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badream, That's a completely valid sentiment! Sometimes I wish I could raise Angel's dad from the dead, so I could kill him some more. Bear

Nera, What's done is done. The best thing you can always do is to act like a friend. Drop thinking about the poem unless S brings it up. S needs people who can accept him. Bear

Just wanted to say... When you get PTSD, you are reborn as a new person. The rebirth has some very severe side effects. Eventually, the side effects may be overcome. For many that will be decades in the future (if at all). Often side effects do not show until something triggers them the...

I don't discuss it because it's not mine. Angel is the owner of it and in such, she should be the instigator of talking about it. I will go on her threads fairly often and talk about what I see there. "if you haven't experienced trauma, you shouldn't have to hear about it". A supporter's job...

I know a lot of Wives / Husbands, that I would not include in the class of supporter. Bear

In non-PTSD, I've heard that you can use resistive exercise to help. Press your palms together as hard as you can for as long as you can. Until it tires you. See if the shakes relax afterwards? Bear

First, I'm not a sufferer, so I can't guess whether my thoughts on this will be pertinent or not. It isn't uncommon for it to take a long time to control the symptoms of PTSD. It is also critical for you to have supporters who take your PTSD needs seriously. Therefore you have to beat the...

We're glad you are here! Bear

Skinny?

Wookie wrote on my profile today.

You've been gone a while. Glad to see you back. Bear

What you absolutely do not want to do is get married for someone else's reasons. Marry because you want to and you really believe in it. Otherwise you will be nothing more than a statistic. I love my marriage because it grows out of my wife whom I love even more. You know how PTSD is a...

Isn't that true of all of us! I think it's true of the norms on the other side. It's just that they fake it better than we do. Bear

HC, You tell us what feels right. No more. We are here to listen (and care)! In the meantime, listen to what others are saying about them selves. You will find that there are people here like you and who understand you! We are glad you are here. Bear

One of the things that I've found about effective therapy is that initially it does have a destabilizing effect. However usually that is limited to one or a few areas, not overall. The therapist has knocked a few pieces in very bad places loose and nudged them so that they will tend to settle...

Very true! That's actually a very good sign. However, remembering to not shake the bee hive is very important. Angel and I have always had fights. I was just always determined to suck up what ever was required to make it right for her. But that's a male supporter supporting a female...

I would worry about doing a group therapy without at least a T. Bear

@Al_Lurker, You will always have a home here. You have helped people here. Please come back for any reason that makes sense to you! Bear

Why don't other people adjust? This goes back to the new popular mindset. People who cause trouble need to be gotten rid of. I guess if they were intentionally causing trouble, I might have to agree. But to determine that takes time and effort. Most people would just rather exile them than...

Hi Mar1, I was working a quick rip when there was a robbery. I wasn't effected like you were, which means nothing. You can bet that our previous lives an in no way similar. Your hurt is real. Your recovery will be just as real. There are those here who have suffered and recovered. Each is...

For some, the choice of fight or flight is determined by the tormentor. If the tormentor keeps coming back, the sufferer learns that flight is the only option. The other thing that comes to mind is how good a fighter was the sufferer and did they have any unexpected support. Angel and her...

Angel was continuously mis-diagnosed for 15 years. During the first 10 years (or so), Psychologists claimed that she was just acting out and had no psychological problems. Even getting the benefit of a diagnosis can seem near impossible. Bear

So, let's say that my sufferer hits me with something very nasty and uncalled for. If that's just who my sufferer is and it has nothing to do with PTSD, then I should say what would I do if a random person on the street walked up and did me like that. Let me tell you, the best they could...

Hi Shannon! Bear

Honestly! I don't think anyone that played this year should be afraid to play again next year. I've been following pro football for 40 years but apparently Anthony is a relative newbie. And he trounced me. Bear