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Well, first of all, I totally respect your boss! The best way to work with employees is through positive reinforcement! (more bosses should take note of this). Secondly, I have read some of your posts about your wife and though I haven't responded, I have felt very badly. Being a believer is...

Wow congratulations!!!!! You should be really proud of yourself!! Being triggered at work is SOOOOO difficult. I usually have to excuse myself if it happens. I go in the bathroom or out for a smoke. Anywhere where I can have a few minutes to try to breathe through it and recognize that the...

Thank you so much for the support and the hug!!! I really really appreciate it! I sometimes feel confused by this love that I have. It is, in my mind, truly unconditional. For all that he has said and done to hurt me, for all that I have prayed to stop loving him (before we married and were...

Reading this thread...it blows my mind. I have tried to explain to people how my mind will fight with itself over issues. It's not a conflict like do I want sausage or pepperoni on my pizza. It's about processing. So if a big issue comes up or if I get triggered, my mind will start arguing with...

Just a thought. I am a sufferer and a supporter (though my husband is not officially diagnosed). What helps me the most is being in therapy myself. It doesn't just help me work through my own issues. My T gives me the insight into his mind and helps me work through my own grief and anger when...

So, an odd thing happened. Yesterday morning, when I left the house, there were 5 beers in the fridge. When I came home, there was 1 beer. DH had been home for maybe 3 hours alone. But he didn't smell like beer at all. I didn't see any open cans. I have no f*cking clue where this beer went. It...

Day by day is how I keep going. If I try to take on tomorrow today, it's too much and I fall apart quicker. You are doing really well. And I'm glad that your therapist was able to give you some great advice. We all need that, regardless of being a supporter or a survivor.

Well, this just happened. DH came in from the job into the office. And another tech came in. The other tech was away on a work trip. Started telling me about their adventure to the strip club. Didn't really want to hear about it. Then he started in on how much they were drinking and the fear...

Well, at the end of the day yesterday, I was driving home from work and I was so scared to go home. Just terrified. DH has been so closed off and angry and spiteful. I just didn't want to go home. I was afraid he was going to blow up at me again or say something dismissive. Or worse, that he...

Someone on one of the boards here mentioned Blue October. I've listened to a couple of their songs. Today I found the song "Fear". I think it's going to be my anthem. I posted it on my Facebook as my song of the day because it is exactly what I need to hear today. <3

Abandonment. This is my biggest issue and the scariest one. I have spend a great deal of time alone. Whether it was as a child with no friends, a teen who preferred to isolate or an adult trapped in an empty marriage. Being left by my dad and being cared for by my emotionally unavailable mother...

America15, It sounds like he doesn't want to have a conversation but instead just wants to get his feelings out. An email is one-sided. Perhaps he is afraid to talk to you face to face. He probably is aware that you are hurt and doesn't want to have to see it. I wonder if that is a common...

Alcohol is a trigger of mine in some ways. So I'm trying to keep alcohol out of the house as much as possible. My DH also most likely has PTSD or something akin to it like I do. He is also an alcoholic. So I'm really doing all I can because it's becoming a fiery situation...

Another weekend gone. I spend all week wishing not to be at work (I loathe my job) and longing for the weekend. But it comes and it's a different kind of bad. This weekend I was triggered because my BFF neighbor decided to have a barbecue and a fire. But the fire and the strangers were upsetting...

I am really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It is incredibly painful to lose the person you love even though they are alive still in this world. Please keep seeing your therapist and work on yourself and your healing. The worst of the pain is going to be now, but it won't always be...

Today's song is Skyscraper by Demi Lovato. If you haven't heard it, listen to it. It's pretty d*mn spot on. I just keep playing it over and over on repeat. When my mind can settle, I am going to get back up again. I always do. It just takes time. I think I need to remember that sometimes cuz I...

America, I'm not the best at advice. But if this is a conversation, you both should be able to talk. And I think honesty is the key. Being honest and letting him know that you are scared may help. You have a right to have feelings too. I'm really sorry that you're going through this. And I...

Same. Everything is the same. Last night, after being blatantly asked for pleasure, I asked "What about me?" And the response was "Oh, you want a BJ too?" *sigh* So after it was taken care of, I rolled over to go to sleep. I was too upset, so I waited til I thought he was asleep. Then I got up...

Last night was...really tough to say the least. DH and I played video games together. I think he was trying to reach out. But he didn't want to play anything I offered only his. So I still felt sad. After everything we've been through, I don't know why he's being this way or if he was always...

My man and I did this for awhile. It was more in the BDSM sexual setting than in real life. This did not work for me. In fact, it made things a lot worse in some ways. While the idea of the hurting and the comforting seems nice, I found that it created a really negative undertone to our...

A new day. A quieter day of anxiety, only a bit leaving the house this morning. I'm still pretty sick. DH and I have been getting along the last couple days. I'm still really sad about his lack of support, but I'll get over it. I guess, anyways. He's calmed down on the drinking. Still every day...

No, I really haven't. Not with that. I've tried OTC sleep aids, taking hot showers, putting on music, etc. etc. I haven't found anything that makes it easier. When it comes, it comes. When it goes, it goes.

It's a new day. I've caught some kind of cold or flu or something. So I'm going home early today. I had my massage yesterday which helped me relax. The lady said that everything on me was tense and that I must really need this. And she gave me some ideas for things to do to try to relax at...

My skin is crawling. I don't know if anyone else gets this with anxiety or not. My heart isn't pounding too hard. My chest isn't too tight. A little of each. But my skin is crawling like if someone were to touch me right now, I'd freak out. I'm supposed to go get a massage later tonight. I...

My theory is chemical compensation. I don't have a medical degree in this. But it seems like that perhaps the brain releases X amount of chemicals creating that "high" and letting us build it up and use our energy, etc. Then the brain tries to bring us back down and overcompensates with too much...