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Hi Tabbycat, It appears this relationship has desolved for the time being. I'm not sure if I've just been through this so many times that I'm not able to feel the emotional effects or if there will be the infamous delayed response :(. I do know that we parted ways as amicably as possible...

Whiteraven, I'm very saddened at your situation and appreciate and honor your sharing. I have been involved with some good and not so good therapists and "helpers" in this field. I completely understand your reluctance to trust professionals after having this type of experience. It's...

Thank you Tabby Cat. You're right in that a relationship w/ 2 sufferers is a blessing and a curse. Throughout my life it seems I'm attracted to others w/ some form of PTSD. The more I've come to understand the effects of trauma & attempting to move through it, I've recognized the need to accept...

My boyfriend & I experienced our first major argument yesterday. I knew he was a PTSD sufferer going into the relationship & vice versa. Something triggered him yesterday morning & I ended up removing myself from the situation when I felt we needed to take a break from the heated topic. Normally...

This is fantastic...nice work & great self awareness!

He weighs enough to be at risk for health issues. He's indicated he's got an auto immune disorder and has been Vitamin D deficient in the past. He's occasionally taking an OTC supplement though states he's been on a higher prescribed dose when he was being followed by a PCP. He's in the...

Yes, it sure has. I've expressed to him that I accept him either way though I know it's deeply affecting him. He's shared he's had trouble allowing himself to be as vulnerable w/ someone as he has been w/ me and I want to honor that. I recognize though that he may need to just sort through...

From what he's indicated, he's interested in a "serious" relationship and I don't perceive he's just wanting to hook up though the more I've gotten to know him, I've recognized he has certain self esteem issues I'm trying to adapt to. One thing that didn't seem as much of an issue in the...

I haven't been on the site for a bit & felt I was doing better for awhile. However, after getting involved in another new relationship, I've started getting triggered & am trying to catch myself earlier on to recognize both my partner's & my own responses to siruations. We've discussed both of...

I definitely associate my home as my "safe space". I've never had anyone other than my mother stay for an extended period while I was out of town and even that became problematic when she began re-arranging things without my permission. Now that I reside in the same city as her, the need for...

There have also been times I've had to limit my use of television, especially the news which seems to focus on negative happenings. I want to know what's going on in the world though being mindful of the mediums I seek updates on is helpful while monitoring my exposure to what's presented.

I have chosen not to be on rx'd medications though there have been episodes throughout my recovery where I could have benefitted from an antidepressant & or medication to reduce nightmares. My symptoms have fluctuated & I've had to incorporate different activities into my routine in order to...

I have been fortunate to reconcile with my mother from childhood abuse though don't feel I've reconciled w/ my father. His abuse has continued into my adulthood though in different forms from when I was younger. My mom and I have had honest conversations over many years about what took place...

Your post gives me hope...thank you.

My family doesn't understand me either. I've had the hardest time finding my place within my family throughout my recovery. I've been told many times they don't understand my "lifestyle" following numerous failed relationships w/ men & my choosing to remain single during segments of my life...

Hi Orion, A person's memories tend to surface when the brain is ready to address them. I would hope your therapist will let you pace when & if you're ready to disclose & in the mean time work with you on ways to manage symptoms and or memory processing as it does occur. I've found incorporating...

When doing that type of treatment, it's normal for things to get worse before they get better. If you feel like you need to take a break from EMDR, it's okay to let your therapist know this. They may be able to do some additional resourcing with you prior to resuming processing, especially if...

When I think of a winner / loser concept in a relationship, I think of whether or not there's a need to have control in the situation. When a person's perception of a situation is skewed, there are no winners or losers. In the end we have to make the decisions that are going to be healthiest...

Hi Shannon, glad you've found the forum. It's amazing the trauma human beings can endure and still be able to love, though only through healing can we get there. I hope you find the needed support and information to help you along your path. This is a great place to be!

Hi Auzzy, Welcome to the forum. The fact that you're here and able to identify there's a challenge in this area is a great start to change. Recovery can take a lifetime of zigzags in the road and each relationship we encounter along the journey can teach us something if we allow it to. ;)

Your daughter and your family have been through a lot - I feel for all of you. I agree in that your being with her in this journey speaks volumes. Sometimes we want to help and assist in other ways though the more we do that, sometimes it's counterproductive in that we end up getting pushed...

Welcome Doggymomma, glad you're here. This website's a wonderful support on many levels. :)

Welcome Artytree! :)

I've experienced all of the above & occasionally without notice. The more you learn about how your symptoms affect you the less off guard you'll feel. Sometimes my heart races & in the moment there doesn't seem to be any reason for it. I've learned to just acknowledge when physical symptoms pop...

Yes symptoms seem to be the "norm" after awhile & when you make progress forward it feels weird but a "good weird". I try so hard to stay grounded though I'm sure I dissociate more when under emotional stress.