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Hmm. I'm going to keep arguing my point - if someone cheats on you multiple times, that is categorised as abuse. Please read Why Does He Do That? Inside The Mind's of Angry and Controlling Men and just see if this makes sense to you, or not. Look, most people who are in an emotionally abusive...

You're so welcome, I've been there and it sucks so I feel for what you are going through. Honestly, trying to work them out never does anything to your advantage - the best way to spend your time is trying to work out how to break away and it's so hard to do, people who have never been there...

I absolutely promise you this is not PTSD. These are classic abuser tactics - 'crazy making', 'gas lighting.' It's abuser 101, they do it to control you; they want to bully and undermine you so that you basically do what you want. You doing what they want can come in many forms - maybe they want...

Also, the thinking patterns you're having are typical of anyone in an abusive relationship - it can be really hard, and you can feel so twisted up. I do feel for you, it is really hard especially when you are anxious or depressed yourself (though how much of that do they cause?). I think it's...

No, no, no. What does having PTSD have to do with how kind or moral you are? I know you didn't mean it this way, but I find this a bit offensive... People with PTSD are most likely to have been victims of these kinds of people, rather than be them ourselves. For example, people wouldn't be on...

You are very welcome Link Removed. Your wife sounds wonderful! If you start learning some grounding techniques and practice and use them everyday then that should take some pressure off of your wife. Here are some more grounding techniques: Grounding for PSTD. You can also practice CBT quite...

Also, I'm sorry if my suggestions aren't easy ones for you with your RSD - I'm not too knowledgeable about how that might limit you. Have you heard of Somatic Experiencing? It's a body-based treatment for PTSD and it's been very helpful for me personally and other people on the forum. A good...

Link Removed I'm so, so sorry. PTSD is such a painful, difficult disorder, but it sounds like you are such an incredibly strong person and your wife sounds amazing. Are there any local support groups for PTSD sufferers and supporters as this could really help you and your wife. What can you...

Thanks @Leighlee87 :), I read it could be post-operative depression... I know it wasn't a big surgery but that seems to make sense. Think it was the shock of the pain and the discomfort and everything, felt kind of like a violation as you say. It helps to know what it is, and makes me feel less...

Hi everyone, I had the coil IUD fitted yesterday and today I feel very angry and depressed and don't know why. I don't know why I feel like this...they said the procedure can be stressful so maybe that's it. The nurses were really nice, but it was painful and not a nice experience - so maybe...

I'm so happy you have a great relationship with your wife :). Sorry that you've been slandered, maybe this woman is envious of your relationship? My boyfriend is lovely too, I woke up yesterday in the middle of the night and he asked, "Are you okay?" and I told him I had a bad dream and then he...

Also, forgot to mention - that this to me is a protective thing - in the same way that if you have been attacked by a dog, you would come to be alert and on-guard around dogs - you'd want to protect yourself from more harm and pain: it's the same way when you've been harmed by human beings, you...

Hi Snowy Leopard - what a cute name - what's the inspiration behind it? SnowyLeopard, I really see myself in your description and can relate to how hard it can be to trust and open up after having your heart shattered by abuse from someone you trusted and in a situation that was supposed to be...

This includes CBT and also access to reduced cost acupuncture at £20.00 per session.

Also, anything that can ground you in your body - yoga, body scan meditations, progressive muscle relaxation - scheduling in times to practice them each day could go a long way in bringing some relief. Not sure your income level, but you can get reduced cost therapy at Anxiety UK and you would...

SaneLine and the Samaritans can offer support too.

Hi Binkie!! Sorry, if this is patronising, but have you had anytime to exercise and are you eating healthily? These were some basic things I did that helped when I was having a really rough time. Doing some exercise to music can be a good one and especially doing something you enjoy - dancing...

Have you ever done any meditation? Since I've been meditating frequently and for the longterm, I just feel so much more free. Recently I had an imagine come to mind after sitting, of myself crying and in those tears I could see I was shedding away 'myself' and the past. Sounds kind of creepy...

I know, I didn't mean this is a critical way lovely :). I'm just thinking, maybe thinking about why you feel this way or where these thoughts are coming from and then maybe trying some things to help? Like maybe some kind of CBT exercises - so if you're feeling bad about posting a lot (and I...

Didn't you already post a thread like this before? A diary on here could be good too.

Sorry, that sounds really uncomfortable. I think it's a big warning sign when someone does something when they can SEE you are uncomfortable. A guy who is concerned with others feelings and not just their own wants is not going to do that. I feel you lol, someone asked me out last night and...

Nobody who abuses knows what love is....so true. Your post really resonated <3

Also, I'm sorry if this is harsh to hear - but she isn't crying for you, she is crying for herself. 'Look what you made me do', I'm a bad person/my self-image doesn't sit right and that hurts. She isn't crying from love and compassion, she can't.

Yes, for sure. It's called a trauma bond. I think if you are 'good hearted' or empathic in some kind of classic sense those traits can sadly be preyed upon in these cases, and you can form very, very strong trauma bonds. I am a fawn subtype in Pete Walker's, you might relate (though I am also...

I'm really sorry, that sounds horrible. Have you thought about contacting any groups that work with male survivors? Might be validating and healing to share it with people who have had similar experiences to yourself.