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@Nevermore: actually that's a perfect example of how social class *did* hurt him. See the "silver spoon" comment. Because of his social class people treated him worse-because of the perception that he had everything, people treating him worse than someone who didn't have as much.

We're not using "money" because social class is partly perception-and as you pointed out, can be wrong. A middle class individual can "fool" someone into thinking their upper class by living deep in debt. Keep in mind that most of the folks we're talking about when we say "lower class" are...

Yes, there is. Just take it slowly-there's no need to go from zero to sixty today, or even tomorrow. Take your time, breathe and recover. <3

You are most welcome! I think that the friend I was discussing solutions with would be rather irritated if I didn't share the ideas with someone else in need :)

You can't buy your way out-but you can: 1-afford needed medications 2-afford therapy 3-have somewhere to live 4-have food to eat 5-have clothing to wear that doesn't have people treat you like scum 6-have access to the internet and phone regularly 7-have the means to pay for activities...

( I understand that "as a real physical ailment" is diminishing of mental illness, but I hope that it's taken in the phrasing that it refers to-that of a particular mindset, not of the actuality-mental illness is *real*)

"Noone can make you feel anything" is a part of therapy that's usually prefaced with other work along the way. You're not supposed to jump in at the deep end. You first start with trying to pause to identify how you feel. Then you work on figuring out why you feel that way. In the process you...

exhausted.

Self Esteem is the term for, well, what esteem we hold ourselves in. However, I think what Junebug may be trying to get at is that it can be tied to emotional abuse, which makes it more complicated than standard self esteem issues. Finding a way to conquer established and ingrained self...

Get out while the getting's good hon. Sounds like a nasty bad situation to be in.

My husband recently did something that I had specifically asked him not to. We had to have a long talk about it, where I told him that while I had been somewhat flippant about why I disliked certain things, the truth was, they were triggering for me, and that's not something I'm comfortable...

They don't know what they're talking about. Don't listen to them. You are, in fact, protecting your son. They obviously are clueless, so why would you listen to them when they say you're causing harm? I mean, even suggesting you leave your child alone with a stranger is ridiculous. I'd say...

Stick to your "no leaving him unattended with strangers"-that's just basic sense. It doesn't matter if they're family. If you haven't met them, they *are* strangers. (childcare workers aside-they're vetted and supervised)

I wish I could help more. Keep going to your therapist, it may some day stick, or maybe she'll have some better ideas on things that can work. I'll keep my hopes up for you. :)

Remember that PTSD does have worse and better days. Just because you or anyone else is having a better day doesn't mean it's fake.

What about safety pins with weights on them? They'd be small enough you could take them with you and then you could use them to weight the corners of blankets when you're away. You should be able to find things with loops that you can thread a safety pin through. If the safety pins are small...

It's fine, you're doing what you can, you're stressed out and you feel like you're at the end of your rope. You don't need people telling you to do things you honestly feel you can't at this time. What you might want to do, though, is reach out and see if there are support networks for people...

Paralyzing fear of failure keeping you from making a move? Oh yes. Similar "you'll never do anything" prior experience too. I coped with it by getting ticked off at the people who told me that; sort of an "I'll show you!!", but I don't know if that's constructive, and it didn't help me in the...

I think it may be a case of familiarizing yourself enough with it so that it doesn't hurt so much. Enough repetition and it will cease to affect you as badly. I could be wrong, but I know that they advocate that talking about our trauma makes it easier to talk about later and so, find...

I believe the term "social class" was used merely for convenience sake and the familiarity with the term-much like we talk about "race" when the appropriate term should be "ethnicity".

I think a better question would be "can someone fake PTSD *consistently*?" To which the answer is no. Even your best actors slip, and they still don't have to maintain it 24/7. If someone is faking, you'd be able to tell, they would slip, they'd forget to imitate, they'd make mention of...

I understand, I had a very close friend and was heartbroken when she moved. She felt like the only real thing in my life at the time, even though we weren't romantic in any way, I just bonded with her in a way that I wasn't able to with anyone else in my life. I can totally understand the non...

I understand entirely about the guilt. My husband and I had to have a long talk because when we were dating he just wanted me to be there. Not to do anything. Just sit and be in the area. He has his own issues, but I found it really strange and honestly, pretty offputting. What I ended up...

Entirely get it. I spent about 250$ a year buying her jewellery, sometimes twice that, for birthdays and christmas (once I could afford it) because she has been known to throw gifts across the room while shrieking about what crap they are. The year before last she made the comment that I was...

Is it a shared or personal workspace? Do you have doors for your office or is it a cubicle? Do they rent the building or own it? Any messages you get *should* be telling why someone called-it's just silly to get a message that so and so called but they don't know why. Not much use in getting a...