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Definitely can relate as I came to the forum with the same issue. My exH of decades was very narcissistic and mean and abusive and I began to see some of his milder symptoms replicated in my adult daughter. Ironically, at about the same age when he began to show his "hedonism". (His word for...

Oh Oh yes, had one of the same situations just last night driving and got lost but weather was awful blinding rain and I felt my chest tighten terribly. I think it's a lead up to a panic attack but doesn't quite get there because I have some faith I'll finally reach a big intersection and...

You have all my sympathy as I am female, old now! way past menopause but understand that pain. My suggestions are to have this pain addressed first because there could be an easy explanation for it but always seek out the medical issues first with tests they do for endometriosis, etc. with a...

Hi, sounds like me at times. Extreme feelings of stress are simply exhausting on our systems. We're burning tons of calories, metabolism is speeding up (higher pulse), maybe high BP and all results in severe fatigue at times. I have felt so burned out I'd just sit on sofa and conk out almost...

I understand because I was married 3 decades to a man who was 'Narc". I stayed 30 years too long in a marriage that was nothing more than a fraud. I stayed to raise the kids, pay bills, dream that this person would change. I lived in denial. I kept telling myself I'd divorce him after the kids...

Hi. What a thorough good job of describing your symptoms! Lots of us (me included) couldn't have put together such a good list. I think it'll be helpful to take to a session and you can probably group some of the things under some 'umbrellas'. It sounds like you're overwhelmed, anxious, an...

Best guess... it's the alcohol. Binge drinking can cause all these things at night. Totally vicious cycle. because on the one hand, you feel you need to drink to black out, but blacking out will not produce restful sleep. On the contrary, will cause night terrors, sweating, feeling cold...

Maybe the trauma was so severe that you depersonalized it so that this horrible event could at least be put to rest. To me, rape and childhood molestation is just short of killing someone. It might be a protective defense that God gives us to question the event, to deny it or to say "Oh well...

I can relate as a child being invalidated and it usually came from too much sarcasm in someone. I didn't understand as a child that sarcasm and put-downs can come from a place of insecurity and low self-esteem in those family members who need to feel better about themselves so they put others...

What resonates with your post is that you try so hard! That your therapist or doctors recognize it and say so. It's so easy to resign from life and give up, wondering what someone else thinks of us and basing our self-worth on someone's opinion (which, BTW, can be totally off base, biased, or...

Early childhood and peds. neuro. Went back to school in early 90's to get education degree (sp. needs kids) areas. I believe if kids are identified early on, esp. autism spectrum, there's potential for a good outcome. When I was fresh out of nursing school, I worked as a charge evening nurse on...

Many thanks for your kind welcome. I am fairly spiritual and it has helped me sustain in face of events plus aging helps with being reassured that healing can occur in spite of life's events. So I have hope and am pretty much optimistic. I recently found out that there are some churches who...

So sorry, Lauren. Been there, I promise. I like your quote about grief and love, how true. Lost my mother to a car accident by a fellow who T-boned her small car and there's nothing worse than seeing your mom's body lying out on some dirty sidewalk. Pure grief for seems a year, then the healing...

Hello to all. I stumbled across this forum today as I had been reading a lot about trauma as it had weighed heavily in my life from a drunken father who was rageful and not allowed to live with my mother and sister but still he persisted in coming around to our house nightly (it feels) to...

Well, I am old by some standards, 67, and wasted lots of time and energy on regret and all the thought I coulda done better or that I did not handle a situation well. I had a wise person tell me to knock off the "couldas and shouldas" because it truly does take away your time from healing in...

I like your screen name. I am a child of the 50's so maybe should have chosen that moniker! Mostly, I avoid things which I feel are tedious details and cumbersome such as returning telephone calls which ought to last 5 minutes for a business call, etc. and end up lasting 30 minutes or more due...

I admire you for searching for answers in spite of your pain. That indicates courage in the face of feeling as if more pain had been brought upon you just for seeking help through the system. I have had much trauma in my life as well and am also an RN for 46 years. At times, I've encountered...