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Thanks so much everyone for your amazing insights and honest answers.... Hubby is "therapied out" ... he says it made things worse. He has tried various people and techniques and medication. He is just not very nice at all to me.... No affection. We have been together nearly 30 years...

May I ask.... is your sufferer horrible nearly all of the time when they are with you? I don't see many nice times to be honest and though that was "normal" in our PTSD world. We don't really do anything together and things as a family often end up stressful. Is this normal or do others...

Anyone else seeing their sufferer go down hill in the school hols? Hubby has just got worse - flashback in the supermarket , getting really cross with our son, shouting all the way home, storming off, coming back shouting "just get me home" then trying to get out of the car while it was moving...

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The same thing. All of the time. :( :( What can I do differently?

Just when I feel things are getting fairly nice (ish) again it all goes down hill. Hubby is self employed and the work had dried up a lot. I say this is what happens - feast and famine! But networking etc isn't his thing. I haven't said anything before (I am too scared) but yesterday felt I...

Not any more. He is "therpied out" It has never helped and feels made things worse. I now just say go... :( Thank you so much - I havent logged on for a while.... just when I think things are calming down and improving it seems to get worse again :( Thank you so much.... xxxx

Well after a while he unlocked the door.. Still screaming and saying he will leave and all other things. He said he doesnt feel valued and that my work is more important. Well really it is when I have work and he doesn't. I have to get my work done otherwise I will loose my clients. How they...

Thank you Sweetpea - I remember your name from years ago and you were really supportive then too. I do not get support however I am going to have some counselling sessions starting next week. I am a member of a business group and they have warded them to me as life has been tough even without...

I am scared to be the one to say this and then deal with all of the splitting up after too. All what needs to happen - and what he may do. When its calmer its OK. Its not exciting or the life I thought I would have but its doable. When its bad it kills me. I feel broken.

You may have picked up on something - I feel contempt for PTSD and how it has just about destroyed a great man.... and I used to feel nothing but love and admiration for my husband, But the years are taking its toll when I have been rejected badly by him and have no affection. The first 10...

Great. After a weekend away presenting at a big event feeling positive I come home to hardly a hello. I am so behind with my work for a few reasons and been under a lot of pressure..... but still dealing with my son getting in trouble at school... his T1 diabetes and more. I order a big...

Hi all Its been a while.... I hope you super people are well :) This is a super personal post for me.... I find it really hard and never talk about this sort of thing... so here goes... I am wondering .... How do you cope if a lack of intimacy is part of your lives now with a partner with...

What an amazing post OrangeJulius - so many super ideas and I hope I and others can take on board... thank you so much for this xxxx

Hi - I can really relate. I have been married the same amount of time - symptoms of PTSD started after we were married about 10 years but really bad for the past 8 years or so. It really hard to walk away from such a huge chunk of your/ my life..... we met when we were 18 so I dont really know...

WOW WOW WOW I am blown away by your incredible feedback blackemerald1 - how utterly amazing of you to take the time to write this.... THANK YOU .... this means more than you will know..... I am taking all of this on board.... thank you - and I really hope it may help others too...

You may well be right - and I really appreciate your reply..... maybe he doesnt know.... can a big black cloud know when they are bringing everything down :( I wish he wanted attention from me.... its so hard.... with thanks again xxx

Thanks thats great real advice :) Sadly music wise he hates the music I like and I dont like his music choice - I do say we dont really have anything in common (on a good day when its not going to cause an argument!) But the reality is its true. xx

What a lovely question Blackemerald1 ... my dreams are rather on hold.... I am taking some time out to the gym again... but feel guilty and like I have to justify myself.... the plan was to take my son but he doesnt like it so its a waste of money and causes more stress!! I am trying to move...

Thanks - yes just saw the thread again.... I haven't been on here in ages... he wanted to separate... but back and its not good... I feel so anxious all of the time... and I have other things to deal with like my sons T1 diabetes :( On top of that running my own business and trying not to let...

I wish I knew :(

We have had PTSD in our lives for about 15 years - my hubby is "therapied out... " I have read the books.... But dealing with that big black cloud.... walking on eggshells.... draining my happiness.... how can I stop this happening... :( On a good day well really we just dont see each...

It's been a while since I have been on here for various reasons - I do hope all is well in your world or as well as it can be :) After a tough few years with my PTSD husband we are "making a go of it" and after me trying to be "me" again around him and trying to be affectionate at the moment I...

Thanks LuckiLee.... wishing you love and positivity too xxx

Dear friends I really feel I am going under.... the chest pains are not going away... I feel anxious whenever I see my hubby .... things are not improving.... I just don't know what to do. Hubbys work has dried up a lot.... this is really upsetting him... so I am the breadwinner.... well I...