do not really but what I did notice was that I also mistrusted myself in my ability to be able to cope with certain people. My ability to trust my instincts and be able to recognise my...

Hi Ms Spock It sounds like you are really enjoying what you are doing. You are doing so well with it all. Well done. :) Maybe we could all see some of your wonderful drawing one day? :) best wishes Saffy :)

I am feeling very light. I am becoming aware in the present which has only really just made sense to me now. The inner dialogue, worry and self loathing are become rare rather than the norm. It is enlightening. best wishes Saffy :

Hi Deathray I can see that you have the best intentions in your heart for getting involved with peoples problems. However, when helping people in what ever manner, especially by being forthright and open and honest, people just do not want to admit or hear the truth about themselves...

Hi Philippa I read this the other day I though I would share it with you. http:// I found it helped me. Best wishes Saffy :)

Hi Jimni I find myself pretty gullible to at times, naive and fantasizing. Sometimes I allowed it because I wanted to believe in what they said, even though deep down my instincts say they are lying to get what they want. I also wanted to believe in my own fantasies of having someone...

Hi Trib ((HUgs)) if you allow it. It makes perfect sense I have certainly mellowed since I was younger in a lot of ways. Another thing I learnt was the meaning of assertiveness. I can now be a passive aggressive if I am honest. I learnt about communication, but more importantly that I...

((Hugs)) if that is ok. To add I also looked up a lot about the meaning of assertiveness. I am more a passive aggressive if I was to describe myself honestly. This helped me so I thought it might help you too. :) http://www.skillsyouneed.co.uk/IPS/Assertiveness.html Through this I have...

Hi Trib Sorry to hear you feel so low today. I know it is hard to believe at the moment but things will get better for you. It all seems to be snowballing at the moment with one thing coming up after another, eh. I found it helped me a lot off loading and/or just taking part in...

I always loved James and the Giant Peach and BFG the big friendly giant. :) best wishes Saffy :)

Well done MS Spock you are doing brilliantly :) We are all very proud of you. :) best wishes Saffy :)

Hi Trib I hope you are ok today. I think that as long as you do call CPS then something will be done and you have done something, even if you call after you have vacated from the property. So don't worry to much that you are not doing anything. Do the neighbours realise you are...

HI MSspock Routine is very important in study. It give time for study and time for yourself without getting over whelmed by each. It is also important that realistic short term achievable goals are also part of this routine so it gives you something to work towards each time. By achieving...

HI Trib You can do it anonymously as suggested by therapybankrupt. It could be anyone in the building that way. I cannot believe that there is nobody else in there who feels the same way as you. She has other neighbours. I hope the PM gives you the advice you needed to go forward...

Hi Raven Bitterness and resentment can be a very harsh feeling to carry around. Sometimes when we feel bitter we need closure and sometimes we need understanding and sometimes we need to forgive. Not because they deserve to be forgiven but you do. It is easy to feel bitter about how you...

Yes lets hope they are better than the ones in the UK then who always seem to get it wrong or are too late in cases that really need it. Although we do have a lot of parenting classes here. ;) Maybe if the abuse is that bad you should call them as suggested Therapybankrupt has mentioned...

Hi Trib I need to know your area to localise the research. I would go through tenant landlord dispute law. Mostly for what I have seen you are protected If you rent your home you are covered by the Residential Landlord-Tenant Act but I am not sure if this applies to every state in the...

I always learn never to tell anything that you do not want gossiped about to people who gossip. It is in their nature to gossip about other people for a various reasons. I always go with instinct, not paranoia, that if a person can sit a talk about someone else without a thought then they...

I hope you got some sleep Maggiemay. :) on a fresh head it might be less stressful. The Citizen's Advice Bureau (CAB) will advice you on how to deal with the letters and in some cases will write letters or contact them for you. I hope your therapist helps too. Good luck and I hope you can...

Hi 15YOS You are a brave, mature and strong person. Well done for disclosing this to your mum. You must feel that the burden has been lifted a bit. best wishes Saffy :)

I used to sit an ponder over what ifs. It took so much of my thoughts up I decided that it was pointless torturing myself over what if I did this that or the other. I realise that in the present moment it is immaterial. That is cannot be changed anyway and that I am dwelling too much...

I also forgot to mention that I read a lot of tao stories and counsel that find very enlightening. Osho has spoken on many things and all ring true and make sense of the world and ourselves. Best wishes Saffy :)

Hi Anne I read this the other day in regards to the difference between lust and love and thought this part was interesting. Lust has been shown to create an altered state of consciousness which affects the brain in much the same way as some drugs. MRI scans have shown that the same areas of...