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I am not angry at you(friend I have known for ten years). I am saddened that you will not give me a straight story of what want from our relationship. I am sad that we still have not met face-to-face after ten years I am saddened that, something keeps drawing us together emotionally, while in...

Justme, The co-dependency being, she takes her anger out on me? I figured she was using those defenses. Boundaries are extremely important. Yes, I need to tell her, to stop telling me F-You, and to F-Off. I know my friend cares. It is just that, her back isn't against wall, like when she...

Justme, Before I respond to your message, I wanted to tell you(and everyone else) that, during one of her 'friendly' moments, she asked me if I had ever wished I was the father of her older(6yrs.-old) daughter, to which I said yes. Because I knew of the guy throughout their marriage(2006-2013...

I did a search on Google, and found a thread posted on My PTSD from 2011. I grant you they are not mental health professionals, but ordinary people like you n' me. https://www.myptsd.com/threads/anger-why-is-it-so-prominent-in-ptsd.16238/ Good discussion about PTSD and anger.

Echo, I agree with you about, how she treats me at times. Yes I have wanted to challenge her. But from what I have read on PTSD, challenging in the moment, is not exactly advantageous. Echo, I am glad your scare was benign. Justme, It is almost like(sometimes it feels like it), that I have...

Justme, I sent her a friendly Yahoo IM yesterday(Sunday), just saying "Hi". Her response was "WTF do you want". I told her I just wanted to say 'hi'. She replied by saying "Don't bother". Keep in mind, that this is sort of 'par for the course'. When it comes to pushing people away, then...

Justme, I forgot to mention, there was a girl I met in a summer vocational program on car maintenance. I was a going to be a senior the upcoming school year, and she was going to be a sophomore. Three weeks after we started dating, I got a call from her 'best friend' at 2am in the morning...

Justme, My worst 'local' experience was one of those stupid 976-Chat #'s. I ended meeting someone...........I already knew. I never did that again. I did date a co-worker for a month, back in the 1980's. We even went to a couple good ethnic restaurants. She ended it. Because she wanted to...

Justme, I won't know everything. I do agree with the fact of not seeing body language. Yes, Online relationships do miss several crucial elements. But so do face-to-face. I am focused on her pathology, because I don't have visual real-time images of body language to go by. If she was just...

Nebulustrix, Ok, First, we have had a strange connection of honesty n' accountability. But, I know she hasn't told me A-Z about her life, and I have not done the same. I don't know the cause of her PTSD. But I haven't pressed her about it. Because I don't want to 'trigger' her. Sometimes we...

Snowangel, I was in one relationship 4.5yrs.(Aug.'02-Jan.07) that was LD the first three months. I don't disagree that was probably a short amount of time to, 'close the distance'. But she was there for me when I needed(and didn't need her). I did the same for her. She had told me...

Arfie, I know it is is complex. That is why, considering her pattern. I don't take her negative comments at face value. Because I know they are bound to change at some point in time. Nebulustrix, Not necessarily 'seeking a crutch'. But as I said to Arfie not taking her negative comments at...

Justme, Yes, Trauma can be unspeakably scary.

Justme, Not assuming, but going on experience with her behavior. Yes, It is an online relationship. Yet, She has told me deeply personal stuff, that I never expected her to tell me. Stuff that I didn't even ask her about. I wasn't offended. Just thought, if she felt she could tell me...

Arfie, Denial in the sense of thinking someone would hate them, if they knew? So, The person could be holding on to old habits?

EvenStronger, I read my question. You are right. I should have mentioned that they said "You don't know me at all".

Albatross, Agreed. Just that when my friend said it, I didn't react by telling her all the facts I know about her, and it is a lot.

Nebul, Yes, I know that people who don't have PTSD will say that too.

Justme, They told me a long time ago, that they have PTSD so I am not curious about whether they have it or not, specifically. Also, Their push/pull behavior through years, fits with PTSD. Along with her occasionally telling me to F-off. But isn't saying "You don't know me at all", a classic...

Solara, I was thinking the same thing. That there potentially is something, she has never told me, which OTOH is afraid to tell me outright, regardless of not knowing each other face-to-face apart from pictures. OTOH maybe because she feels she doesn't need to tell me, for that same reason.

I have a weird question, that may seem vague. When someone with PTSD says that, even though you have known them ten years. Would you believe that is a legitimate response, or a defensive response to something you said to them?

OneLittleBirdie, Is he perceiving this because he feels vulnerable? I am inclined to agree with you. About just letting him be. Quite possibly, for a moment, he was able to see outside of the 'cloud', that is enveloping him. The counselor is right about not using logic. Because logic in...

Barconian, Yes, I know.

Barconian, I have been in therapy, for other reasons not connected to her, since 2003.

Al, I only know her online, even though we have known each other since 2003. She is in counseling for her PTSD.