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It sounds like it is something that you really don't want to address with her and for good reason. In my experience, it has benefitted me when I have not contributed further, such as commenting on things when she's blabbering these stories to others. Its so temping to explain to others rather...

Recovery4Me, thank you, and you are spot on about walking your side of the street. Self preservation is a must.

By the way, I kind of hate that I picked the name "Brat". Maybe some think its because I am a brat. I was the last of 5 girls and my sisters called me the "brat" from the day I can remember. Probably how childhood abuse began I raised my own kids and would never call them that I babysit my...

You know, there are a lot of posts that I read and have liked but dont comment on. Often I want to comment, but as I read other peoples post, I see where they make good posts in opposition. I have to let that sink in for a moment or much longer. This site has humbled me as a human being and...

Our family gatherings are limited, so I have to say that is very helpful for me. A couple years ago I had to just not invite my 45 yr old daughter and bf and kids. Thats a different situation....its their drug use. They dont drive so we have to transport, interrupting the little relaxation we...

Not sure I am understanding this right but giving it a shot. Before Covid, I had some gathering avoidance but could do it occasionally. Seems to take a lot of energy. While I had a very limited social life, I did enjoy some socializing. Since Covid.....well, at first it was so hard not...

I definitely think it's possible. I feel I have dont that with exceptions. I auto pilot thru life, sleeping as much as possible. Then if things come up that cause triggering, I get myself overly worked up...and feel current trauma, past traumas, early traumas. I may not identify or speak of...

I need to really get "the things I cannot change". I had to take my granddaughter today to try to get a mental hygiene order on her mother, who has been an addict for the past 30 years. These days she is drinking herself to death. I don't think she will meet the criteria and have to accept that...

When someone starts yelling at me, soon I cant hear a thing they are saying. I dont know that it scares me, but it upsets me so much that I have trouble coming back to resolve the problem. My husband yelled last night and I went to bed in a panic attack state. I swear I thought I was having a...

Was falling asleep watching tv around 8 pm so went to bed and fell right asleep. Woke up at noon.

Been having a lot of trouble falling asleep. Once I do, I sleep for so many hours and my days are messed up again. Sleeping until 2,3,4 pm. I am so exhausted tonight and just can't fall asleep. Seem to be feeling a great deal of anxiety. I would give anything to only need 8 hours of sleep and it...

Now watching Queen of the South

Im sorry Lost One. Loosing our pet is such grief. I have been trying to talk myself into washing my hair for 3 hours now.

I cant think off hand but know I do it. Too many times I have wished I just could put those words back in my mouth. I do have a filter most of the time, but on occasion, I dont know I do it....you are not alone.

I agree Lionheart, people are misinformed, or they want to know why. Its all complicated. Im not ashamed either. I just dont feel the need to summarize something that is too complex for most to understand. It is not your fault, and I hope you remind yourself everyday.

Lionheart-I have a brain injury and no matter what you call it, I would not feel disrespected. There are brain injuries from strokes and also accidents. I know some people who say things like their spine is worse than someone else so dont know what they're complaining about. I just dont find any...

Lionheart-one aspect for me is that (outside of this year of COVID), when Im not feeling good, which is a lot, people dont see me. I dont go to restaurants or listen to music or even the grocery store if I dont have to. On better days, when I put on make up, fix my hair and dress nicely, my...

Changing4Best-Im in the same situation. I have chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, though they are sort of the same. Herniated discs and stenosis, a slew of stomach and digestive issues, a past brain injury and significant emphysema, in addition to ptsd. People I dont know well ask me to do...

Whatever makes you feel the best is likely what's best for you. We dont owe anybody information or explanation.

I did have a traumatic brain injury and was knocked out cold. Then I had what was called post concussion sequel, which actually felt somewhat like ptsd (anxiety, depression, distraction, sleepiness, lack of focus, etc) I think this is what made me very vulnerable to ptsd when I was attacked...

My daughter, when a teen, had a list like this for morning getting ready. She did it on her own because she knew she was always late. She would be late because when she brushed her hair, she would start cleaning out the hairbrush, then x, then y, then z. Never getting to the face washing. She...

My lack of motivation is tied to my fatigue. Just hard to get going, and I sleep so much. While I dont feel sad most of the time, I have thought that I have to have some low grade chronic depression to be the way I am. This morning I had to be at hospital at 7:45 for a stress test. Grudgingly I...

Can completely relate. Mine really started in 2016 and got worse. Now it has leveled off to just doing the minimal. Even the things I love, like gardening, just peters out for me. I can hardly start a project and I sure can't finish one. I care about things....but...then I get to exhausted and...

I feel like it must sound selfish to grieve ones part on oneself. I grieve my work as a therapist. I grieve the energy I use to have I grieve the hope I once had I grieve my ability to give to others that was once a big part of myself As I think about it, the grief that I have, which seems...

Grief never stops, I only adjust to it. Grief comes in many forms. My sisters husband died and I took her to a grief group...she didn't like it...but I related. I related because my grief was loss of myself thru head injury. Life is not simple, nor are the feelings easy to describe. Grief is the...