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who are we to say what is right and wrong for you @EveHarrington i think you are in fact very strong for voicing out the place you are at and that many of us have been at before. why do we all feel the need to hide our thoughts and feelings away? I would suggest this is the right place as we all...

@She Cat you are very right. adults not exempt from this my pea brain also doenst work that far but I assume that it is a similar process. whilst some people always blame others some people always blame themselves very rarely have a person able to balance them both. the whole blame thing breaks...

i have heard that a hypoglycemic diet is good for ptsd has anyone tried that

psychological childhood development comes into play on this. children are very self focused and will always look to themselves first. it is that simple really the bigger the issue the more affect the self blame will have in the longer term.

I thought I was doing better with flashbacks the last few weeks but think I have actually just been holding them back. something has obviously triggered me as find my head swirling around with flashbacks rolling around a thought about my father who I cut contact with a few years ago. I thought...

this is great timing of a post for me as coming back from my holiday I thought I would see if diet will help with some of my symptoms will be taking these suggestions. thank you

there is no time limit on working through it all it is just in your own time. seems you are like me and impatient to be in a different place in your mindset than you are right now. you just have to trust that you will get there one day where ever there is.

likewise straight lines of thought are over rated @ragdollcircus and agree with taking time no one needs any follow up just look after yourself @sun seeker

guilt has a lot to answer for. don't push yourself too hard. hope it goes alright let me know as i shall be thinking of you. best wishes

hi @tinac21 sorry you feel so alone. It is good that you are in therapy and getting some support. you say you are weak but from what you have said about you life both past and present I would say that is far from true. i believe you have an amazing strength that you do not see. believe that it...

you are welcome. also remember that you dont have to go. I have deliberately not gone to such events before and paid my respects in a private way instead, going to a local church and lighting a candle, having a reflective time at home instead. whats the worst that will happen if you didnt go...

This is a hard one @Missliberation at the end of the day it comes down to 2 things what you believe to be the right thing to do is and if you would be willing to do that. I was in a situation where I knew my abuser had contact with children (socially not working with) and felt soooo...

It is a hard one just be aware that they could try to provoke a reaction. maybe the best reply to any comments would be a standard line something like 'this is not the place for this discussion but i will happily discuss my point of view with you on another occasion' then spin off. my family...

@Bloomy glad today was a better day

so what if you say something nasty doesnt sound like too many other people have paid you the same courtesy. if you feel the need to say something just stick to the facts. best wishes.

Thank you @Malaenis just what I needed to hear. Certainly check up on myself constantly, it is exhausting but I am so paranoid about repeating my parent's cycle even though I know I am a million miles away from their parenting. I use the bad example they set as a 'how not to guide' Like you I...

You get to be the better person.

Every time one of my children has an issue I always link it to my ptsd and feel awful. My 9year had a 2 hour meltdown yesterday over some school work worries and it is one of many times when i wonder how different my children's life would be if they had a standard mum. They are great girls in...

Well done. Good to hear a positive thoughts.

A lot of the confusion could come from the fact that the person might have died but the memories havent died with them it doesnt take that away. When the mother of my abuser died (she had dragged me kicking and screaming to him on countless occasions) i was upset because only her and i knew the...

@Ragdoll Circus. No words of wisdom from me really but i see where you are as a struggler with inner childwork myself. I bypass it now and try not to time travel either backwards or forwards. I have to remind myself contantly that there is nothing actually wrong NOW. Now has become my buzz...

I was in novi sad and Belgrade during the war taking aid to refugee shelters but also spent a lot of time as a child on the croatian coast. The serbian people i met were so warm and strong despite what they had experienced.

Dbt really helped me did not adress the trauma but has given me a basis to do that now. For the trauma you could try self emdr. @Sandstone has covered all the relaxation side light boxes and mindfulness. Join some groups yoga is good. Build it into your weekly routine and make it non...

Glad to hear it @Iamsensative. Very painful but when you know where you stand at least you can deal with that. Sounds like you have done the right thing.

No it is not the answer. My husband once told me to get a knife and finish the job properly. So i get the confusion that you must be feeling. My respect for my husband went with those words i am still with him because he refuses to leave but my heart has left him. Just try to put the words to...