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I am so sorry. It hurts so much to lose a baby. I often felt like God was punishing me. I do think it is important to allow yourself to grieve and also remember that your body is going through major hormone changes and major mood swings can be a part of that. My therapist always tells me that...

I am really sorry that happened to you.....again! This has happened to me several times. I quit for a while and say I am not going to do family things anymore and then find myself getting soft around the holidays. I keep going back for more...there are just enough small successes to lull me...

There is nothing wrong with a need for connection or love. It is a basic human need. When I first started this process I was so concerned about being too needy or asking for anything because I shut as much of myself down as I could to survive.,,,,even though deep down I really wanted it. I...

I will have to ask him if there is a specific name. I think it is both a school of thought and personality. He had me read three books though. Healing Developmental Trauma by Laurence Heller. There are some pretty good specifics on attachment issues and how to heal regarding that. It seemed...

I think it depends on what someone's issues are what is best for them. Because I have attachment issues my current therapist not only allows emails, calls and texts but encourages them. I basically was taught and learned that you can not count on anyone or trust anyone....ever......much less...

It Is still considered molestation. I like what @RussH had to say about it. The intent from a child is much different but it doesn't mean the harm was necessary less. I also agree the child could have mostly likely been acting out from the abuse they were experiencing. But it definitely...

As someone who both experiences flashbacks/dissociation and works in the medical field.....I would recommend that you take him back to the physician that did the surgery and rule out any lingering effects from surgery.....the pupil dilation after those "spells" is concerning for me. Be...

Yes I struggle with this as well. It is a vicious cycle. I have anxiety about a possible nightmare or flashback coming on....I am learning it is often the extra anxiety itself that often triggers my body to have that nightmare/flashback and then it starts all over again the next day when I start...

I'm so impressed you bought the watch today....it's a great step in reclaiming your life!

I think it was very brave to hold the watch and a step to overcoming the watch as a trigger. Red shoes have always been a trigger for me. Last year I was out shopping and came across a pair of red high heeled shoes in my size. I picked them up and then shockingly I bought them. I had to run to...

Yep one of the most healing things i did for myself was a totally unplanned trip to Toys R Us after leaving a therapy session quite dissociated. I bought myself a bear. I also have a very small sheep that fits in my purse. It seemed kinda of crazy or odd at the time. I didnt grow up with much...

I am very choosy about who I tell. It has to be someone who has earned my trust and will respect my story. Doesn't sound like these people are mature enough to handle the information in a way that would be helpful to you. I ask myself what is the worst case scenario and what can I handle. So...

A very short term stint 22 years ago when I had my first child was so afraid I would screw her up and not be able to protect her like my parents had done with me. Then didn't go back for ten years. Went for a couple of months. Tried several different ones. Then started four years ago after...

One of the things I have done is taken a look back at photos of myself at the age of my traumas and it was quite shocking to see how young I was. It helped me put things into perspective. Another thing I did was to look at pictures of my children at those ages....no way I would hold the...

Interesting I developed an allergy adhesives too. I think our bodies are working so hard on our brains that it physically takes a toll on us in interesting ways. Glad you are feeling some better and facing the world today!

I always love it when someone's question gets the responses I needed to hear. There is a lot of great advice on this thread. I don't have much to add other than to say I have a really hard time with the same thing. I have recently started to realize though it is less of a right or wrong thing...

Yes! Finally settling down in the last two days after having a disastrous week flashbacks triggered by a song and then several small things the following days. I felt like I was in a tail spin. Now I am just exhausted coming out of it. The amount of energy it takes to balance things out and for...

Actually even though I do not have Dissociative Identity Disorder I do have parts. Since the bear has been so successful...over time I have bought something for each of my parts as we have worked on them and there is usually a specific reason why I choose what I do. Like I have a rabbit which...

I have a stuffed bear. I sleep with it every night. I told me therapist about it and then a few days later I sent a picture. Months later.... I now take it to every session. I don't always get it out of my bag but a lot of the times I do. Sometimes if I am having a hard time or a flashback by...

I have physical symptoms when I dissociate when I am awake such as nausea and dizziness. I have had quite a few dreams where I dissociate in the dream and wake up feeling those same symptoms so I feel like I am actually dissociating in the dream as well. I believe my dreams are my body's way...

The last sentance of the last email I sent my therapist said...."when will God decide that I have had enough?" Logically I know I am not being punished but there are somedays I feel like just looking upward and screaming "seriously?" I remember when I was younger hearing a song about angels...

Happens to me frequently. My therapist and doctor have both said it is from nervous system disregulation from trauma. The less anxiety I have the better it is. It has improved since i started therapy but often shows up again when we are working on the scariest stuff.

I have extremely graphic nightmares only a small percentage of them are actually of the abuse although all of them deal with themes I dealt with during my traumas....fear, helplessness, abandonment....etc. I have a lot of nightmares about being dismembered. It's really horrible. I recently...

I seriously could have written this post. I wish I had good advice. I hope others will post answers because I want to know as well. It has been a while since I self harmed and I don't want to start over in my mind so I am currently running through my list of coping skills but I am not having...

@hope for now I loved the Body Keeps the Score. My therapist actually recommended it because he very much practices along those lines. If you liked that book I am sure you would really appreciate "Healing Developmental Trauma" by Laurence Heller. In The Body Keeps the Score the author...