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Its learning about the details of the trauma. And I don't see how length of time is a factor in contributing to another's empathy. If you love someone, there's going to be a reaction even if we didn't live together.

Thanks. I'm the same way with money. I feel like I can make it back. Ditto for material things. Could you elaborate on the consequences that keep you connected even when needing space? I think some of the issues ALL relationships face is the reality that there isn't a lot of free time to...

I have a tortoise but its not the same :/ I might. I had to move back to my parents as my exit was quick. Im hoping to buy my own home soon and maybe I will then :)

She had to start from scratch after her abusive ex took everything. She's had no support her whole life and has suffered enough. I was angry at first because of how everything unfolded. I felt like I was lied to when I agreed to give her space because she said we would still be together and then...

Thanks for your heartfelt and deep response. I think there was a slight misunderstanding. I would NEVER take one of the dogs. Her abusive ex did that. All I meant was that if we were in a situation where we tried again and her isolating was a pattern, that at least one stay with me while she...

Thanks so much. I needed to hear that. I am trying and I so wish my little man were here with me. I miss him a lot.

There has to be a fine line between being an empathic supporter and a codependent. After learning more about the abuses my former partner went through, I've regressed in some ways. I went from taking healthy steps to deal with the grief of the break up to being shattered by not knowing she had...

I have a question for the community. My PTSD girlfriend and I recently broke up. We were living together but the extra stress proved too much for her, her cup overflowed, and I was told we couldn't live together anymore. We were supposed to keep dating so I left the place for her (even though I...

@LloydBraun hi there, I know exactly what you're talking about. I was living with my now ex gf and as the coldness descended I couldn't help but take it personally. I had no resources to get a handle on her PTSD and I honestly didn't know about her PTSD until about three months into living...

Thanks @Casey_03 Yeah I've been trying to gain new skills and do more things for myself. I see how she mistreated me and was mad for a while but a lot of that go replaced by just feeling terrible that I didn't research the minefield of PTSD earlier. Mind you, I really needed better direction and...

Hi everyone, I'm having a really rough time lately. Long story short, after PTSD started causing a lot of issues while we were living together, my now (ex) girlfriend told me we couldn't live together anymore. I wanted her to live in the comfort of our home so after a few days I quickly...

That's exactly the hardest part @Ragdoll Circus My ex would frequently say in the beginning of our relationship that she didn't deserve me and that she was afraid she would do something to mess things up, and all this came out of the blue when things were going great. I would be supportive and...

If you love them, please tell them sooner rather than later. But it isn't just telling them about it but steering them towards the right resources so they can try to get a better handle on it. I understand it's a tough situation because you want to avoid getting triggered from telling them what...

Exactly. I replay EVERY pivotal argument, discussion, etc. and wonder "what if". I was simply operating from a position without knowledge or training. The hardest part is being "out". I am not there; I am not a part of her world anymore. I'll see her once in a while at the gym we both train at...

Yes. I've had to lean heavily on it. I try and do the healthy thing and review my therapy notes, and focus on myself, but I find i'm slipping up the past couple of days and wondering if she'll come back. I miss her. I know a relationship is NOT healthy for her right now. At the same time, I know...

Thanks :) We were together for 8 months. We dated for 4 but we both needed to move and it made sense to give it a shot. Things changed almost right away and we lived together for 4 months until she said she couldn't do it anymore. It was a shock. I was under the impression we would still date...

That's exactly what it felt like in the "end of days." I felt like I was living with a messy roommate who didn't appreciate or care that I was doing everything to keep our lives in order. I did all the grocery shopping, meal prep, cooking, cleaning, dog care, etc... and then to hear her say that...

Thanks so much. I'm feeling better at the moment but have noticed myself slipping in and out of depression lately. I just wish she would talk to me and it's hard waking up alone without her or the dogs.

I agree with @Nicolette and @Casey_03 As hard as it is, you have to let things take their course. Unfortunately, there is no way of knowing what is the right thing to do. All you can do is do what you think is best once you have somehow found that moment of peace where you aren't deciding based...

@Mytime Thanks. I need the hug. It's been a rough couple of days. I might move this to the supporter forum so people might be more likely to read it and comment.

Hi everyone, I've been reading the forums quite a bit a over the past couple of months and I decided to share my story in the hopes it might help others make sense of what's happening before it's too late, and it was initially hard to find stories that were similar to mine (but I've been able...