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Thanks. I'm going to talk to him and see what happens. Either way, things cannot go on like this! Hopefully I can get the courage to just lay it all out there. I now have a very defined agenda.

Aww, Gizmo, thank you! That means a lot. I feel so sad. Isn't that crazy? I've been through a lot and his reaction (and reactions he's had before that) have caused me to doubt I could trust him. I didn't want to reveal anything to him. I was really holding out. He's not given me a reason...

I'm not taking about an extra 5 minutes, I'm just talking about a 5 minute warning. Just so I don't feel like I just had a really revealing moment only to get kicked out to the street which is exactly what happened. He didn't even ask me if I was ok. Nothing, just get out was what he said...

I just have to have to have a conversation with him. I plan to do that on Wed. I don't feel like it would be fair to just up and leave without making an effort to save this. I want to be able to walk away and know that I tried everything to save this before I commit to someone else. I'm not...

My therapist doesn't use email. He has an office phone but never answers it. He is good at returning calls, but that doesn't really help me very much. I get the impression that he wants to see me for 50 minutes a week and not hear from me again until my next appt. and I have always honored...

Venusian, To be honest, I'm TERRIFIED to have the discussion. I keep rehearsing what I will say in my head. My feelings are really hurt and just thinking about what I will say makes tears stream down my face. I do like him. But I've had this unshakeable feeling of distrust since I began...

I need your help, fellow therapy goers! My T is a stickler for the 50 minute time slot. It's no problem for me, really. I understand the rules, the boundries, time retraints, etc. But there have been a few times when I've felt like I've been kicked out of the therapy room. I'll just have said...

Thank you, I hope so too!

Solo, I've already been with the same guy for 5 months. He already knows my history, and to start over just seems like more than I can take. Having said that, the conversation that we will have next session will be very telling, and it will either build us or destroy us. I hope for the...

It what I experienced dissociative symptoms? Does this sound typical, or do people experience it differently?

Thanks Solo, I get what you are saying and I think you are right. The therapeutic relationship is hard to judge. No where else do we interact with someone in this way. Because of that, it's hard to know what is right or wrong with it. The only thing I have going for me is "a feeling", and I'm...

That makes me feel better. I get that the time is very important. He's getting paid by the hour and I don't want to take up anyone else's time. I get the whole boundry limits. But sheesh, I felt like he kicked me out to the world and could have cared less. He might as well said "Yeah, that's...

I am a 35 year old wife and mother of three. I never cry about anything. I am strong. But I have been brought to my knees by something that I don't understand. I'm scared. I need your help to understand what happened to me because I can seem to find anyone who does. I have been in therapy...

My therapist didn't seem that interested in my kids. He did ask for names and ages but nothing more. I love my children more than anything. If I thought for a second that I were putting them at risk by seeking help. That would be the end of it for me!

I have this irrational fear that if I tell a therapist about what happened to me in my past, that someone will come and take my kids away. Like seeing a therapist equals an inadaquate mother. Crazy, right?

Jumping off the therapy cliff. Not an easy thing to do. I have three kids and a husbad to think about though. Not just me. But this is my journey. And not one I'm particually interested in doing at the moment.

Is there any such thing as a mental parachute? Where's the safe place to fall if it doesn't go as planned? I'm talking about therapy. How on earth do you trust your mental health provider with your deepest, darkest secrets when you don't even trust yourself. How do you share memories...

I feel like I'm in so deep, lived this for so long, how is there possibly any way out? No one understands. You feel guilty for hiding it and not sharing it all at the same time. My personal favorite is feeling like someone has it way worse that you do, so what are you complaining about? Those...

This "small incident" is not what made him leave you. You didn't do anything wrong. He's sick, and he just doesn't have the capicity to be there for you right now. He can't even understand himself. Relationships are so hard to maintain when you live in your own PTSD world. Give him some...

You sound so much like me. I feel like I'm in so deep, lived this for so long, how is there possibly any way out? No one understands. You feel guilty for hiding it and not sharing it all at the same time. My personal favorite is feeling like someone has it way worse that you do, so what are...

That would be great!!! But I know for both of us, we're just starting out--well, I'm just starting out anyway. This is not where I imagined I'd be. It's funny, that you just never know where life will take you. I'm just hoping for the best. Getting help can't possibly be as scary and lonely...

Thanks Eleanor! I hope that this may be even a small step in our healing journey.

Ever just say to yourself, "I should just get over it"? "It's not really that bad". And then those moments when you are consumed by it all. Then the semi-good moments again. That back and forth. I need help. I don't. I need help. I don't. Confusing!

I have looked into it and I can't seem to find anything. I would LOVE to talk to someone who has been through what I went through. I don't feel like a normal "victim" (and I HATE that word!). I don't have "typical" issues of child or sexual abuse. I feel like I'm on the fray. I'm not like...

I feel like I won the battle, but lost the war. This arrest happened so long ago, yet it feels like it happened yesterday. When I drive, I white knuckle the steering wheel, sometimes I feel unsafe to be on the road. If a cop lingers behind my car to long on the road, I will literally break out...