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I know that feeling of missing him and what you're going through very well! I think so far you're doing the right thing. Stay away for you and your relationship. I personally would say no contact at all for a couple of weeks. Or however long it takes you to figure out what you're willing to...

where are things today @Newtoptsd?

I get pushed away if I question his feelings. Usually after there is a period of tangible pulling away and I start to feel insecure about his feelings or our relationship. He does not like that at all! :dead: And it is definitely a pattern with us as well. sigh... @feetfirst how are things with...

That's great news! Fingers crossed that you make it there. Yes, baby steps. :)

The thing is, we ALL of us have insecurities. This is really resonating with me now because it seems like every time I show some insecurity in our relationship (which usually has a lot to do with his behavior, but yes, I do react when I know I don't have to), this is when he says it's too much...

@Newtoptsd and @WhyAnon I wanted to share this thread with you - The Line Between Codependency, Support And Friendship. and anyone else here who can relate. It's over three years old, and I wish I could respond to it, but read mixtapeheartache's posts. They really resonate with me. How we are...

I like that...working toward a secure attachment relationship. Just gotta get him on board with me! :)

Good point @Newtoptsd (also good description...100 to 1 in a few months!). My guy was very excited about finding me and our prospects. To the point that I thought he was moving a bit too fast. Then stress...to include me when I would get concerned about something and add to the...

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What I want to tell you is leave. Don't continue this with him at this time. But I know that's easier said than done. The fact is he's being selfish. Whether or not it's because of his PTSD, you're getting hurt now. I think you should step away for the next day or two to think and get yourself...

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You wrote that you would continue to be there as a friend supporter, and this is part of being a friend to a sufferer. However, when you are in love with someone it's hard to just feel like you're supporting a friend and not someone you feel more strongly...

Funny, each of you are correct in my opinion! I have that preoccupation subset thing, but also, in my relationship, I've never experienced someone so affectionate and loving who I also felt amazing chemistry and attraction. He was so attentive and into me and I felt the same way. Calling and...

My motto is it ain't over til the fat lady sings! :) I've been here before myself. I can't say that I recommend that you keep trying because that may not be good for you or him, but I just think you never know. I know this is hard...heartbreak always is! So my hugs to you and thank you for...

The response is a good indication that you're reaching him and not adding any stress. at least that's how I would take it in my situation. The overthinking is the worst thing and THE thing I have to watch out for. if I'm not busy and spend too much time analyzing and thinking, that's when I get...

I agree with everything you wrote . Especially the frustrated part! :)

One way of reassurance without asking for anything or showing any need, is to just text now and then...maybe even daily (this is me because in my situation I just want to connect with him because I miss him. The frequency is probably very dependent on both of you) to share your day and to let...

I just want to chime in here. I know exactly how you feel. I was blocked for about 5 weeks recently, and for no reason either. It hurts because it feels like they hate you and that you did something awful and it's so confusing. I know how that feels. I just want to tell you I understand how you...

The hardest part for me right now is not knowing for sure if it's a shut out, or if he's actually done this time. I have asked this question to him directly and I get no response. Crickets. Am I stupid to take this as an indication that it might not actually be over? If he can't tell me it's...

Ghostly, I completely relate to what you wrote. Thank you for posting. It helped me a lot.