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No apologies needed. I vacillate between splurging all over media and going completely silent. It happens. I'd think that almost all of us know what it's like to post what's going in our life on forums considering we are, after all, here. Kind of what this place is for. :P

No. You made your boundary, now enforce it. The first time is going to be the hardest. Once you make your boundary you need to stick with it, flying past it is a long slope that ends in heartbreak and yes, codependency. Don't go there. Is bad.

No problem, it took me a few to remember some of it. Part of how I managed so long with my own trauma was because I did many of these things, it's taken me a while to actually think it through. If you don't have childhood things (I had a rough one, but I ended up transferring my affection to a...

I actually got rid of (donated what was still in good shape) a lot of my clothes because I wasn't wearing them. TBH, if I'm not going out, I spend a lot of time mostly in PJS. Partly lazy partly because it cuts down on laundry. I'm a low maintenance sort when the occasion allows. Honestly...

Breathe. Take it one step at a time. You can't possibly do it all at once. Talking to your T is a good place for you to start at. They may have resources that they know of that can help you. If you're starting classes then you may be able to get some assistance in housing through your college...

Make sure to tell him that. He should know your boundaries so he can respect them. It is a very good boundary to have though. Kudos to you for sticking to it!

That's merely more proof that living without, going without, causes all kinds of problems that can follow us through our life. Usually this is because someone is living in poverty rather than poor spending choices, but poor spending choices can be a factor, most certainly. @Chitoshi: when I...

I was on seroquel for a while too. It was AMAZING for sleep. Until I either acclimated or my brain started outpacing the effects. I have racing thoughts based insomnia-takes me forever to get to sleep-anywhere from one to five hours, and dieties and scientific principles help me if I so much as...

Have you considered admitting yourself? If you feel like you need something more in depth, you can't get more in depth than 24/7. Having the support structure there if you need it can be a release and it will allow you to have more than your twenty minutes, and if you are still having suicidal...

It is hard to determine in PTSD if it is malicious or not. A lot of PTSD sufferers suffer from guilt and shame by asking things of their supporters, so I always hesitate. That's why I chose to focus on Mypurpose's autonomy and independence and safety. There is no way to be able to tell without...

It does. You talk about your guilt and shame in your situation and it's tied to money. That kind of stress certainly contributes to your mental well being. Some, in your place might even choose to forego treatment in favor of more economic stability, which would cause innumerable other issues...

The biggest question is: are you happier with him or without him? That's your key. When someone is codependent they're often stuck with misery but think that they can't exist without the other person. I don't think that's you from some of the comments you've made. Everyone likes to be...

Take your time. If you need to put it off, well that's one of the things that kept me going for a while. heh I made procrastination work *for* me. It was always "tomorrow". It gives time to get help, to pull up and out. Yeah, feeling like a waste of oxygen is pretty common in these parts...

and what if nothing happens? Was it all for nothing? All over again? I don't think I can do this anymore. beer.

Being made unable to reply to a topic where people are replying to me.

NImali: you could also try packing a warm woolen wrap that has the scents of home or something you find calming (if that requires pet hair-so be it :P) something you can fit in a pack to take with you. Taking a paperback helps, as long as you can read, but the wrap you can pull out and put...

I understand that. When my husband was working full time it worked out that me working full time at minimum wage would have just cancelled out the benefits we got from me staying at home. Now that I could work and we wouldn't be paying more in, I'm in no shape to work (one of my triggers is...

Okay: first things first-you need to take care of you. He isn't your child, so he isn't your responsibility. Now, that being said; is he seeing a therapist? If he isn't, he needs one. If he refuses, then there is nothing you can do. You are not his therapist. He needs someone to be able to...

Oh hon, that's terrible. No, you didn't need that therapist and she was an awful therapist. She should have never acted that way regardless of what she may have thought or believed. The personal opinions of the therapist have no place in the office beyond diagnosis. *internet hugs if you...

I don't know what her caseload is like, nor how much spam mail she gets or what you wrote in the subject line. There could be a very good reason she hasn't gotten hold of you yet that is completely mundane. Overfull email boxes, confused with spam mail, out of town, etc etc. Until you get to...

I'm sorry that's what you took away from the statement, nevermore. I see it as a "their personal opinions won't keep them from helping me". I look at it the same way I would a doctor or an EMT-I want them to help me, and to do so to the best of their abilities. If their opinion of me doesn't...

If you need to take a rest, get some sleep, do it. When we're tired it makes everything so much harder. Stick your mind in something else for a while, movies, books, daydreams, whatever takes you out of your head, and keep it there as long as you need to. You're in a very trying place right now...

Music, hot shower, glass of wine, cuddle the cats, read a book, watch a movie, sketch, cook something, clean the house, exercise, hot bath, in the summer I can go out for a walk that sometimes becomes more of a jog (but not long, my knees no happy), move furniture, reorganize bookshelves, look...

Ditto-I shoo people out of my kitchen when I cook...because it's definitely *MY* kitchen when something's being made. :P Also the being able to make something delicious and share it and have people enjoy it fills a sense of accomplishment as well as being an ego boost when folks remark about...

I feel you. I have had to come to the realization that my mother (who still gaslights me) may be actually mentally ill, and has been, and very badly so, for as long as I have been alive, but society looked down on getting help so she never did and it just got worse every year. My father-while he...