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T: "How about next Tuesday at 8am?" Me: "No, seriously? That's a week away. That's not ok. I need to come and see you before then. I just do. Please somehow just know that and find a way to make it happen. Don't ask me to say "that's ok" when it isn't."

Absolutely. Lack of sleep is a serious and cumulative stressor. I know that my coping threshold becomes drastically lower when I am chronically sleep deprived, and I become more susceptible to triggers, general anxiety, general emotionality, general depression... etc. I have a terribly...

Another "me too" for the big 3. I could have written that post.

It takes a lot of courage to make that commitment Fly Away, well done. It's totally ok not to feel great about it, or to feel anything other than scared. It is very daunting and there's no way around that other than to take your time, to try to communicate as openly as possible with your...

It sounds a little harsh, and more than a little simplistic, to say so, but our supporters are adults with freedom of speech and action, and it is their choice to support us in the ways that they do. It is so hard not to mindread, 2nd guess and presume we know what is going on for others, but...

Thank you Bell, and you describe the cycle so painfully well. The image of a congealed ball of sludge made me cringe with knowing. The pain and revulsion of it all, particularly once the wash of shame and humiliation kick in, is almost intolerable at times. I'm sorry I can't remember who it...

I think that all human beings like, and need, to feel that they are as strong, competent, resilient and independent as possible, and that need develops at a very young age. Ideally, well-nurtured and healthily developed children learn this through the development of their autonomy, emotional...

There is no easy way to begin to deal with the past, but somehow for me, schema therapy really was the ideal place to start, because it allowed us to start exploring concepts, character traits and forms of maladaptive learning without having to directly deal with traumatic events at that point...

I've just come back to the thread after 24 hours and am absolutely speechless and overwhelmed at everything that has been said, and all of your kindness and empathy. Somehow I just didn't expect it. I want to respond to everything that everyone said, but just can't right now, but I think that...

Exactly what Brat said. I have done schema therapy and cannot speak highly enough of it as a very logical, very meaningful means of coming to understand the origins of our current thoughts, feelings and behaviour. I have found this to be one of the most validating therapeutic approaches and it...

Thank you for the responses, I know I can't do them justice right now. Bubzilla, i'm sorry about your sister - the colateral loss associated with creating safe boundaries is nowhere more devastating than within the family. It's little wonder your remaining attachments are so intense for you...

This is very humiliating, and painful, and shameful, to write about. I just have to say that upfront. I have 0 prior lifetime experience of healthy human attachment, trust or any form of safe enduring interpersonal bond. I think I have formed something resembling this with my therapist over...

I hope it wasn't my comments about the girl at the trauma programme that made anyone feel they had to be cautious of sharing here. Hell, I'm so not with it at the moment that maybe I've also misinterpreted the last few posts, but just in case it was something I said, I wanted to say that for...

When depression is very very bad, even the most powerful motivating positive influences sometimes only make an impression for a matter of seconds. Still, that makes those seconds count, and those who know enough to understand tell me that it's those seconds I need to hold onto. Was watching...

Misophonia. I didn't know this had a name, though should have figured that it would. I am definitely strongly inclined towards this as well. Also have significant body temperature regulation issues and never seem to be able to match my experience of the external temperature with my internal...

Feeling marginally better emotionally the last day or so. Somehow even managed to convince myself to eat sensibly last night. Not surprisingly, my body collapsed with need and ended binging pretty badly which has been a psychological challenge to cope with today. Feeling bloated and upset...

Like most maladaptive symptoms, minimisation most definitely served an adaptive and self-preserving purpose once upon a time. In some ways, it's like a form of dissociation - dissociation from the reality of emotional impact, and so during periods of active abuse, to minimise what was happening...

Abstract, I self abuse savagely through minimisation, right down to the language I use, both internally and externally, to describe my life and challenges. It's a particularly vicious form of self mockery sometimes, and often when I do it, I feel a little not quite myself and realise that my...

I'm a little like 71, the prospect of having to give up on exercise might well be my greatest motivator to do something about this! I've started weighing myself weekly, which I managed not to do for a long time. Not sure if it's a good or bad thing that I think my scales are super dodgey and...

Rough nights all round... I so understand and relate to all that's going on in your head with this 71 - the fellow ED battler in me wants to "like" everything that you say, though at the same time, I can't help but "like" all of Abstract's wisdom and compassion, because you are right Abstract...

I have read about the first 13 chapters. Am finding it ok without being wonderful.

Currently I am swinging wildly between complete emotional vacancy, including a total inability to cry, and absolute inconsolable distress that is so intense that I almost pass out after a while from its physical drain. It's horrible. I don't think there's anything healthy about either extreme...

I have always had a tendency to minimise the big stuff and to "maximise" - for want of a better word - the little things. I have done this since childhood, particularly in relation to the physical injuries I suffered back then, the serious of which I ignored to a dissociated extent, and the...

Not keeping up well with the forum right now, but I always come back to this thread, even though I want to comment on lots of things and just can't right now. I do lots of body checking behaviours as well, and I don't even know why, because for me I don't feel physically soothed, just in need...

I too felt intense mixed emotions as I read your post Hashi, and others have given wiser advice and feedback than I could right now. I was raped 3 years ago by a man who, I know, had raped and otherwise abused and assaulted many others. He spoke in detail to me about this on many occasions...