Question For Sufferers About Your Home "safe Space"

[UniqueSunflower]

Do you consider your home to be your "safe space?" If yes, and you normally live alone, would...

I definitely associate my home as my "safe space". I've never had anyone other than my mother stay for an extended period while I was out of town and even that became problematic when she began re-arranging things without my permission. Now that I reside in the same city as her, the need for her to stay at my place has become less necessary. I'd be very particular about who I'd let stay at my residence for any length of time unless I really trusted them. I've house sat for co-workers and family in my past though when the tables are turned, I'd feel differently about having someone "house sit " for me. I've never really thought about the change in my position on it until reading your post and responding. :)

 

[brae]

for me, in theory home should be the most safe sacred nourishing place. i dont know if i have experienced that yet in a physical sense. a lot of my trauma is 'home' based and living in chaotic share houses for the past ten years has definitely been re-traumatising. being able to choose who comes into your home is such a luxury to me, and that feels so sad. i get confined to my room a lot and iv learned to hold in my pee/hunger/needs for a really long time to stay safe

 

[katz]

I always felt safest locked in the bathroom. I'd bring books and toys in there to play with.

Now my s...

I can relate to this place. I used to go-when I was little-into the bathroom. It was the only room in the house where it was okay to lock the door and say "no, don't come in."

 

[katz]

I had hoped that some day my own house would be a safe place. Today, I'm not sure if it ever will be. My husband has a son with special needs. To his family he is still 9-11 years old--to me, he is a man, with little control who is over 30 years old!
I absolutely dread the idea of him ever having to live with us. If some thing were to happen to his mom. Even the idea scares me enough to make me shake.