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Thank you guys. Yes I do have a therapist, but my next appointment with her isn't until next week. It was easier when my late brother was still alive. Sometimes he or I would see or hear about something triggering and could dump on each other, just for reassurance that yes, it really was that...

My son's biological father was the first person I told about being abused as an adult by my oldest brother. He told me he understood, because once as an adult he was intimate with his adult niece, the daughter of a sister he did not grow up with. He claimed that she "started it" and that they...

More people should read about the Children of God cult. It's the worst thing I've ever heard. There's a documentary on Netflix about Tony Robbins called "I'm Not Your Guru" and there is a part in it where he helps a survivor of that cult. You see the emptiness and horror in her face, but she...

My sister lives in another state, so I only see her and her kids every couple of years. I love, love, LOVE her kids. I have one son, a toddler. She has three kids, an older teenaged girl and two younger children, a girl and a boy. She recently broke up with her long term, live-in boyfriend, who...

Yeah I wouldn't either. That's why a script-type deal might help. It may be tempting to kind of let it go, but people really are quite a bit like dogs. When there is a line there that should not be crossed, you have to firmly say NO, NOT OKAY and get the other person to acknowledge that they...

Seriously, it's like we're talking about the same exact people. I naturally have those hardy har car salesman/church leader type of social skills, but I don't appear to use them. I can see when other people are BSing- like turning the charm on and off. It makes me sick. Literally sick. I've had...

That sounds like something a young guy would do. Something my husband did when he was a young person, honestly, and it upset me as well. Young guys do not understand that kind of thing. You need to have strong, serious words with him. Think of it like having stern words with a dog. I hate to put...

I was triggered by something...last week I guess. But it's like it's just simmered there in the back of my mind. I'll start out each day cheerful, determined to have a good day, and then something stressful happens and I way over-react to it. I'm sure because I'm still stressed out from the...

I received a large cache of scanned pictures from my aunt, who is one of the least crazy people on my mom's side of the family. Included were pictures from a "black" period of my life, which don't really remember. When I was 11, 12, 13. I'm now 40. I have my own child. I'm married. I think I'm...

You know, I'm not religious, but it's strange that I happened to see your post while struggling with my own similar problems. Almost like I needed to see your post. While I'm responding to you, I feel like I'm also speaking to myself. Your family are d*cks. You clearly know that. They're...

I would be patient and let him tell you in his own ways and time, but keep in mind he may never tell you anything at all. A long time ago I had a boyfriend who went through my stuff when I was at work. He said it was an effort to understand my "coldness." Needless to say we broke up and did not...

My husband has Asperger's and had a good childhood. I am not autistic and I have PTSD. We've been together on and off for 23 years. Something we have learned as we got older is that I will not always "get" him and he will not always "get" me. That doesn't mean the other person's crap is not...

I agree that it depends on what kind of narcissism you're talking about. When I was a teenager, my mom would hit on my boyfriends, smoke weed every day, bum money off of me, etc. And the house was gross and she had criminals around all the time. It was not an acceptable environment for me. I...

It's difficult to talk about this. I was in an abusive relationship for nine years with one of my family members. It took me a long time to get away. Just because he would ask me to come see him and somehow I was compelled to do it. I don't know why. My feelings just shut off and I would do...

Have you considered taking a self defense class? I have been taking one for the past four weeks and just re-enrolled for four more weeks. The instructor could tell right away, I guess from my reactions, that I had PTSD. He did not call me out on it, but made a general announcement to the class...

I dreamt that I was some kind of care worker on an out call to a military school to check on a little girl. The girl was happy and my partner and I were about to leave. Then an old employee of mine (who in real life graduated from this school) slipped into the car and asked me, "Why do we always...

I am/was an unfunded researcher. I just walked away from my study with no notice to my human subjects. The guy overseeing me was like "K bye," which was a mixed relief and an insult, like he didn't care. I think the subjects haven't noticed yet. I feel like they will be the same. Like, oh...

Oh I do that too. And it'll follow me for years. I will be doing housework and think of a random conversation I had with people I talked to years ago and think, "Man, why did I say that..." I try to jerk myself out of it and refocus on what I was doing. I wish it just didn't happen at all.

I'm still pretty new here, so I feel like I shouldn't be giving people advice, but your post reminded me of how my niece was speaking after a traumatic event, which in turn had reminded me how I reacted to some things. With us, it was emotional and then sexual abuse, which may seem pretty...

Yeah I kind of don't have friends anymore. I got unexpectedly pregnant for the first (and only) time four years ago and my friends slowly dried up after that. I haven't heard from my best friend in about a year and a half. It's tempting to think that it's my fault, since I have PTSD and have...

I agree with the other advice already given, 100%. Definitely agree that you should talk to a therapist about it. It kind of sounds to me like you have a sense that this is behind you. I think that's a dangerous thought. I have the misfortune of having heard both sides of my sister's...

I agree with the idea of trying a different meeting. Even if it's a different "theme" they should still be welcoming and the basic lessons and tone should be there. Years ago I had a friend who was an alcoholic and I ended up going with him to some NA meetings. NA because we knew someone already...

I'm really glad you reported what you could, and I think it is a terrible abuse of power for the other supervisor to be "dating" the 18 year old. I have a couple of situations that came to my mind when reading this thread. #1- A situation I know about where a man in his 60s preyed upon 18 year...

Yeah, just walk away. I know it's tempting to "figure it out" and "make sure" and "see where you went wrong" or whatever, but if this person really is a sociopath, you probably could not have seen him coming. They make sure you don't. Like someone else said, if he's a good person, there's still...

Once I had a friend who was surprisingly like me in the structure of his life. We both lived lives like horror shows. I dated his brother before he died and then he dated my best friend- otherwise we wouldn't have been friends. We were friends for years but only had a couple of honest...