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I circumvent semantics that have been tainted, just easier for me to roll that way. Rather than pride, if that were a tainted word, I would go with "dignity" as in the "bearing, conduct, or speech indicative of self respect or appreciation of the formality or gravity of an occasion or...

I've always been so dysfunctional that my periods of self-sufficiency have been brief. I am usually dependent on others. Being dependent on others realistically means that I have to avoid upsetting them, which stifles genuine expression to a great extent. I'm not sure how easy or difficult it...

I've just seen it so many times with my own mother, it becomes highly predictable after a while. Tactic 1: Just ignore the victim, give them the silent treatment, hope they believe there must be something wrong with them and that they just shut up. Tactic 2: Try various covert intimidation...

Two steps forward, one step back, is still progress.

The false memory brigade just knows that it would be socially unacceptable to say YOU'RE LYING, so instead they do it covert-aggression style with YOU'RE CRAZY. It's like highly-organized gaslighting, or an amazing case study opportunity of what happens when a bunch of narcissists form a movement.

Okay nevermind.

Thanks, having a look.

I noticed there are forums for depression/sadness, as well as anxiety/fear, but didn't see anything for anger. When I am wound up and jumpy/tense, I get angry very easily. I tend to internalize it, but it still sucks. I believe that what happens is that my emotional processing just goes way...

I think one of the best, and most straightforward ways to see through it, is to imagine someone you love, imagine that they went through exact same thing, and imagine what you would say to them about it. Would you tell them that hey, maybe they really were a Whore of God and maybe it was fine...

I think it's the most extreme freeze response out of fight/flight/freeze. Like an extreme form of the flight response might involve mindlessly trying to escape something, with all other parts of thinking and feeling shut down. An extreme fight response might look like a mindless, enraged frenzy...

Well there is that sort of nonsense, for sure, but I meant more so the unintentional sort of absorbing. I don't like it, but if I'm being honest, then I must admit that I am pretty easy to manipulate half the time. I usually realize it has happened at some point, and then get really ticked off...

Prozac didn't help me, but I was only on it for 5 weeks before quitting it due to side effects. However, some people can report that Prozac worked great for them. So I would say don't let other people's experiences influence your expectations, because it may or may not help you. That is...

I think some therapists avoid using labels, because they're afraid that the client will start subconsciously trying to mold themselves to the label. Things psychological tend to be on a continuum and such. Plus I also think that people who dissociate a lot due to trauma are more vulnerable to...

Wow that therapist sounds like a predator, glad you fired him. Major wtf. My impression of EMDR is that it's supposed to allow the person to confront their biggest fears in a way in which the person is in control, safe and then has a positive, empowering outcome. The actual EMDR exercise is...

And the BEST part of all of this, is that I haven't felt this ticked off or thought about these things so much in a long time, which means that my therapist today in our appointment, must have done a GOOD job. In all seriousness. And I have the privilege of realizing it after I have raged...

So then there is this angle. What if I am just for whatever dumb mysterious reasons just significantly psychologically stronger than almost everyone in my entire family. I had a therapist propose this idea once. She called it psychological resilience and said that mine was extremely high. I...

I definitely get that it's not fair. But the thing that lights a fire under my butt the most is the implication that people with bad childhoods can't control themselves or change. If I accept that, then I would have to simultaneously accept that I can't control myself or change, either. And I...

In my perception it's just the body's version of Stockholm Syndrome. When someone develops Stockholm Syndrome, it's not appropriate to judge them for bonding with the perpetrator, it's not their fault that they were mentally broken down in such a way as to resort to such an extreme coping...

Damn right.

Okay, fair warning, this is a rant. And when I get into this ranting state of mind, I don't always make sense, sometimes it's just a bunch of compacted frustration and confusion. BUT I was abused by my parents. My mother continues to be emotionally and mentally abusive and manipulative at...

I have a somewhat easy time recognizing it because when I would become obsessive and stressed about something, it would always literally be something way beyond my control, like wanting to eliminate all the sex trafficking in the world, or being worried about the U.S. military was doing in X...

I think that perhaps the most important thing you could do it tell the trans teen what you have been through that was similar, that you understand how they feel in some ways, and then point to yourself as an example that someday they will be grown and free. I think people can emotionally survive...

THIS. So much this.

For some people in some cases, it might help to think back to times when you were severely triggered and upset. Note how: 1. You survived it 2. You didn't hurt anybody 3. You didn't do anything terrible 4. You found ways to cope and you got through it And all even though it probably seriously...

I can't handle working with a therapist who is like that, who just expects me to run the whole session while they provide no direction and minimal feedback. I feel like I am paying to talk to a rock, which I could do for free. One thing I have liked about my new therapist so far right off the...