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I get really frustrated with myself when I have a great session and then the very next day I am crashing and have feelings of doubt when it comes to my therapist. I sometimes have really intense reactions to minor things after I leave or the next day. I was reading Pete Walkers website on...

A lot of the inner child work felt stupid to me too! In fact I refused to do it for the longest time. My symptoms kept get worse and I finally was at my wits end and decided to try some of it.....much to my surprise the crazy stuff worked! One of things I did and do is lay down for a while and...

@IWIK I asked my husband if he had any advice from a male perspective. He mentioned a couple of things. First he said of course all men are different so obviously it depends on the man. But he said when I told him for me it was 27 years in the past but because it was new information to...

Even having had sexual abuse I constantly shocked that the things are are most disabling for me camr from having a narcissistic father and a mother with various mental disabilities. I thought I was going to therapy to talk about rape and being molested as a child and yet more than half if the...

I can understand how someone could be conflicted about it. I recently shared something personal and would have changed some of the identifying factors about it....had I been aware because it was very specific. However I believe that chances are very slim that someone would stumble upon it. I...

I had never had my husband come to therapy either. It was the first and last time for the very reason you stated. That is my space and I needed it to stay that way. I was completely freaked out about it. We actually had the session to talk about the impact of the information and why my husband...

Just read that again! Definitely a time to lean on your therapist. It was the only time I ever had my husband go to therapy with me and I must say it was really helpful to have a visit to process that together.

My husband and I have been married 25 years and I just told him last year. He knew I had some sort of trauma but he wasn't exactly sure what. I was molested as well so when things would come up I would allude to that but never brought up the rape. I was scared to death. At first I just told...

Can I just challenge you on this a little bit? I am wondering if you would feel the same way if you were diabetic and needed insulin or had cancer and needed chemo. A chemical imbalance is a physical issue which can manifest as emotional issues. So while it would be great to not need medicines...

I have OCD tendencies that I believe came as a result of my traumas and inability to control my environment. The healthier I have gotten the better that has gotten as well.

I think many people experience depression differently. I definitely know people who have an increased appetite during depressive states instead it not being able to eat so I wouldn't get caught up on that one symptom. Feeling like you have lost uour spark and not taking care of yourself...

Yes I have experienced that as well. I go through periods of sleeping better and then periods of severe nightmares and sometimes the after effects lasts for two or three days. During that time I have 3 to 4 nightmares a night and in between those dreams when I am trying to fall back asleep. I...

Christmas Eve was great....just my husband and children and a few people I trust in my life. I was happier and laughed more than I have this whole year. Christmas Day sucked. I allowed my parents and my sister to play games with my head. My dad came for Christmas dinner but hardly acknowledged...

I think sending your therapist a copy of wrote here would be a great first step. It is a really good description of the event and your fears about them and even self acknowledgment of why you have some of those fears.

I love that book. I had a hard time getting in print but found it on kindle and downloaded and read it right away. I think I need to reread it!

At first I was concerned that my therapist triggered me occasionally. However it sounds odd for me to say that he triggers me in all the best ways. Every single time that I have had the courage to tell him....I have had a new breakthrough in therapy and worked on a big issue that was keeping me...

Rapid heart beat, shaking, dizziness sometimes if they are bad enough nausea and then throwing up. Muscle cramps and sometimes pain in certain areas of my body. I can't think. I can't take in what people are saying to be. My brain feels like it is moving in slow motion and then when it is...

That is really sweet. I bet they loved them! Those are the things they will remember when they are older.

@Muse thank you for posting that article. It was exactly what I needed to read tonight. @Nyssa I always find it so comforting to be around animals. They give such unconditional love. Here the local animal shelter always needs volunteers on Christmas to help with the animals. I wonder if there...

Seriously the best thing you could do for yourself is seek counseling. You can't build a relationship on lies and even if that weren't an issue the fact that he used your biggest insecurities against you as he was leaving is a sign that he is not healthy either.

I work with a physician who said something one time that really got my attention. He said to a patient "I am hired help. I work for you." It kind of shocked me at first because many doctors.....well....they think they are God's gift to the world but he is right we hire them as caregivers. If...

Good Luck. Keep us posted!

I love your post! It totally makes sense and feels so good when you feel like your therapist is "there" even when you are not in constant communication. I get that feeling sometimes but maintaining it long term is my goal! I am to the point where I kind of know what my therapist would say in...

Can you email her? It would be so great if you could tell her how you are feeling. The first major hurdle my therapist and I had to overcome was a situation similar to this. I felt totally vulnerable and kind of embarrassed about how bad I was feeling about it. I don't know how because I...

Do you have another appt with your therapist before the break. I believe it is absolutely crucial to develop at plan. I didn't do this the first time we had a break and it didn't go so well....the second time we made lists of coping skills....strategies if I wanted to self harm and set up a day...