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Thank you! I have such a hard time thinking of this whole process. I want to keep extending things and not being an evil owner by killing her, you know? Then I see her hobbling and I feel horrible. How is it you know when its ok to let them go?

Hi, Sorry you have such a distressing situation to go through. I'm wondering why you can't turn away from her if she abused you? I'm just asking as a general unknowing question. My experience was a little different. That's all I can offer. My grandmother abused my Mom and me as did my...

I have a 15 year old Shepard mix that I have had since she was 6 months old. She had been abused like me as a puppy and I got her at the local pound. I live alone with her and a cat and she has been the one I have told all my problems and secrets to for the last 15 years. Right now she is at the...

First I want to say I am sorry for your loss, though I know that must sound redundant at this point. I was very moved by your account of your life though. I think you came to the right place to look for answers. I think it would also be good to talk to a therapist that deals with grief and loss...

Sorry that was so traumatic of a reminder for you. I'm not a therapist but moving seems like a big deal in and of itself. I wouldn't imagine doing a huge exposure of moving to a place that is so triggering for you. That's just my interpretation. I am moving next week on the 1st. I'm horrified...

Wow, you hit the nail on the head for me. I get flashbacks all the time after seeing something related to something else. I could just be sitting listening to music and a phrase is sung which reminds me of a certain day and then that connects me to my trauma. Any litlte thing like that. It...

Good for You! I wish you the best!!

Thanks for the information!

Wow...I had always wished others knew what had been done to me. I was afraid on one hand to let the family secret out, but I wanted the people involved to be punished. My grandfather died before anyone really knew anything. My grandmother was exempt from blame because she spoke up for herself...

I don't think it carries thru to beyond the immediate abusers but maybe I'm being short sighted. I have a real hard time with men because it was my Grandfather and male cousin that abused me, but my Grandmother used to send me into my Grandfather. So I hold her just as responsible. I am more...

I get that! My body is repulsive to me as well. It would be as a male too. I hate all bodies. I don't like mirrors. I don't want to see anything related to a human body. I don't know if that is you. I know that has to be related to the abuse in some way. Why would someone hate themselves so...

Did you go to your college health center and get diagnosed? How exactly did you feel disrespected? I'm not trying to be difficult, I just need more information. They didn't think you were able to continue your studies or do the things other students could do? What advice did they give you? Did...

I understand completely. I didn't mean to cause any harm by what I said. I didn't want to trigger anyone. I got triggered myself. My grandmother was just as much an abuser as my grandfather and I recognize women to be just as bad as men when it comes to abusers in the family system. I guess I...

Ok, this probably won't change anything in you. I will still explain myself, and how I understand where you are coming from. I wanted to live a life that others respected. I wanted to be a "good" person and get married have a family, and have a respectful job. I Had been abused severely by 2...

I think I understand but I need more information. Do you refer back to your abuse? Do you look at your body and find it disgusting because of being abused? Or is it another reason?

I hear you. I am nervous to email thinking I will say too much. I would like to be able to call in the instance I really feel suicidal or on the edge. The crisis line is tough because the one I would call is a VA line and its hard to really tell them much. Any line would be hard to be truthful...

I I'm sorry I got triggered by the whole thread. I had a really tough Fathers Day. I just thought that support was what was supposed to come from this sight. When I saw this thread I got upset. I'm sorry. I know you all will handle it.

I definitely understand that. They do that when you are looking for a job here as well. I misunderstood. I thought they were randomly doing a check on you. They don't do that here unless you are thought to be unstable, and then they bring you into temporary custody so you can be evaluated by...

Sorry about that.

I used to work in law enforcement. A police check is not good. I would hope you can call a crisis line. They can actually refer you to services so police don't need to get involved.

The guy had just as much right to say as you did. He was abused like you were How insensitive that you couldn't see that. You should be banned.

Why are you not in therapy? It sounds like a good place for you to be. Anyway, therapy is at least a start. I hope you find someone that listens well.

I wish you strength and hope for the future. I know I wish the same for myself so be strong!

Please know that if you go to the hospital it is the safest place for a suicidal patient, and if you are totally planning on going that is the place to be, but it can be traumatizing depending on where you go. Please look into the hospitals around you. I'm serious. If oyu really need to be...

No they haven't . I usually don't have the words during my sessions to express my feelings about this. I just recently got them to agree to emails. Before it was just my sessions they would agree to. They are both sone by 5pm, and then I have to wait a week. That's awesome! She allowed you to...