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Right, but change doesn't happen overnight. If so, there'd be a lot of out of work therapists. I respect that we're all at different places and that some find that sometimes asking others for input can help. I've certainly found it helpful on occasion myself.

Asking others for input on relationships, including the therapist relationship, is par for the course for much of humanity. I can understand you feeling impatient with it, but not sure your rant will convert many, haha. Keep in mind that folks don't necessarily forum-members' advice *instead*...

Your fears are getting away with you means that you are hunting for something horrible and getting obsessed with it instead of being able to put that troubling idea away like someone without anxiety would be able to do. There are no symptoms that prove anyone has been sexually abused, aside from...

The experiences you describe are pretty typical in terms of exposure to sexuality and I don't expect there is hidden abuse content under them: more that your fears are getting away from you. I would focus on your current day symptoms, trying to heal those, and investing as much of your attention...

I definitely feel like this many times. My therapist is willing to do that for me when I ask, send me a hug and reassurance that everything is and will be okay, and actually that things will get better. Sadly, she's long-distance, so sometimes, like now, I wish I could have that real hug in...

I've been in online therapy with an experienced trauma therapist for about 19 months now. She's excellent, very sincere, caring, dedicated, compassionate, intelligent and committed. She's available a lot which is great, and it is easier to chat (type live online) than to meet in person for...

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Are you both in therapy? You both need treatment urgently. And good job mom! What you said is valuable and I'm sorry you're struggling so much.

Would it be possible to get a 90 minute session or go twice per week? It really helped me. If not, can you do a lot of prewriting? One of the things I did was write everything out for my therapist to read at the beginning of session: it got her caught up quickly and let me be more ready to...

She wrote back and was very validating. Discussed what good insights I'd developed about my unconscious motivations during therapy and how she could relate to a certain portion herself. I explained in depth what I saw regarding my unconscious motivations as well as my conscious ones regarding...

I find the best thing in these cases is to stop trying to communicate or not communicate with the therapist, but to give them what they really need to help you, which would mean printing out this thread and sharing.

I'm sorry you're struggling. I don't think it's easy to just conjure up motivation or insight into how to overcome a slump, so I hear that. I definitely live in that place sometimes, where if I knew how to do better or had the energy to do better, I would, but I don't, so I need a hand up. I...

I wrote her some emails overnight talking about the unconscious motives I have discovered during therapy about my relationship with my mother, and about the things I did do to get back at her, mainly just withdrawing from her, as she was desperately clingy, my punishment of her and...

Yes, this. I do wish she'd do better sometimes. Think about whether her insights are a. important/relevant and b. highly likely to be correct and c. good timing before she shares them.

But I mean, did you tell him yet today that it's your birthday?

Awe, Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Of course you matter, and it's good you feel disappointed because it shows you have some sense of self-worth. I've done stupid things like forget birthdays too. I also have PTSD. Regardless, there are not excuses for being insensitive. When we're...

Thanks very much. It's so good to come to this board and get some understanding and support from everyone. I didn't have family on my side then. My mom didn't throw me out, so that was definitely something, but of course it was very tense and often ugly at home. She had some problems too, and I...

Thank you for your entire supportive post and yes, I really like that idea of moving on rather than letting it go, of just, trying to be open to her helping me and not let a misguided insight hold us up so much. That's what I struggle with. I get caught up on something and really upset. Hard to...

I heard back on my email, for those who mentioned they like to hear these things out: "Good morning, Leah, good that you are expressing your anger at your mother and me!!!!! Anger is a huge part of healing! There is no need to apologize for something you could not help, for something that...

Right, I agree that it might be a common thing, but the thing is... she needs to know me, not generalize. And she's had 18 months, so I expect a bit better. The thing about striking back then is it just didn't fit. The underlying feeling was being desperately stuck and needing help to stop my...

No therapist will always be on target, so years of searching wouldn't find me a mind reader or someone who never made a mistake. I think the important thing in therapy is to work through these little ruptures and that since she can do that, we work well together. I did tell her everything, sent...

Thanks very much for your reply. I think you concentrated on the part I think is important, the big picture disaster. I actually told my therapist the part about not being able to punish even if I wanted. My family perceived me then as powerful and manipulative, that by disclosing this secret...

You're right- she was poking around and hoping to help- she was hoping, I'm sure, that giving me permission to be angry at my mother and want to punish her would help me feel some catharsis, except... I was a pleaser. I wanted to please my mom, and my teachers, and it was horrendous to leave...

I don't want to leave my therapist. She has experience w/PTSD and has helped me with that a fair amount, actually the one who diagnosed me. She's really been consistently there for me and open to my feedback and humble. So I think we'll resolve this, at least, I'm really hopeful we will. Right...

Yesterday I had a tough session. I was disclosing details for the first time of a breakdown I had that led to me dropping out of high school after I reported my dad to the police for abusing me, had to move out, and move in f/t with my mother. My mother didn't believe me, started researching...