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@Jess Give yourself credit...find a mirror and give yourself the biggest hug evahh. Keep rising above your abusers. Keep moving in the right direction. You're young.....find your cause and make a difference in the world!

@Pencil It takes a very strong sense of self to rise above dysfunctional dynamics. In my family they consistently taught me what not to be. About the only perk of being the family scapegoat. A good one nonetheless. :)

I grew up in a volatile environment. Fresh hell everyday. I found understanding their behavior most helpful. I have the sense of humor to prove it! LOL Hence,their mental and physical impact on me is ZERO. Ohh..They physically abused me. I had to endure many injustices. Make no mistake...they...

You have stated your mother is old. Chances are great she will never give you what you want or need. She never has why would she start now? She sounds like a lost cause. Your healing is about you. You only. You are a human being ..you can express your feelings to your mother. Her reaction is...

Yay! That is how it works Surfergirl. For whatever reason or lack of and depending on who or what you believe in...God,the universe,Mother nature placed me in my dysfunctional family. I have learned most people are naïve to basic human nature. I was a young child who understood more than...

Therapy is an emotional journey... Love requires an enormous amount of trust. Sounds like she is a runner. And/or she needs her comfort zone to successfully focus on therapy. Good luck!

Seriously..You should really rethink who..whom is doing the bitching and or whining. I can clearly see my positivity concerning PTS upsets the general mood in this forum. I'm not a gloom and doom despair type of woman. I see no reason to be anyone other than me. If that offends you. That's...

Nothing passive aggressive about me. I sincerely hope my abusers are banging their heads against a wall. What's wrong with that??

I work full time. Always have always will. Nobody takes care of me except me. A lifelong hard core rule that will never change. :)

Happy weekend everyone!!!!:joyful::joyful:

Wow. On a different note. A thread just got locked because I said abusers should have panic attacks and bang their heads against a wall. It's Mother nature doing her job! There's a difference between trauma victims and abusers. Trauma survivors move forward in life while their abusers will...

And we expect they should have panic attacks and hit their heads against a wall. LOL

I can respect your opinion. Your mother wasn't the direct source of your abuse. For many here our mothers were the direct cause.

Muziklur brought up an excellent point. Respect. Why would I or anyone else respect our abusers? Wanting our abusers to acknowledge their abuse is considered punishment? I think not! I respect myself to much to allow the weak minded to continue their cycle of abuse. Period. Yes our abusers were...

It's only a burden if you carry the anger. My family can keep that too. LOL I'm currently processing flashbacks as well. I'm using humor as a coping mech until I master mindfulness and finish with EMDR.

The first 15yrs of my life wasn't my choice nor option. The rest of my life is. No contact forever.:) You have to decide what's best for you. You and you only.

It's not your burden to carry therisa. It's about acceptance. You have to accept the reality they are sick individuals incapable of change.

That's an option?!?

Just has a great session with T. She says I'm not ready for EMDR just yet. Boo. ;) It's been about a year since my last flood of memories surfaced. I dealt with it on my own until I could get into my therapist office around June/July. Dear God. It's like a monster tsunami wave! LOL This is going...

I went no contact years ago. One of the best decision I ever made! May I ask why do you need or want her in your life?

@novemberDark..I can't answer your questions. You can try "forum help" to ask the staff.

Just be you. Nothing more nothing less.

Welcome. Chin up! :)

It feels like the great thaw of 2014. The journey will be worth it! More than worth it. Better than worth it. :joyful:

Thank you Macca. Truly beautiful! Thank you for sharing. :joyful: