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Grab a book or a movie. It's much better way to disappear out of life when things get rough than almost any other means. Mind vacations via media can be a god send. Take care of yourself hon.

I learned how to step back and check to see if what I'm feeling is really accurate or overblown because of my illness. Granted it only works in milder situations, but it does help. A therapist taught me. I also read, write, draw, play games and other things that allow me to express my emotions...

I don't think it is a fallacy at all. Granted I'm a sufferer so YMMV. I can and do separate myself professionally/academically and personally. I may utterly dislike someone I work with because they're a (example only) slob with no concept of personal space, but I respect them professionally...

When I talk about tyhings like terminology or academic matters I don't get upset about them. In a case like this one, when I look at it from a personal point of view, it's nothing about the word and everything about the people who say: "I couldn't successfully kill myself." It's being upset...

When you're not sure if you're enraged or depressed, about pretty much anything-up to and including the colour of the walls in your bedroom. *sigh*

What she said. It's all about learning how to live a normal life in spite of it. Given how much many of us hate it, spiting it sounds like a good idea. :P

Just because we have independant parts of ourselves doesn't mean DID. That's fine. Some of us have very different parts of ourselves and things that happen that we can't deal with. No reason for an oven, unless you're making pot roast. Then I might come over and visit. Honestly hon, it's...

I feel you. Terrified of the new class mates, terrified if the prof is going to automatically despise me for some reason I can't fix, worried I'll make an idiot of myself, whether I'll be able to make it through... I'm a big bundle of nerves. It's usual for folks like us. It's okay as long as...

People who just don't care who they hurt as long as they get what they want. Every damned day.

It is true that the human mind is impacted by the impacts of our society and history. However, the statistics on human males versus females is more based upon breeding selection than anything. You'll find a wide disparity in body types throughout history and cultures. Women are typically made...

That however, is a difference-with my proposal, it means that attempted suicide (as it's not called) becomes *less* negative, so survivors feel less shame. You can talk about initiating, without feeling like you failed at it-made an attempt and did not succeed. Talking about a suicide death as...

It must be very nice. My congratulations to you in that you can feel safe. It doesn't give me an answer, but grats to you.

There is a significant difference between someone mourning the loss of income and someone mourning the loss of their relationship with their spouse or children, the impending mortgage payment they cannot make on an excessively large house, the potential of their children screaming at them, their...

If in moderation, it makes me somewhat happier. At least less locked into negativity. I have (thankfully) only had one case of sobbing with alcohol-and there was good reason (some of my traumas are not from my childhood, but came after). I, too, am grateful I'm not a mouse, for a little bit of...

I can see where they'd be more difficult because they're complex to treat. It's easier to pinpoint when it's something severely physically traumatic. I'll use myself as an example so as not to minimize anyone else's specific issues: It is much easier to pinpoint my traumas at being kicked down...

Domestic abuse isn't gender based. I've had to stand up against women who abused or assaulted men before-it helps that that kind of thing incenses me. Abuse is one of my triggers and I get disproportionately angry when I see it. So, not so much help as it stops the abuse from happening-good for...

How do you convince yourself it's (the trauma) not going to happen again?

It's a long hard journey, but it's worth it. I'm still far from "normal", and maybe I'll never be that sort, and that's okay too. Maybe I'll never go mall walking and extol the virtues of particular upholstery options and the who's who on magazine covers at checkouts. That's perfectly ok. I'm...

Social class most definitely has something to do with it. Those in lower social standing have less access to help, healthcare and methods to increase their situation (be that career options, education, whathaveyou). If you ask anyone who is a professional in the field and knows their population...

It had gotten better and will continue to. Every day any of us are in therapy or making an effort, it gets slowly closer to being able to live the life we wish. Just gotta put in the miles. It's hard, but worth it :)

Ditto, I respect everyone's beliefs as long as they're not trying to force their beliefs on anyone else. Which is why I have an issue with people trying to forbid people from marrying who they love, dictating who they can love and how they can. Believe whatever you like, but when you start...

Depression as a temporary is not colloquial. A person can be verifiably and clinically depressed for a short period. That does not mean they have a depressive disorder. Intermittent depression is more common than a depressive disorder and people even get treated for it. You didn't specify what...

Hon, I've been working on my stuff for years, and I'm still having occasional days where I can barely operate. Three months sounds like paradise. ;) I'm just advocating care. Getting slapped upside the head with something unexpected can be worse than if we're already aware (if only mildly) of...

If money is an issue, I'd suggest looking into soups and making your own broths. They're appetite suppressants, they're a warm drink (great for cold weather) and you can season them however you like. All you need is a pot, water and leftovers. I made some turkey bone broth out of our leftover...