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Great how you put this :roflmao::laugh:

You know it is great you post this. I just wonder how in the world is it possible if you are in such pain, that you use your cognition to read cards that can help you out? To me disastrous emotions and cognition do not combine in any way. By default cognition shuts down, when you are in trauma...

I agree with you, and I also love Adyashanti. I know what Shimmerz means with the deep pain and wanting to crawl out of your skin. The difference is that I went through this pain with my therapist present, just last week I had such a session, and you don't know what to do where to leave the...

The worst of my trauma stuff I did not remember, but could be accessed through bodily memory. I don't have nightmares, flashbacks, anxiety attacks, but surely have suffered like hell.

I write down a lot to not forget. There have been times in which I could also do no adding or subtracting, I thought I turned an idiot.

@Flossy A therapist should also be a person with whom you can develop a safe and healthy attachment, which allows for trust, respect and in a way love and care too. Living proof seems contradictory to email to me, but if it works it works and that is the most important. @Dana1010 I am not sure...

@Chava With current DSM you mean the PTSD criteria, or am I missing something? ETA This stuff: http://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/PTSD-overview/dsm5_criteria_ptsd.asp

YES!! Wholeheartedly agree. That will be the best way forward. I feel the current overall state of trauma treatment is in general far below optimal.

@joeylittle To me it seems like a constricted model with the ptsd sub-types. The current CPTSD diagnosis & symptoms as proposed by Herman give already enough variation on each criterion to fit in all the variation that is present among CPTSD sufferers. You would need to do so much research for...

I see what you mean. Same here, always have been disgusted by my mother, from intra-uterine on, as I have remembered that through therapy. I don't remember anything before age 5, and little before age 10. In therapy the fragmented child states present themselves in a certain sequence, and these...

Interesting question, and I know I use the words interchangeably myself. I often use 'developmental ptsd', which I understand now is total BS :meh: In below proposal by vd Kolk to add developmental trauma disorder (DTD) to the DSM-V, DTD is meant to be a diagnosis for children or adolescents...

sun seeker you are such a gentle soul with so much inherent goodness. Hopelessness is terrible, but can be overcome and I am sure you will. I also have no religious toolset, but I will be sending positive energy to you. Stay safe and hugs. :hug:

The comment about COPD got me thinking about Chinese medicine in which grief is the emotion of the lungs. Maybe a reason to be linked to ptsd. Personally, I also had a period of allergy, allergy induced pneumonia and asthma...

That is really awful for you! Could you tell us a bit more; like do you have ptsd, are you in therapy, do you take medication? This will make it easier to give you a better answer.

True, I went through a phase of existential fear because of this, as that is indeed what it comes down to. It is the imaginary illusion that connecting is still possible, which breaks down. There is nothing to connect to, that is what you have to face. With the help of my therapist this was...

What comes to my mind, as this is how I got rid of the 'no' answer, is to grieve over what you did not have or did not get. Only then can you let go of the hope that is still in you to get something to substitute. I had this moment in therapy and said, but I am such a stupid idiot I still have...

Ha @sun seeker we posted at the same time and our first line is almost similar. Indeed I agree, you will become who you are in your soul, in your essence, and you will find you, when you have dumped all the old garbage.

In a functional family the child does not have to play a role, so that is difficult to define. Unconditionally loved child is what comes to my mind. It sounds a bit borderline like mother? They alternate between idealisation and followed by destruction. My story. Mostly I was destructed, but...

Fantabulastic!! :tup::):laugh::D:joyful::hug:

Yes, MTJohnny it is really ok to do that. Tell your psychiatrist what your truth really is. It will benefit you in your healing process, much more than what you are doing now. Good luck!

I get the impression you understand quite well where it comes from, but keep doing it although you rationally know you keep doing it. Would this not be therapy material? I don't know exactly, but assume you already did tons of that. I have gone through the disorganized attachment I had in...

As a non-native English speaker, I am trying to figure out the exact meaning of trolling. To troll : "make a deliberately offensive or provocative online posting with the aim of upsetting someone or eliciting an angry response from them." -Google Translate-. Trolls in Europe are Norwegian dwarfs...

If the friend of his can pick up his stuff at your place, could this friend not bring your stuff when picking up his stuff? Like an exchange. Wow what a bummer this is.

@KwanYingirl I had to laugh about your sentence that you don't drink and are therefore boring. No, I don't think you are boring from reading your posts on the forum. I also don't drink, so no offense. There are a few books on this; although I have read them from 'the child of' perspective, so...

I think it is already quite an achievement to acknowledge and tell that you cause others pain. I would like you to focus not on "What have I done?", but "What have they done to me?" instead. Deep down you suffer yourself inside from someone hurting you in the past. There lies your answer. As...