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R. Quartz, I venture to say, that I think you were being used.

Alise, Keep in mind that, he is neither PTSD, nor is PTSD him. PTSD is a part of who he is, but it is not his name, or who he is as person. Just something he has.

Runnergirl, It is a defense mechanism. BUT against what exactly, is always the curiosity for me. I am thinking, that when they do that repeatedly, then after each time they say that, they follow that up days later with an accusation of ignoring them. They are (not premeditated) actually...

Barconian, Yes, I like to help people. Especially those people that mean a lot to me. I did it for my (ex)wife. I did it for my (ex)fiance, and I have even done it for the woman I mentioned in title of the thread.

I have never met her in person.

Kas, Yes, there is only so much I can do for her.

Solara, Yes, I am attributing it to PTSD. Because of the drastic repetitive mood swings. Supposing she were angry at me outside of PTSD for non-communication for nine months. Why the level of anger? Way more than just saying 'That really hurt, please don't do it again'. Also, Following her...

Echo, You really 'slipped on your cheese', and/or 'have a vacancy in the attic', if you genuinely think I am 'projecting'. I never said I was irritated or upset by her behavior. I came here for advice on what she potentially might be thinking since she keeps going from wanting to cut all...

I have asked her frank non-essential questions in the past. As for reading up on PTSD, not only did I see traumatic pictures of the Vietnam War, that my father brought back from Saigon, when he was journalist for TIME Magazine. That was in the early 1970's. Then, from Nov.'02-Jan.'07 I was in...

Kas, While I agree not telling her about my un-installing Yahoo Messenger was not exactly smart on my part, and could even be interpreted as another person abandoning her. No sooner, after wanting me out of her life, she goes to to wanting me in her life. So any 'irritation' she might feel...

I would accept that, if she had continued to not speak to me, and even if she had then said that she was willing to speak to me, but on a limited basis. I was not asking anyone to understand her PTSD in specific. But in a general sense as to PTSD behavior. While PTSD behavior can manifest...

I came here for better potential understanding. Even to hear possibilities I had not even thought of. Because, If it were simply a friendship issue, she wouldn't have cut me out of her life, twice in two weeks, and accused me of ignoring her, days within cutting me out of her life. Friends'...

Why are you here? You are accusing me of not listening. When I am trying to gain a better understanding of why she does this. I want to understand, not blindly label.

Yes, She has pushed me away several times saying she would never speak to me again, and was pretty absolute about it, at the time. Each time, it has only lasted a couple days. I am not trying to 'paint with a broad brush'. If anything, I am looking for a broad range of potential thoughts.as...

I didn't un-install Yahoo Messenger, because of her. I un-installed it for reasons un-related to my friend. Also, I am not upset about her reaction. I am curious as to why she will cut me out of her life(which she has done several times; I could still e-mail her if I wanted to), then accuse...

Good heavens, no. I know that everyone with PTSD is not the same. Because, If I thought that, it would be like cars coming off the assembly line. So, I know they are not the same. Not only in the circumstances that brought about PTSD. But also in how a person reacts to their particular...

I am not blaming her at all, for being mad about me removing Yahoo Messenger without telling her. Since she 'supposedly' thinks we are just friends', it is the level of her reaction that I saw. A very recent similar example was, my mother and a friend of hers that lived in town. After the...

Yes, I feel, I can tell her anything. Also, We have been supportive of each other in several situations, like I originally said. I asked here, because I wanted second opinions. I did call RAINN yesterday for their feedback. They seemed to think, that the behavior was a 'learned' behavior...

Thank you for your in-depth response. I am aware of criticism being a defense mechanism. The reason I was thinking her criticism of me might be jealousy, is because we have always been friends' regardless of anyone else. Also, That I have taken a keen interest, instead running when her...

That is the easy answer.

She has always been critical of me to a certain extent. When I had re-installed Yahoo Messenger on my computer, in April of 2012, after keeping it off my computer for nine months, she 'raised the roof', wondering where I had been for so long. I have often wondered, if her criticism is her way...

My online friend of ten years has PTSD and has almost always been critical of me. In the beginning, I would always take it personally. That was until I grew a 'thick skin'. So now, I just let it roll off my back. Just a week ago, she(supposedly) broke up with her boyfriend of four years...