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I do have a couple of friends who I could talk with- that said no one knows what has been going on for me. When everything began to surface for me, after a significant event, my friends strongly encouraged me around therapy but I never shared any of my past with them. I guess it may clarify if...

Thank you - I will reflect. I have watched other posts when it seems that objective responses seem to be right on and yet it is so hard to see when I am in the middle of it.

Thank you but wait - there is a back story (always is)........ I don't have any fashion sense and he has a really good eye for what looks good - Before I met him I had lots of "frumpy" clothes - had a hard time with my body image- not that my sense of that has changed that much but he likes me...

IF that were to be true, how would I know? IF it is so, i don't think he is really controlling me but I may not have a voice. And what do I do about it? Where would I begin? ( I guess it is probably therapy).

Wasn't expecting the direction of this post but definitely somethings to think about. I guess there are a lot of "little things" that seems so insignificant but when they get combined I find it frustrating. I don't choose the "fastest route" or "buy gas at the right place" or have a "good...

In our house there are very distinct roles of who does what. My T reminds me we are not in the 60's. When I began working full time the balance was upset and still trying to figure that out. I have been trying to still do all that I was pre- work and getting tired.

This goes deep... I know I have changed the rules and believe that it is not fair to him but maybe my perception needs to change.

Thanks. No he is not abusive but I think he needs to be in control. It used to not bother me but I think now that I am processing my life I get frustrated sometimes. I am more aware now. He is usually right about things but I feel the need to question anyway. Some days are more intense than...

That all makes sense. I am not sure how to explain and it isn't as important as I first thought. On one hand nothing is always equal and I get that. I guess it came up more around the little stuff so I need to stop being so sensitive. By little stuff I mean - where we stop for dinner when...

For me it is starting with awareness of what those beliefs are. Therapy has helped, reality checking with others and this forum have helped too...

I still have a ways to go...

My step father had a beard and I knew that o didn't like it on my husband but he was so proud he grew it out somewhat recently (couple of years) I get weird around the beard touching me especially when it gets wet, or food droppings or anyway you get the idea. Can't seem to directly tell him. He...

Right now based on how we handle situations that come up with our kids. I see that I don't always agree with how he decides things or what is decided but not sure my role. Then i cross over to me and not sure what I think is acceptable but maybe I shouldn't be questioning that. Make sense?

Everyone is different but I am struggling with the concept of marriage being a 50/50 partnership. Is that really how people view it? For years and now I have seen myself as not as important, my ideas & thoughts not as valueable as my partner. In T we (t and I) are exploring my belief around not...

My struggle is (this is my self talk- my core being honest) I know I don't belong but others don't see it. What I mean is if people knew who I was, what I thought, what I have done ( or what I experienced) then they would certainly have no reason to associate with me. No one understands me... I...

Valid point but I am frustrated with myself right now because I think I should be in a better place. Yes I am in therapy and have been seeing my t weekly for a few years. I tend to make good progress and then I hit a wall. I don't like it when this happens - today was rougher than other times...

i hate this roller coaster I am on and what really bothers me is that I know what I need to do and yet I can't do it. How many times do I need to do the same stuff? I know I need to speak up but I get stuck. I have had some tough times but I have been working through it and I should be way over...

Forgot this .... my t has said that anxiety basically equals avoidance. Ughhh and when I look at days that I am more anxious I usually find that I am working really hard at not facing things. Good reminder!

I don't know about the whole repressed piece and what that really means but my T refers to my early trauma as having been repressed. I experienced another trauma a few years ago and was "not right" afterwards. I started T because I was out of my mind. And well that experience has stirred up so...

Conflict - I hate conflict. Conflict with men is particularly difficult and conflict with my husband is almost impossible for me to handle. Due to my need to avoid conflict- I avoid saying what I think so much so that I don't know what I want. This is most intense for me at home ( ironically...

This is an awkward process and one that annoys me because it is hard to talk about stuff. Objectively, it seems like it should be simple yet it sure doesn't seem to be. My T constantly reminds me that it would be simple but it is the most challenging because everything is tied to emotional...

I guess I must have been a rambling mess today. My T is challenging my thinking around my actions. She is getting close to breaking me - on one hand I feel like I am a hopeless case and will never be able to do/ face what I need to do and on the other hand she has constant gracious pressure...

I want to run away and hide-feeling really vulnerable right now -nothing has changed but I was away for nearly a week and I have my T appointment today and I am very very anxious for no good reason. I am usually anxious around my appointments but given my last appt - I think I am just super...