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Loosing him and my boundaries...both. I really don’t know, why I put up with his shit for over two years. I suspect that apart from CPTSD he sufffers from Dismissing Attachment...his mom left when he was only six and he grew up with a father who is really not good at showing emotions. He claims...

YES? That is not okay....PTSD or not. Must have hurt like hell ?

Sorry to hear that?

Rough having to see him. I don’t have access to the private area. And yes to go away, come back, go away! He is mostly going to do that to me again and then I have to stay strong.

Hmmm....I don’t know if that is why we are so addicted to them. I was actually doing better. Said no repeatedly to getting back together and then I relapsed a couple of weeks ago because he said he was ready to make a decision whether or not he was able to do intimacy in and outside the bedroom...

I get sooooo tired when men say that all women want to change their man....it so gender stereotyped. Also when some men say that all men would be unfaithful if they were given the chance and their wife wouldn’t find out....seriously! My two ex husbands would never, ever do that I understand how...

I guess that equals the saying that all women want to change their man ? sorry no offense intended ? The thing is, I have known this guy for six years (the first four as a friend) and there is no way I am ever going to move in with a man again, so I have no ambition or desire to change who he...

Ohhhhh yes! Mixed messages....but I do love you....I don’t know, if I love you. I want a relationship.....I don’t want a relationship ever again. Confused much ??

Thanks for sharing. May I ask what expectations you are referring to? My guy says exactly the same, and when I ask him...what expectations...he says e.g. that if he wants to go on a holiday with his brothers or some other guys, and I get disappointed then he will feel guilty. I have told him...

Thank you ?❤️

Thanks ? There will be more hurdles for him, as he has mentioned a number of times. I don’t have a problem so much more with the isolating and he appreciates that I am educating myself on PTSD. Regarding therapy...he really needs that and he knows it. He has actually begone to open up about his...

Thanks for your input ? As I have mentioned before, we were friends for four years before getting involved and at that point he said, he was going to remain single...it was easier...no expectations etc. Him falling in love with me, was not something he planned to do and so he was torn between...

Thank you for sharing bellbird ? My ex sufferer knows that the isolation part (he only isolates from me) is something I can handle...or rather, I am getting better at handling. He doesn’t isolate completely for a long time. He usually texts me after a couple of days...I think the longest period...

Please help me understand, why to some sufferers, relationship is so scary, that you avoid it? I understand when it somes to sexual abuse victims ofcourse.

Obsession is the right word. When I think about, what he put me through I remind myself to never go back to that. I spend two years waiting and yearning for him. All men are uninteresting compared to him...the attraction between us was crazy and for now, I am completely closed of for falling in...

Same for me for two years...a lot of pushing and pulling on his part. Walked away three months ago and he is still trying to pull me back, but I am standing my ground. I don’t miss him as much as I used to do, but when he texts me, I get weak for a day or so....and at the same time, I get...

I feel your pain and yes PTSD is no f*cking fair. For me, the hardest part is, never being given the chance of a relationship....not knowing if we could have had a great relationship had it not been for PTSD. It feels unfinished even though I left him three months ago. Hang in there...it may...

So sorry. I have been there for two years...lots of bumps in the road. I decided to walk away in May...not an easy decision, but it had to be done. I hope you will be OK with or without him ?❤️

There are no guarantees that the boundary talk is going to help...just so you know. When he needs to pull away, he may not have the energy to tell you...just saying. I will bet you almost anything that he is thinking about you....missing you...but he has no energy/no need to tell you this....

Listen Sweetie...the really, really hard part is all the unanswerede questions....does he miss me, is he seeing someone else, does he think about me at all, is it over? Been there, done that for two years....and 1,5 of those years we lived two minutes apart by foot. So I know how you...

Thanks ❤️ It definitely hasn’t been easy to let go of the dream! I am not over him yet and seeing him would mess with my head....he actually just texted me...saying that he is taking a road trip with one of his female friends, just to inform me so I know why he doesn’t reply, should I text him...

Update; Walking out on him in May was hard. Saying no to getting back together over and over again was hard. Missing him, but not wanting him was hard. I paid for a month on Tinder...just to take my mind of things. I knew I was not ready to date....that all men would be uninteresting compared...

Let me be honest with you. The two years I spend with him, were hard. I spend so much energy waiting....I put my life on hold for him. I had no energy for friends, my mom who is now 78, my son who has mental issues due to the fact that my exhusband of 17 has a temper (he is not the father of my...

We were friends/neighbours for fours years first. At that time he said that he was going to be single forever. I didn’t know he had PTSD at that point, but I knew he had been very attracted to me almost from when we met. I was divorced summer 2017 and he said that he was in love with me....he...

The quote was mine ? I am sorry that things have not improved. I also felt ok some days...and then I felt bad again. My guy would usually text me every few days when he pulled away...blah blah messages. You not hearing from him must be hell. Maybe it is time to walk away? It is not easy...but it...