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Thank you, I've really made peace with what's happening (as much as one can, I imagine), but tonight has just been an "in my head" kinda night. Funny though, since I posted that we texted briefly and she suggested we hang out tomorrow or the next day. The limitations of socializing because of...

My girlfriend/best friend/insert vague label here has been really struggling on a daily basis, and has cut me off from day to day, in person contact. We text every day, she doesn't understand why she's doing this or feeling (not feeling much tbh) like this is what she needs to do, and I'm...

You can only be responsible for your own mental health, he has to be responsible for his, so his failure to seek therapy or communicate his needs with you is on him, not you. I'm sorry you guys are having such a rough go of it, and that you figure out a solution that works for you.

I'm a supporter, not a sufferer, but I felt compelled to respond. My partner deals with both SH and SI, and we've talked extensively about both. I know she doesn't want to die, she just doesn't want to hurt. She described it as emotional pain so sharp, so intense, that it becomes physically...

I'm in therapy, she's in therapy, and we're in therapy as a couple. Her cptsd was caused from literal lifelong abuse and neglect, first by her mother, then by her ex. They share custody, and she almost lost custody completely because he used her "mental instability" against her, but they since...

I'm interested to hear what she has to say, I know she's ashamed and confused about her behavior. Going forward some clear boundaries are going to have to be set so I don't get put in this position again though. I picked my handle on here for a reason though, I'm both an optimist and a realist...

Update! She texted today asking if I was ok, said she thinks she just glitched for a bit there. We're going to talk either this evening or tomorrow, but she seems like she's pulled through this pretty well, and much faster than I expected, honestly. ?

@Movingforward10 Thanks. I have another appt with our therapist Monday morning, so maybe I can get more insight into how long I should wait for her to feel mentally stable enough to talk more about this, before I may have to slowly and gently kind of force the issue. I can't live in limbo...

@Movingforward10 The morality clause is typically used when there is either alimony involved, or minor children. To prevent a revolving door of random people to be allowed to spend the night in the house where the children are present. It goes both ways, her ex can't either, but in this case it...

Thank you. It's hard, but I'm patient, and without being able to sit down and have an in-depth conversation about what she wants/needs vs what I want/need to see how things shake out, not really much I can do for the time being except wait and do my own thing until she's in a healthier headspace.

@MoonStone no worries. And in response to your earlier statement, yes, she and I have known each other for 9 years. Most of that has been as friends, then best friends, then realization that our feelings were much deeper than that. We have never lived together, not really, so seeing actual...

I'm not a man, btw. Just throwing that out there. And I appreciate all responses and input on this thread, even though I disagree with some aspects.

Thank you for sharing that, Sideways. This whole site has been very helpful and comforting to me, and replies like yours, made without judgement or assumption, mean the world.

She wanted uncontested because she didn't want the kids put through the ringer, plus we just didn't have thousands of dollars to fight in court for who knows how long.

Well, we live in Alabama, so everything in the court system is pretty much antiquated. Plus he wouldn't agree to a divorce without it (because of me), so it was either moral clause, or no divorce. And up until this recent turn, he has been on a strictly need-to-know, kids only basis. So it's...

This is a c-ptsd issue, not a DID issue as it turns out. She was already in such a distorted frame of mind when our therapist brought up fractured personalities, she assumed she had DID, and without me being present for that session, I believed her because she was still presenting as coherent...

Update: my girlfriend also went to therapy today and was finally able to put into words what she's going through right now. The deepest, darkest fear and shame. She said when it comes it's like black, inky air that chokes everything else. Her ex is the only person she's ever let see that, so...

I agree Moonstone, and once I get advice from the therapist, I've got to confront the situation. I may be considerate, but I'm not a masochist. I'm in the US, CST so it's 10:30 here

It's at 4pm ?

She says DID, but from what I can tell, there have never been completely different personalities, just subtle shifts with memory gaps and slightly different taste in music. She's brilliantly smart though, so since dissociation is something meant to be hidden, it's highly likely she's hiding most...

Kids are 14 (m), 11 (f), 3.5 (f). Not abusive to them physically, but verbally once in a while to the oldest, manipulates the 11 yr old with gifts and lies.

Thank you. I have a feeling it's not going to be a very good next few days. Hard choices on the horizon I think.

Thanks for all your input. I've got a lot of thinking to do, and a lot of things to talk about in therapy tomorrow. Sigh.

Significant Other. My girlfriend. We've known each other for almost 9 years DID is so complex, if all the parts of their mind are not communicating, having boundaries with one doesn't mean the others even know about it. Just like some parts know about the abuse, others were protected from it...

My SO having him there by choice complicates things. Like I said, whatever part of her fractured personalities is in control right now is calling the shots. I feel like this has to be handled delicately because she is struggling with her entire identity right now. Just now finding out she was so...