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Oh yes, I got that one. And there seemed to be such a sense of desperation to keep the family ticking along in stability...I knew that if I reported, I would be held "responsible" for everything falling apart, and whatever happened as a result. And I was, once I did report it. New question to...

I'm sorry. I can feel the pain of it just reading that statement. I get a lot of, "...well we're doing fine after all of it. What's so wrong with you that you're not over it already?" And my sisters resented me when we were kids. They thought I always got the "special" treatment, and they...

My personal opinion...if you can't rewrite it, you just can't. Turn it in as-is. And pick your time for when you want to address each issue. You don't have to start with the "big problem."

Hm, that's a good point. It's difficult for me to imagine pain without suffering. I suppose, if you're able to reach a place of being in complete peace even in the face of horrible pain, then you could feasibly eliminate your suffering. But this would come from being at peace with pain (or...

Every now and then, I get a brief glimpse of this feeling, like when seeing a dad and daughter on a billboard advertisement, or seeing something in a father's face at church when he's playing with his kids, or seeing my DH have those feelings toward our own kids (especially when my girls were...

Okay, so, maybe a difficult-to-impossible question to answer. But thinking about it helps me clarify my purpose for each session. Like...sometimes I realize that all of my expectations for a particular session are subconsciously geared towards trying to finally convince someone that I'm truly...

So much of the stuff that happened to me, happened in front of my mom and sisters. He had us brainwashed to believe he was doing what was "best" for us. Other stuff happened behind closed doors, but so much was "in the open" within the household. I always believed I was the crazy one for not...

I don't think it's possible to eliminate suffering in our current existence. I believe this existence will be replaced with an eternal one where suffering--possibly---will no longer be part of our experience. But here in this life, I think suffering is an inherent part of living. As for this...

I don't know if this will help you or not. But this is the insight I figured out for myself in the past few months, and it seems to be helping. I realized, and was able to admit, that I turn to suicidal thoughts as my "safe place." It's my failsafe...my escape hatch...my out. I see it kind of...

Excellent movie...it's available on Amazon now. I think anger has a dual job. It points out when boundaries have been crossed, but there are two sides to that issue. It might be that someone crossed your reasonable boundaries, and you therefore need to strengthen those boundaries. Or it might...

So I asked my T about it at this week's session. He said it sounds like the meditation class leader just really didn't know what she's talking about with meditation, despite the fact she's a psychiatrist. My T said initially that the difference between dissociation and meditation is that...

I really struggle with this distinction. Cognitively, I can see where it might make sense on some level. But it doesn't feel right. If I do something wrong, for me personally, I feel deep shame, not guilt: "I did something wrong because I'm a worthless person." And then the stuff that...

Tumeric/curcumin is one I must take every day, or I can tell a difference really quick. I also take a good fish oil supplement that I think makes a significant difference. I'm always on the lookout for a placebo effect. And both of these have passed my "self-tests" for effectiveness (such as...

I wonder what makes it so creepy for you? Like...I can understand someone saying, "That doesn't make sense to me" if they've never experienced anything like it. But for it to be creepy? Curious... What about when seeing photos or videos of yourself later? Does that feel creepy? Do you recognize...

This is interesting. Do you know your MBTI personality type? It sounds to me like an 'S' trait (as opposed to an 'N' trait), but I could be wrong (still learning the MBTI stuff). Are you frequently aware of which compass direction you're facing? Like...I'm usually aware of which direction is...

I don't think it's so much about being broken or not...everyone is broken in some way or another (and if they say they've got it all together already, then they're not being honest with you or themselves). It's more about...are you engaged in growth and healing and recovery? And if you are...if...

That's a great line...gotta remember that one. I don't think it's so much that I have conversations with people in my head, as that I do it all the time, sometimes with many people at once. A lot of people have told me they do the same thing, but only on occasion, like when practicing for a...

Which thread sparked this question? I love trying to figure out how people think... I have several layers of thought going most of the time, not just a single track. There might be verbal, like talking to myself, but I'm actually talking to representations of people in my head, kind of like...

I think many people who are attracted to work like psychotherapy are, by definition, NOT the type to do well with bookkeeping, returning emails promptly, or paperwork. So maybe he forgot that you're waiting on an email from him? I say all of this because I'm facing much the same problem. I...

I'm interested in what others say, because I need some ideas, too. So for me...I have certain activities I do every week, but I don't really feel "connected" with people at any of them. I keep going, though, because it's better than staying home all the time (I actually like staying home, but I...

Is the point of meditation to connect with outside reality, and be fully present to the world around me? Or is the point of meditation to go deep into inner reality, and connect more deeply with who I am inside?

I still go into fight mode when I hear this. I do know, on some level, that it's true. But that dark, cold, black ocean of the reality of what happened...I don't know how to face that. I don't know how to let it exist. I think I would first have to care about that child I was, and I'm not...

I struggle with this a lot. As in...it's not just the things I tell myself about how worthless I am, and how hard it is on people to be around me. But I actually am often difficult to be around in person because I don't think like other people and don't socialize well (or I have to fake it...

So, I'm slowly putting together pieces of what meditation, and dissociation, and mindfulness, and presence, and all of this stuff actually means (rather than the normal rhetoric people throw out there because they're just repeating what they've heard and don't actually know from their own...

Our conversations are more interesting, right? "I got kicked out of meditation class today because I wasn't self-actualizing right. So how was your day?"